Cupid's Pulse Article: Dating Advice: Why Do I Attract Men I Don’t Want…And Repel Men I Desire?Cupid's Pulse Article: Dating Advice: Why Do I Attract Men I Don’t Want…And Repel Men I Desire?

By Gillian Lee

In this week’s Single in Stilettos dating advice video, founder and relationship expert Suzanne Oshima talks to Duana Welch. Watch the video above and read the article below for some good tips in your dating life!

Why Are We Repelling Men We Desire?

1. Not right for each other: Us women need to remind ourselves that just because you think you’re attracting the wrong ones, doesn’t mean you are doing the dating game wrong. Welch brings up the dating app, Bumble and explains that men loves this app because it shows that women show that they’re sexually interested.

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2. Showing you are available: This one might sound strange that you’re showing that you’re available. But, Welch states, “When women pursue them, what they hear is that I am sexually available to you and please don’t make a commitment to me because I am sexually available to everyone.” People tend to send the wrong signals when trying to pursue someone, and this often leads to repelling people you desire.

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3. Send proper signals: On dating sites, make sure to have the guy reach out first. Have a presence on the site, and show that you are single, but let him do the talking! Welch states, “Men are anywhere between 6-10x more likely to reach out for that first contact than women are.”

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