Cupid's Pulse Article: Dating Advice: Fearless Flirting FormulaCupid's Pulse Article: Dating Advice: Fearless Flirting Formula

By Rachel Sparks

In this week’s Single in Stilettos dating advice video, founder and relationship expert Suzanne Oshima talks to sensuality coach Patty Contenta about how to master flirting! Watch the video above and read the article below for some feel-good tips to improve your dating life!

Dating Advice to Help You Flirt Fearlessly!

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1. Chemistry through charisma: Successful flirting is all about creating chemistry between you and someone else. A lot of times, flirting is intimidating because it may encourage unwanted sexual attention. “We all want to be respected for our minds and not our bodies,” Contenta admits. Charisma, or the ability to verbally connect with someone, is a fun way to boost both your confidence and that of the person on the receiving end.

The foundation of charisma is ACES. A: appreciation, C: commonalities, E: elevation, S: self-expression. When you appreciate a specific detail about someone, you show that you both pay attention and admire a trait about them. Sharing something in common is the foundation of any relationship, friendly or romantic. To be able to elevate the mood means that people will naturally want to be around you, so break out your sense of humor or share what you love about the present moment. And always, be yourself. When you bring your true self to a conversation and express your quirks, people are more likely to find you charming.

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2. Chemistry through sensuality: Embrace your feminine energy ladies! If you feel connected with someone on an intellectual level, take it up a notch with your body language. Sensuality is physical expression, but it doesn’t have to be risqué or involve touching. How you sit or lean into a conversation can show the other person you’re interested and they will subconsciously lean in as well. Touching yourself, such as your hair, arms, or neck, opens up a new playing field for your person of interest. “Women need to take responsibility,” Contenta says. She mentions the #MeToo movement and says, “Men are becoming more careful about flirting and touching. Give him permission!”

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