Cupid's Pulse Article: Dating Advice Video: Stop Attracting Emotionally Unavailable MenCupid's Pulse Article: Dating Advice Video: Stop Attracting Emotionally Unavailable Men

By Whitney Johnson

On this week’s Single in Stilettos dating advice video, founder and relationship expert Suzanne Oshima talks to dating coach Jaki Sabourin about how to stop attracting emotionally unavailable men. Don’t miss their expert dating advice!

Jaki Sabourin Shares Expert Dating Advice

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1. Stop yourself from being emotionally unavailable: As Sabourin explains, according to the Law of Attraction, like attracts like — so if you show signs of being emotionally unavailable, you’ll attract a partner with similar qualities. Instead, start creating a sense of emotional availability when interacting with men. For instance, if you go out with a guy who’s angry, don’t withdraw from him. Show compassion and try to get him to open up by asking him questions.

2. Get past your own insecurities and take bigger risks: Ask him sensitive questions that will encourage him to open up to you. Oftentimes, the cause of a man’s emotional unavailability is his own past and pain. Begin by asking him questions like, “What have you gone through?” and “Is there something that’s holding you back from finding love?”

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3. Get over your fear of rejection: When we’re afraid of getting hurt, it’s easy to withdraw and disconnect ourselves from our partners. By talking to your partner with care and gentleness, you’ll help him realize that he’s truly missing out on love by putting up such a strong defense. Remember that there is no perfect man or woman. Relationships are all about relating to each other in ways that strengthen your connection.

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