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Dec 5, 2017 0

Dating Advice Video: Can I Change a Man?

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On this week’s Single in Stilettos dating advice video, founder and relationship expert Suzanne Oshima talks to relationship expert Iris Benrubi about whether or not you can change a man. “They all come in to change each other,” she says of her clients. “Women especially think they can change their man.”

Relationship Expert Iris Benrubi Shares Her Best Dating Advice

1. You’re not his mother: You don’t want to be in a relationship where you’re the mommy and he’s the child. You have to accept him for the way he is. “You don’t get to shape him. You don’t have a say in whether he measures up or not,” Benrubi explains.

Related Link: Dating Advice Video: How to Find Love

2. Any change that he makes for you isn’t sustainable: One of the top two mistakes that women make is falling in love with a man’s potential. “If only he would…” If he starts communicating more because you want him to, not because it’s part of who he is, it’s never going to last. “Have you ever tried to get fit or go on a diet for somebody else?” the relationship expert asks. “It doesn’t last that long because the motivation isn’t in there.” If a man wants to change something about himself, great. Otherwise, accept him where he’s at, or move forward if he can’t be what you need.

3. Be clear about what you want: If a guy who dresses nice is important to you, then make that known. If not, let it go. “You have to decide what you’re looking for,” Benrubi says. “Are you looking for the external? Or are you looking for the internal — a guy who loves you and accepts you the way you are?”

Related Link: Expert Dating Advice: 3 Tips to Turn Around Your Dating Life

So if you can’t change a man, can you inspire him to want to change? Start by telling him how you’re feeling — that helps him be receptive to your request. Then, share what you need from him in a way that’s respectful. Finish by explaining what this change would do for you. “A good man ultimately wants to make you happy,” Benrubi shares.

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Nov 28, 2017 0

Dating Advice: Be a Fantastic Date for Anyone!

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On this week’s Single in Stilettos dating advice video, founder and relationship expert Suzanne Oshima talks to relationship author Wendy Newman to discuss how to be a fantastic date for anyone and offer their best expert dating advice. Newman shares three ways to present your best self on a date — so listen up!

Relationship Author Wendy Newman Shares Expert Dating Advice

1. Act as if you already know him and be energetic: Start the conversation as you would with a best friend and simply ask him how his week has been or how he’s doing. “It shows that you’re interested in him as a whole person instead of the checklist items you have that you want to check off,” Newman explains. “And it has the conversation start so organically that it can go anywhere.” Oftentimes, if you zip your lips and just listen, he’ll open up quickly and let you get to know him right off the bat. Of being energetic, Oshima adds, “Enthusiasm attracts people — it brings them in.”

Related Link: Expert Dating Advice: The Biggest Dating Pitfalls

2. Focus on broad questions: Avoid interview questions: Don’t ask him how many people he manages or how long he’s worked somewhere. Instead, ask questions like, “What do you love about your life?” or “What’s coming up that you’re really looking forward to?” “Ask really broad questions where he can go shallow or he can go deep,” the relationship author says. “And if the answer is ‘nothing’ to all of those questions, that’s really important information for you to have.”

Related Link: Dating Advice Video: Don’t Be a Rules Girl!

3. Give him 30 seconds of silence: Be willing to be engaged in the conversation, but after he’s done talking, give him a little bit of time to see if he has anything else to add. “This is completely counterintuitive to women,” the relationship author shares. “Women are squirming in their seats after five seconds, but men’s brains are designed differently than our’s.” If you want him to say more, you have to give him a chance.

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Nov 21, 2017 0

Dating Advice Video: The Questions You Should Be Asking Him

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On this week’s Single in Stilettos dating advice video, founder and relationship expert Suzanne Oshima talks to relationship author Tinzley Bradford to discuss the questions you should be asking him and offer their best relationship advice. Here, Bradford shares the top three questions that women should ask on early dates to weed out the men who aren’t worth their time.

Relationship Author Gives Dating Advice


1. Are you looking for a long-term relationship? “That is a question that you have to ask,” Bradford says. There’s no use in wasting your time with someone who tells you up front that they just want to have some fun or date casually. If you know you’re looking for something long-term, then you should be dating someone who’s looking for the same thing. Unfortunately, a lot of men get scared by this question, so it’s helpful to start with a disclosure statement: “I don’t want to scare you or make you think I’m jumping too far ahead, but I’d love to know if you’re looking for a long-term relationship.”

Related Link: Dating Advice Video: 5 Biggest Turn-Ons for a Man

2. Why are you interested in me? This question, which you should ask after several dates, will help you figure out if he’s interested in the way you look or if he’s truly interested in who you are. For it to last, it has to be more than just your physical attributes.

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3. Are you single? You have to know! “Don’t wait for him to say, ‘Oh, I thought you knew when you saw the ring,'” the relationship author shares. “If he’s asking you questions that lead you to believe you won’t be exclusive with him, I’d be very skeptical.” Oshima adds, “I think women would actually be surprised at how many men are married or in a relationship already.”

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Nov 14, 2017 0

Dating Advice Video: Stop Attracting Emotionally Unavailable Men

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On this week’s Single in Stilettos dating advice video, founder and relationship expert Suzanne Oshima talks to dating coach Jaki Sabourin about how to stop attracting emotionally unavailable men. Don’t miss their expert dating advice!

Jaki Sabourin Shares Expert Dating Advice

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1. Stop yourself from being emotionally unavailable: As Sabourin explains, according to the Law of Attraction, like attracts like — so if you show signs of being emotionally unavailable, you’ll attract a partner with similar qualities. Instead, start creating a sense of emotional availability when interacting with men. For instance, if you go out with a guy who’s angry, don’t withdraw from him. Show compassion and try to get him to open up by asking him questions.

2. Get past your own insecurities and take bigger risks: Ask him sensitive questions that will encourage him to open up to you. Oftentimes, the cause of a man’s emotional unavailability is his own past and pain. Begin by asking him questions like, “What have you gone through?” and “Is there something that’s holding you back from finding love?”

Related Link: Expert Dating Advice: How to Get Men to Fall into Your Lap

3. Get over your fear of rejection: When we’re afraid of getting hurt, it’s easy to withdraw and disconnect ourselves from our partners. By talking to your partner with care and gentleness, you’ll help him realize that he’s truly missing out on love by putting up such a strong defense. Remember that there is no perfect man or woman. Relationships are all about relating to each other in ways that strengthen your connection.

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Nov 7, 2017 0

Expert Dating Advice: Beware of These Kinds of Relationships

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On this week’s Single in Stilettos dating advice video, founder and relationship expert Suzanne Oshima talks to dating coach Cyndi Olin about what types of relationships to beware of. Plus, they share their best expert dating advice for how to handle them.

Cyndi Olin Shares Expert Dating Advice

1. The “fast and furious” relationship: In this type of relationship, you have chemistry immediately and quickly go from one date to spending all of your time together. This guy moves from “zero to sixty.” As Olin explains, “What is common in these types of relationships is…the men who have them are inadvertently  chemically attracted to women who are really wanting to feel loved.” While it may seem like a fairy tale at first, after six weeks to three months, the man unexpectedly puts the brakes on. He may disappear completely; he may stop calling you; he may tell you he’s not ready for a relationship.

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But why does he do it? “It starts to become real and isn’t just a fantasy anymore,” Olin shares. “In the beginning, he’s in a drunken haze — he’s enjoying his time with you, but it’s not based on reality.” The relationship never had an opportunity to build the strong foundation that it needed to last.

So ladies, it’s up to you to control the pace of the relationship. “It’s not a race to the finish line,” Oshima adds. Don’t let the fear of losing him keep you from slowing things down. Always make sure you’re comfortable with the pace of your relationship, and remember that taking it slow allows him to truly get to know you.

2. A relationship with a narcissistic, psychopathic man: It’s no surprise that this type of relationship can be very dangerous. These men can be very charming and alluring, but everything is always about them. “They will do all of the work until they get you hooked. They can be very patient with the right women,” Olin says. Women become so attached to these men that they find themselves going back to them even though they know they’re not good for them.

Related Link: Expert Dating Advice: 3 Ways to Be Irresistible to a Man

Eventually, he will start to criticize you. Nothing is ever good enough, and you’ll find yourself feeling confined, almost as if you’re in a box. “Oftentimes, women will try to prove themselves in the relationship and start giving more than he is. The balance of the relationship becomes off,” the dating coach explains. “The woman becomes unhappy, and he becomes more powerful and power-hungry.”

Can either of these relationships ever work? For the first type of relationship, the answer is yes. As a woman, you can control the pace of the relationship, building a strong foundation of lasting love. For the second type of relationship, it depends on the man and just how narcissistic or psychopathic he is. If he wants to break his habits and truly find love, it is possible to have a happy partnership. It’s important to remember that, for any relationship, a man has to be willing to work on himself.

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Oct 24, 2017 0

Dating Advice Video: How to Find Love

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On this week’s Single in Stilettos dating advice video, founder and relationship expert Suzanne Oshima talks to relationship expert Iris Benrubi about her top three tips to help you find love.

Relationship Expert Iris Benrubi Shares Her Tips for Finding Love

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1. Know your own worth: This tip is especially important for women going through a break-up or divorce, as feelings of resignation and desperation can cloud your perception of yourself. “When we own our value, we start to get clear on what it is that we’re looking for, and then, we become the chooser,” Benrubi explains. “And that gives us a lot of power.” It’s also important to build your self-confidence back up before you start dating again.

2. Trust yourself: Increase your ability to trust yourself by connecting with your intuition. “Our head can really play tricks on us,” the relationship expert says. But our intuition lives in our body, so dig deep and think about how certain things make you feel. Each person will have their own ways of understanding their intuition and how their body responds to a yes and a no. For instance, to get clear on your no’s, think about a recent ex and how he or she makes your body feel. Always remember that your intuition can’t point you in the wrong direction.

Related Link: Expert Dating Advice: 3 Tips to Turn Around Your Dating Life

3. Recognize when a man is emotionally unavailable: There are certain behaviors to look out for: He doesn’t follow-up or communicate between dates; he’s dismissive; he’s not interested in learning more about you. Don’t ignore these red flags! Instead, address them with him; doing so will help you determine if he’s truly capable of fulfilling your needs in a relationship. “Watch a man’s actions; don’t listen to his words,” Oshima adds.

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Sep 26, 2017 0

Dating Advice Video: 5 Biggest Turn-Ons for a Man

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On this week’s Single in Stilettos dating advice video, founder and relationship expert Suzanne Oshima talks to relationship author Tinzley Bradford to discuss the five biggest turn-ons for men and offer their best relationship advice. Bradford shares five tips for how to attract men and reveals once and for all what turns a man on.
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Sep 19, 2017 0

Dating Advice Video: 5 Ways Women Sabotage Themselves with Men

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On this week’s Single in Stilettos dating advice video, founder and relationship expert Suzanne Oshima talks to relationship author Robert Manni to discuss how women sabotage themselves with men and offer their best relationship advice. Here are five ways that women sabotage themselves when looking for love.

Relationship Author Gives Dating Advice


1. You’re not in it to win it: You may say you want to find love, but instead of going out to a new spot where you can actually meet someone, you find yourself in a routine of dinner at home and TV time. “You have to put yourself out there. You have to be willing to fail to be able to succeed,” Manni explains.

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2. You’re always plugged in: Put your phone down! If you’re walking around New York City with your earbuds in and music blaring, you’re presenting yourself as closed off and unavailable. It’s hard for a guy to ask an open-ended question or chat you up when you’re walled off through technology. Oshima adds, “Those are barriers to meeting someone organically.”

3. You’re not fishing where the fish are: “Go where the guys are!” the relationship author says. You can find guys are at sporting events, at the football field, at a tech store, at a whiskey tasting, or at the gym. Think about your brother and his friends — where do they often go?

4. You’re always with a group of girlfriends: It’s no secret that a pack of women can be overwhelming! Guys are wondering how to handle the group dynamics and just focus on the woman they’re truly interested in. Instead, make it easier for them and single yourself out.

Related Link: Dating Advice: 5 Signs He’s Taking the Relationship Seriously

5. You’re too attached to your list: This is one of the most important ways that women sabotage themselves. “If you stick too closely to your list, you’re going to narrow down your opportunities,” Manni explains. “And the longer you’re single, the longer your list grows.” Make sure your list only includes a few core qualities that are value-oriented and be flexible about your physical type.

A bonus way that women sabotage themselves with men: You throw someone back in the dating pool too quickly. One bad coffee date does not mean the relationship is doomed! “Love grows if you keep an open heart,” the relationship author says. “It can turn into something spectacular if you give love a chance.”

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Sep 12, 2017 0

Expert Dating Advice: Flirting for Fun

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On this week’s episode of Single in Stilettos, founder and matchmaker Suzanne Oshima talks to relationship expert PJ Dixon to offer their best dating advice on flirting for fun. Find out how you can flirt as a women over 40 with the two dating tips below!
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Aug 29, 2017 0

Dating Advice: Times Women Say ‘Yes,’ But Shouldn’t

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On this week’s episode of Single in Stilettos, founder and matchmaker Suzanne Oshima talks to relationship expert Duana Welch to offer their best dating advice on how to stand firm on your beliefs. Find out how you can say no to things you don’t want without losing his affection with the following dating tips!

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Aug 22, 2017 0

Dating Advice: What to Do When He Says, ‘I’m Not in Love With You!

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On this week’s episode of Single in Stilettos, founder and matchmaker Suzanne Oshima talks to relationship expert Jed Diamond to offer their best dating advice on how to cope without his love. Find out how you can tell him without losing his affection with the following dating tips!

Dating advice that will help you deal with rejection.

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Aug 15, 2017 0

Dating Advice: How to Tell Him You’re Not Ready to Have Sex?

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On this week’s episode of Single in Stilettos, founder and matchmaker Suzanne Oshima talks to relationship expert Tinzley Bradford to offer their best dating advice on telling a man you’re not ready for sex. Find out how you can tell him without losing his affection with the following dating tips!

Dating advice that will help you say no means no!

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Aug 8, 2017 0

Dating Advice: 4 Ways To Make Your Man Happy!

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On this week’s episode of Single in Stilettos, founder and matchmaker Suzanne Oshima talks to relationship expert Robert Manni to offer their best dating advice on ensuring your man’s happiness. Find out how you can have an amazing relationship with the following dating tips!

Dating advice that will help you keep your man happy.

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Aug 1, 2017 0

Dating Advice: Maximize Your Online Profile to Attract the Right Man

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On this week’s episode of Single in Stilettos, founder and matchmaker Suzanne Oshima talks to relationship expert PJ Dixon to offer their best dating advice on creating an eye-catching online profile that will attract any man on the dating scene. Find out how you can adjust your single status with the following dating tips!

Dating advice on maximizing your online profile to find a man.

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Jul 25, 2017 0

Dating Advice: Dealing With a Dating Burnout

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On this week’s episode of Single in Stilettos, founder and matchmaker Suzanne Oshima talks to relationship expert Duana Welch to offer their best dating advice on getting through a romantic burnout in the dating scene. Find out how you can fix your single status with the following dating tips!

Dating advice on dealing with a romantic dry spell.

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Jul 18, 2017 0

Dating Advice: The 5 Stages of Love and Why Many Stop at Stage 3

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On this week’s episode of Single in Stilettos, founder and matchmaker Suzanne Oshima talks to relationship expert Dr. Jed Diamond to offer their best dating advice on how to navigate through the stages of love. Find out how you can reach marriage without losing the spark with the following dating tips!

Dating advice on the stages of love!

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Jul 11, 2017 0

Dating Advice: Signs You’re Settling for the Wrong Man

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On this week’s episode of Single in Stilettos, founder and matchmaker Suzanne Oshima talks to relationship expert Tinzley Bradford to offer their best dating advice on how to have a successful relationship without settling. Find out the best way to avoid wasting your time with the following dating tips!

Dating Advice That Will Help You Avoid Settling

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Jul 4, 2017 0

Dating Advice: 5 Signs He’s Taking the Relationship Seriously

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On this week’s episode of Single in Stilettos, founder and matchmaker Suzanne Oshima talks to relationship expert Robert Manni to offer their best dating advice on how you can tell whether a man is taking the relationship seriously. Find out the best way you can advance your relationship with the following dating tips!

Dating Advice That Will Help You Figure Out Whether He’s Taking You Seriously

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Jun 27, 2017 0

Dating Advice: How Women In Their 30s Can Find Love

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On this week’s episode of Single in Stilettos, founder and matchmaker Suzanne Oshima talks to relationship expert Melissa Braverman to offer their best dating advice on attracting men while in your 30s. Learn how you can end your single status and find the right man for you (without settling) with the following dating tips!

Dating Advice That Will Help You Find Love In Your 30s

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Jun 20, 2017 0

Dating Advice: 5 Things Men Find Beautiful in a Woman

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On this week’s episode of Single in Stilettos, founder and matchmaker Suzanne Oshima talks to relationship expert PJ Dixon to offer their dating advice on what men find beautiful in women. Learn how you can attract the right man with the following dating tips!

Dating Advice On How To Be Perceived As Beautiful By Men

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Jun 13, 2017 0

Dating Advice: Don’t Lose Weight to Find Love!

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On this week’s episode of Single in Stilettos, founder and matchmaker Suzanne Oshima talks to relationship expert Duana Welch to offer their dating advice on why you shouldn’t lose weight to find love. Learn how you can be confident and find a partner with the following dating tips!

Dating Advice On Handling Weight And Relationships

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May 30, 2017 0

Dating Advice: 5 Signs He’s Falling for You!

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On this week’s episode of Single in Stilettos, founder and matchmaker Suzanne Oshima talks to relationship expert Tinzley Bradford to offer their dating advice on how to figure out if he’s fallen for you. Discover how you’ve become irresistible to your man with the following dating tips!

Dating Advice That Will Help You Find Out If Your Guy Has Fallen In Love

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Jun 6, 2017 0

Dating Advice: The One Thing Men Want More Than Sex!

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On this week’s episode of Single in Stilettos, founder and matchmaker Suzanne Oshima talks to relationship expert Jed Diamond to offer their dating advice on how to figure out what men want in a relationship more than sex. Learn how you can attract and satisfy a lifelong partner with the following dating tips!

Dating Advice That Will Reveal What Men Really Want

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May 23, 2017 0

Dating Advice: What You Don’t Know About Men!

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On this week’s episode of Single in Stilettos, founder and matchmaker Suzanne Oshima talks to relationship expert Robert Manni to offer their dating advice on how to figure out what men do and don’t want in a partner. Learn how you can attract a lifelong partner with the following dating tips!

Dating Advice That Will Reveal Male Secrets

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