Cupid's Pulse Article: Dating & Technology Q&A: How Do I Get My Girlfriend to Stop Posting Racy Photos?Cupid's Pulse Article: Dating & Technology Q&A: How Do I Get My Girlfriend to Stop Posting Racy Photos?

Question from David T.: I’ve been with my girlfriend for a long time. We have a great relationship, but she often posts suggestive photos of herself on social media, and it makes me uncomfortable. How can I get her to keep that part of herself between us instead of for all the world to see?

Dating in the era of social media can be difficult. Parts of your relationship that were once private can now easily be shared online. So what do you do if one partner likes sharing racy photos but it makes the other person uncomfortable? Let our relationship experts help by offering their best dating advice for using technology the right way. Learn valuable dating tips from matchmaker Suzanne Oshima and relationship author Robert Manni. Here, they’ll answer your question on how to ask your significant other to keep personal parts of your relationship (like racy photos) private. Check out their dating advice below!

Dating Advice About Social Media & Racy Photos

Suzanne K. Oshima, Matchmaker: I can completely understand why it makes you feel uncomfortable that your girlfriend posts suggestive photos herself on social media, but I’m guessing that this is something she was doing well before you started dating her. While you can’t stop her from posting the racy photos, I recommend just being completely honest with her. Share your feelings with her and let her make her own decision about whether she wants to continue posting the photos. If she doesn’t want to risk losing you, I’ll bet she’ll tone it done a bit, but don’t expect her to completely stop posting those types of photos, especially on Halloween!

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Robert Manni, Guy’s Guy: Millennials have little, if any, filters when it comes to posting to their social media pages. Whether they’re on Instagram showing their fitness routines and progress pictures or booty shaking on Snapchat, it’s all out there for the world to see. And for that reason, and if you and your lady share a clear understanding about your commitment to each other, I do not see this as a major issue. However, if you’re uncomfortable with her sharing too many racy photos, ask her why she does this. Is it driven by self-esteem, competitiveness, or narcissism? Or is she simply comfortable in her own skin and wants to celebrate her good looks while she’s young and beautiful? Tell her how you feel — because if you don’t the world will be watching her while you wait. Good luck.

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