On this week’s Single in Stilettos dating advice video, founder and relationship expert Suzanne Oshima talks to dating coach Jaki Sabourin about how to stop attracting emotionally unavailable men. Don’t miss their expert dating advice!
1. Stop yourself from being emotionally unavailable:Â As Sabourin explains, according to the Law of Attraction, like attracts like — so if you show signs of being emotionally unavailable, you’ll attract a partner with similar qualities. Instead, start creating a sense of emotional availability when interacting with men. For instance, if you go out with a guy who’s angry, don’t withdraw from him. Show compassion and try to get him to open up by asking him questions.
2. Get past your own insecurities and take bigger risks:Â Ask him sensitive questions that will encourage him to open up to you. Oftentimes, the cause of a man’s emotional unavailability is his own past and pain. Begin by asking him questions like, “What have you gone through?” and “Is there something that’s holding you back from finding love?”
3. Get over your fear of rejection:Â When we’re afraid of getting hurt, it’s easy to withdraw and disconnect ourselves from our partners. By talking to your partner with care and gentleness, you’ll help him realize that he’s truly missing out on love by putting up such a strong defense. Remember that there is no perfect man or woman. Relationships are all about relating to each other in ways that strengthen your connection.
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On this week’s Single in Stilettos dating advice video, founder and relationship expert Suzanne Oshima talks to dating coach Cyndi Olin about what types of relationships to beware of. Plus, they share their best expert dating advice for how to handle them.
Cyndi Olin Shares Expert Dating Advice
1. The “fast and furious” relationship: In this type of relationship, you have chemistry immediately and quickly go from one date to spending all of your time together. This guy moves from “zero to sixty.” As Olin explains, “What is common in these types of relationships is…the men who have them are inadvertently  chemically attracted to women who are really wanting to feel loved.” While it may seem like a fairy tale at first, after six weeks to three months, the man unexpectedly puts the brakes on. He may disappear completely; he may stop calling you; he may tell you he’s not ready for a relationship.
But why does he do it? “It starts to become real and isn’t just a fantasy anymore,” Olin shares. “In the beginning, he’s in a drunken haze — he’s enjoying his time with you, but it’s not based on reality.” The relationship never had an opportunity to build the strong foundation that it needed to last.
So ladies, it’s up to you to control the pace of the relationship. “It’s not a race to the finish line,” Oshima adds. Don’t let the fear of losing him keep you from slowing things down. Always make sure you’re comfortable with the pace of your relationship, and remember that taking it slow allows him to truly get to know you.
2. A relationship with a narcissistic, psychopathic man: It’s no surprise that this type of relationship can be very dangerous. These men can be very charming and alluring, but everything is always about them. “They will do all of the work until they get you hooked. They can be very patient with the right women,” Olin says. Women become so attached to these men that they find themselves going back to them even though they know they’re not good for them.
Eventually, he will start to criticize you. Nothing is ever good enough, and you’ll find yourself feeling confined, almost as if you’re in a box. “Oftentimes, women will try to prove themselves in the relationship and start giving more than he is. The balance of the relationship becomes off,” the dating coach explains. “The woman becomes unhappy, and he becomes more powerful and power-hungry.”
Can either of these relationships ever work? For the first type of relationship, the answer is yes. As a woman, you can control the pace of the relationship, building a strong foundation of lasting love. For the second type of relationship, it depends on the man and just how narcissistic or psychopathic he is. If he wants to break his habits and truly find love, it is possible to have a happy partnership. It’s important to remember that, for any relationship, a man has to be willing to work on himself.
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On this week’s Single in Stilettos dating advice video, founder and relationship expert Suzanne Oshima talks to relationship author Duana Welch about their best expert dating advice for women for moving a stagnant relationship to commitment. “You don’t get this question a lot from guys because they’re in the pursuer role,” Welch explains. So ladies, listen up!
Relationship Expert Duana Welch Shares Her Tips for Commitment
It’s not as simple as just asking him. It’s tempting to approach him directly with your concern, but Welch encourages you to avoid doing so. “Studies show that guys move you from the possible Mrs. Right category to the Mrs. Right Now category when you do that,” the relationship author warns. “They think you’re low status, that you don’t have any other options.” So how can you move your relationship forward?
1. Become slightly less available: This piece of dating advice doesn’t give you an excuse to be mean or ugly to him. Instead, if he calls and you’re in the middle of something, wait a day and then call him back. Be super friendly and warm and simply explain that you were busy. “Let him hear the smile in your voice,” Welch explains. “Men want to make you happy — they feel like crap when they make you unhappy. Pair being slightly less available with being really rewarding to be with when you’re present.”
2. Test commitment with jealousy: “This is really unpopular — boy, have I received some hate mail from men!” Welch shares. But creating jealousy can be a good thing. Among women who create jealous intentionally in a male partner, it’s usually because she didn’t know if he cared or how much he cared. For instance, by accepting a date with someone else, you can easily gauge how it makes a guy feel. “If you do that and he doesn’t care, then he doesn’t care. It’s a really accurate litmus test,” says the relationship author.
3. Avoid ultimatums: Both Oshima and Welch feel strongly that you should never give a man an ultimatum. “It will backfire on you. Even if he goes along with it, he’ll feel like he’s backed into a corner, and he’ll probably rebel later on,” Oshima explains. “It’s always better if he comes to a decision on his own.”
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Question from David T.: I’ve been with my girlfriend for a long time. We have a great relationship, but she often posts suggestive photos of herself on social media, and it makes me uncomfortable. How can I get her to keep that part of herself between us instead of for all the world to see?
Dating in the era of social media can be difficult. Parts of your relationship that were once private can now easily be shared online. So what do you do if one partner likes sharing racy photos but it makes the other person uncomfortable? Let our relationship experts help by offering their best dating advice for using technology the right way. Learn valuable dating tips from matchmaker Suzanne Oshima and relationship author Robert Manni. Here, they’ll answer your question on how to ask your significant other to keep personal parts of your relationship (like racy photos) private. Check out their dating advice below!
Dating Advice About Social Media & Racy Photos
Suzanne K. Oshima, Matchmaker: I can completely understand why it makes you feel uncomfortable that your girlfriend posts suggestive photos herself on social media, but I’m guessing that this is something she was doing well before you started dating her. While you can’t stop her from posting the racy photos, I recommend just being completely honest with her. Share your feelings with her and let her make her own decision about whether she wants to continue posting the photos. If she doesn’t want to risk losing you, I’ll bet she’ll tone it done a bit, but don’t expect her to completely stop posting those types of photos, especially on Halloween!
Robert Manni, Guy’s Guy: Millennials have little, if any, filters when it comes to posting to their social media pages. Whether they’re on Instagram showing their fitness routines and progress pictures or booty shaking on Snapchat, it’s all out there for the world to see. And for that reason, and if you and your lady share a clear understanding about your commitment to each other, I do not see this as a major issue. However, if you’re uncomfortable with her sharing too many racy photos, ask her why she does this. Is it driven by self-esteem, competitiveness, or narcissism? Or is she simply comfortable in her own skin and wants to celebrate her good looks while she’s young and beautiful? Tell her how you feel — because if you don’t the world will be watching her while you wait. Good luck.
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On this week’s Single in Stilettos dating advice video, founder and relationship expert Suzanne Oshima talks to relationship expert Iris Benrubi about her top three tips to help you find love.
Relationship Expert Iris Benrubi Shares Her Tips for Finding Love
1. Know your own worth: This tip is especially important for women going through a break-up or divorce, as feelings of resignation and desperation can cloud your perception of yourself. “When we own our value, we start to get clear on what it is that we’re looking for, and then, we become the chooser,” Benrubi explains. “And that gives us a lot of power.” It’s also important to build your self-confidence back up before you start dating again.
2. Trust yourself:Â Increase your ability to trust yourself by connecting with your intuition. “Our head can really play tricks on us,” the relationship expert says. But our intuition lives in our body, so dig deep and think about how certain things make you feel. Each person will have their own ways of understanding their intuition and how their body responds to a yes and a no. For instance, to get clear on your no’s, think about a recent ex and how he or she makes your body feel. Always remember that your intuition can’t point you in the wrong direction.
3. Recognize when a man is emotionally unavailable:Â There are certain behaviors to look out for: He doesn’t follow-up or communicate between dates; he’s dismissive; he’s not interested in learning more about you. Don’t ignore these red flags! Instead, address them with him; doing so will help you determine if he’s truly capable of fulfilling your needs in a relationship. “Watch a man’s actions; don’t listen to his words,” Oshima adds.
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On this week’s Single in Stilettos dating advice video, founder and relationship expert Suzanne Oshima talks to relationship author Wendy Newman to discuss the biggest dating pitfalls and offer their best expert dating advice. Newman shares the five dating pitfalls that women often fall into and how to avoid them.
Relationship Author Wendy Newman Shares Expert Dating Advice
1. Feeling obligated to please a man: Women often worry about hurting a man’s feelings or displeasing him, but it’s important to keep your own feelings in mind. For instance, say you meet a man on a blind date, and he lied about his age and appearance. Rather than accepting the lie and sitting through the date, reject him graciously. Explain that he lied and that you won’t be staying. As Oshima explains, “The one thing you can never get back is your time.”
2. Approaching a man with too much information: When dating, it’s tempting to lead with your end game: that you’ll make a wonderful, loving wife someday. But for a man, that’s too much, too soon. To start, he just wants to know whether or not you’ll be a good friend. “Instead, say, ‘This is who I am as an interesting person. Who are you?'” says the relationship author.
3. Dating only one person at a time: By limiting yourself to a pool of one, you’re comparing that relationship to being alone. “And that’s not good. It’ll have us miss important things about them or not ask questions and dig in,” Newman shares. Plus, dating multiple men at once gives you a better understanding of what you want from a relationship.
4. Dealing negatively with compatibility and chemistry:Â Chemistry is essential to a healthy, happy relationship, but it’s not enough. It’s easy to become distracted by a handsome face or a successful career, but don’t make excuses for him if he’s not the whole package.
5. Trying to be someone you’re not:Â According to Newman, this is the number one mistake. Don’t follow a set of rules or what you think you should do. Instead, figure out what works best for you as you’re building a relationship and stick with it.
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On this week’s Single in Stilettos dating advice video, founder and relationship expert Suzanne Oshima talks to relationship author Dr. Jed Diamond to discuss the five most terrifying words to a man and offer their best relationship advice. Women are constantly worried about saying that right thing to men, and here, Dr. Diamond teaches you what not to say.
On this week’s Single in Stilettos dating advice video, founder and relationship expert Suzanne Oshima talks to relationship author Tinzley Bradford to discuss the five biggest turn-ons for men and offer their best relationship advice. Bradford shares five tips for how to attract men and reveals once and for all what turns a man on. …Don’t miss the rest! Click here for more.
On this week’s Single in Stilettos dating advice video, founder and relationship expert Suzanne Oshima talks to relationship author Robert Manni to discuss how women sabotage themselves with men and offer their best relationship advice. Here are five ways that women sabotage themselves when looking for love.
Relationship Author Gives Dating Advice
1. You’re not in it to win it: You may say you want to find love, but instead of going out to a new spot where you can actually meet someone, you find yourself in a routine of dinner at home and TV time. “You have to put yourself out there. You have to be willing to fail to be able to succeed,” Manni explains.
2. You’re always plugged in: Put your phone down! If you’re walking around New York City with your earbuds in and music blaring, you’re presenting yourself as closed off and unavailable. It’s hard for a guy to ask an open-ended question or chat you up when you’re walled off through technology. Oshima adds, “Those are barriers to meeting someone organically.”
3. You’re not fishing where the fish are: “Go where the guys are!” the relationship author says. You can find guys are at sporting events, at the football field, at a tech store, at a whiskey tasting, or at the gym. Think about your brother and his friends — where do they often go?
4. You’re always with a group of girlfriends: It’s no secret that a pack of women can be overwhelming! Guys are wondering how to handle the group dynamics and just focus on the woman they’re truly interested in. Instead, make it easier for them and single yourself out.
5. You’re too attached to your list: This is one of the most important ways that women sabotage themselves. “If you stick too closely to your list, you’re going to narrow down your opportunities,” Manni explains. “And the longer you’re single, the longer your list grows.” Make sure your list only includes a few core qualities that are value-oriented and be flexible about your physical type.
A bonus way that women sabotage themselves with men: You throw someone back in the dating pool too quickly. One bad coffee date does not mean the relationship is doomed! “Love grows if you keep an open heart,” the relationship author says. “It can turn into something spectacular if you give love a chance.”
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On this week’s episode of Single in Stilettos, founder and matchmaker Suzanne Oshima talks to relationship expert PJ Dixon to offer their best dating advice on flirting for fun. Find out how you can flirt as a women over 40 with the two dating tips below! …Want to know more? Click here to continue!
Question from Adrianne P.: I started dating this guy a few weeks ago, and everything is going great, but there’s one thing that bothers me- he still uses Tinder. I know it’s early in the relationship and I don’t want to seem controlling but I’d still like him to stop. It just doesn’t seem like that’ll help us advance forward in this relationship. Am I being unreasonable?
Dating in the era of social media and cellphones can be difficult. Having many options is something daters expect in case things go wrong. With so many people playing the field it can be hard to find commitment. However do not fret, you can have a successful relationship even if your new partner is still on a dating website. Leave it up to our relationship experts who can offer their best dating advice on using technology the right way. Learn valuable dating tips from Cupid’s very own, matchmaker Suzanne Oshima and relationship expert Robert Manni. Here they’ll answer your questions on whether you should ask your significant other to get off Tinder.
Technology dating advice on whether it’s time to give up dating apps.
On this week’s episode of Single in Stilettos, founder and matchmaker Suzanne Oshima talks to relationship expert Duana Welch to offer their best dating advice on how to stand firm on your beliefs. Find out how you can say no to things you don’t want without losing his affection with the following dating tips!
Dating advice that will save you from making a mistake.
On this week’s episode of Single in Stilettos, founder and matchmaker Suzanne Oshima talks to relationship expert Jed Diamond to offer their best dating advice on how to cope without his love. Find out how you can tell him without losing his affection with the following dating tips!
Dating advice that will help you deal with rejection.
On this week’s episode of Single in Stilettos, founder and matchmaker Suzanne Oshima talks to relationship expert Tinzley Bradford to offer their best dating advice on telling a man you’re not ready for sex. Find out how you can tell him without losing his affection with the following dating tips!
On this week’s episode of Single in Stilettos, founder and matchmaker Suzanne Oshima talks to relationship expert Robert Manni to offer their best dating advice on ensuring your man’s happiness. Find out how you can have an amazing relationship with the following dating tips!
Dating advice that will help you keep your man happy.
On this week’s episode of Single in Stilettos, founder and matchmaker Suzanne Oshima talks to relationship expert PJ Dixon to offer their best dating advice on creating an eye-catching online profile that will attract any man on the dating scene. Find out how you can adjust your single status with the following dating tips!
Dating advice on maximizing your online profile to find a man.
On this week’s episode of Single in Stilettos, founder and matchmaker Suzanne Oshima talks to relationship expert Duana Welch to offer their best dating advice on getting through a romantic burnout in the dating scene. Find out how you can fix your single status with the following dating tips!
Dating advice on dealing with a romantic dry spell.
Question from Tanya M.: In light of all the Blac Chyna and Rob Kardashian drama, I wanted to ask on behalf of regular people: how bad is it to send nudes between consenting adults? It seems like it’s so common in the dating scene now. I’m just not sure what to think of about the whole thing.
Dating in the era of social media and cellphones can be difficult. Communication and instant gratification is what many daters expect when they start seeing someone, especially when it comes to exchanging nude photos. With so many people partaking in voyeur, you may wonder if you should do it too. However if you don’t want to, do not fret, you can have a successful relationship with or without nudes. Leave it up to our relationship experts who can offer their best dating advice on using technology the right way. Learn valuable dating tips from Cupid’s very own, matchmaker Suzanne Oshima and relationship expert Robert Manni. Here they’ll answer your questions on whether you should send nude photos or not.
Technology Dating Advice That Gets Honest About Sending Nudes
On this week’s episode of Single in Stilettos, founder and matchmaker Suzanne Oshima talks to relationship expert Dr. Jed Diamond to offer their best dating advice on how to navigate through the stages of love. Find out how you can reach marriage without losing the spark with the following dating tips!
On this week’s episode of Single in Stilettos, founder and matchmaker Suzanne Oshima talks to relationship expert Tinzley Bradford to offer their best dating advice on how to have a successful relationship without settling. Find out the best way to avoid wasting your time with the following dating tips!
On this week’s episode of Single in Stilettos, founder and matchmaker Suzanne Oshima talks to relationship expert Robert Manni to offer their best dating advice on how you can tell whether a man is taking the relationship seriously. Find out the best way you can advance your relationship with the following dating tips!
Dating Advice That Will Help You Figure Out Whether He’s Taking You Seriously
On this week’s episode of Single in Stilettos, founder and matchmaker Suzanne Oshima talks to relationship expert Melissa Braverman to offer their best dating advice on attracting men while in your 30s. Learn how you can end your single status and find the right man for you (without settling) with the following dating tips!
Dating Advice That Will Help You Find Love In Your 30s
On this week’s episode of Single in Stilettos, founder and matchmaker Suzanne Oshima talks to relationship expert PJ Dixon to offer their dating advice on what men find beautiful in women. Learn how you can attract the right man with the following dating tips!
Dating Advice On How To Be Perceived As Beautiful By Men
On this week’s episode of Single in Stilettos, founder and matchmaker Suzanne Oshima talks to relationship expert Duana Welch to offer their dating advice on why you shouldn’t lose weight to find love. Learn how you can be confident and find a partner with the following dating tips!
Dating Advice On Handling Weight And Relationships
