Cupid's Pulse Article: Dating Advice Video: 5 Biggest Turn-Ons for a ManCupid's Pulse Article: Dating Advice Video: 5 Biggest Turn-Ons for a Man

By Whitney Johnson

On this week’s Single in Stilettos dating advice video, founder and relationship expert Suzanne Oshima talks to relationship author Tinzley Bradford to discuss the five biggest turn-ons for men and offer their best relationship advice. Bradford shares five tips for how to attract men and reveals once and for all what turns a man on.

Relationship Author Gives Dating Advice

1. Be confident: No one will be surprised by this piece of dating advice: If you know your worth and are proud of who you are, men will notice you. They’ll be drawn to your positive energy. “I always say, confidence is so sexy in a man or a woman,” Oshima adds.

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2. Be independent: Some men may be intimidated by this quality, but the right man will be attracted to you because of it. “I think a man just loves a woman who has her own,” Bradford says. You don’t want to run someone away with your independence, but it’s important that you have your own life and own your own car, home, business — whatever matters to you.

3. Make an effort to look beautiful: “Men are always turned on by a woman who dresses good, smells good, and keeps herself looking good!” enthuses Bradford. Of course, you have days where you just don’t have the energy to make an effort with your appearance, but don’t get into a rut of wearing sweatpants and throwing your hair into a messy bun. Building off of the first two pieces of dating advice, there’s nothing more attractive than a woman who takes care of herself.

4. Be smart and witty: Bring some fresh ideas to the table! Wow a man with your knowledge and what you bring to the relationship. “He looks at it as an added bonus: Not only is she beautiful, confident, has her own, but she’s smart, and she’s bringing something new to the relationship,” Bradford explains.

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5. Be polite: It’s simple: Men like a friendly, approachable woman. Don’t scare someone away with a bad attitude! Instead, stand out in the crowd by being vibrant, positive, and polite. “Always say thank you!” Oshima adds. “When a man takes you out, say thank you. A lot of people forget those two little words.”

And a bonus tip: Give compliments.

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