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Feb 23, 2018 0

Love & Libations: Heat Up Your Relationship with a Date Night in the Kitchen

Posted In: Food, Relationship Experts, Yolanda Shoshana Articles
Cupid's Pulse Article: Love & Libations: Heat Up Your Relationship with a Date Night in the Kitchen
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by Yolanda Shoshana

Preparing a nice home-cooked meal on a date night with your partner is one of the sexiest things that you can do together. It’s also important to pair your food with the right spirit or wine. There are some celebrity chefs who have the perfect libations to add a sensual touch to your dinner table.

Ideas for Date Nights at Home

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Feb 20, 2018 0

Dating Advice Video: Stop Settling for Men Who Don’t Deserve You!

Posted In: Dating Advice Videos, Single in Stilettos Shows Articles, Videos


By Whitney Johnson

On this week’s Single in Stilettos dating advice video, founder and relationship expert Suzanne Oshima talks to relationship author Tinzley Bradford about how to stop settling for men who don’t deserve you. Here, Bradford shares three signs that you’re with the wrong man.

Relationship Author Reveals How to Stop Settling in Dating Advice Video


1. You’re unhappy: “If you’re constantly unhappy with how you’re being treated, you’re settling,” Bradford shares. “Love and a healthy relationship does not create confusion or make you feel unhappy, unstable, or even uncertain.” You should be in a relationship with someone who brings out the best in you and makes you feel good about yourself.

Related Link: Dating Advice Video: The Questions You Should Be Asking Him

2. Your relationship isn’t reciprocal: “It takes two to tango, baby!” Bradford exclaims. If you’re always giving but never getting enough back, you’re settling. You deserve a man who loves you just as much as you love him. “He’s got to be doing his part in your relationship,” the relationship author adds.

Related Link: Dating Advice: How to Fall in Love with Dating 

3. You feel guilty for being you: “If you’re in a relationship with a guy who’s competing against you, belittling your dreams, and not being excited about your success, you don’t need to be with that person” she shares. You should never be with someone who makes you feel guilty for wanting to shine.

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Feb 19, 2018 0

Dating Advice Q&A: Should I Remain Friends with My Ex Online?

Posted In: Relationship Experts, Suzanne Oshima, Paige Wyatt and Robert Manni Articles
Cupid's Pulse Article: Dating Advice Q&A: Should I Remain Friends with My Ex Online?
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Question from Sonya M.: Facebook is the official/unofficial way of announcing a relationship. Is it too vindictive to unfriend an ex, or is that the right move when you enter a new relationship?

Social media is a fun way to share your relationship with friends and family, but if that relationship ends, the waters can get a little murky. Let our relationship experts help by offering their best dating advice for using social media in the right way! Learn valuable dating tips from matchmaker Suzanne Oshima and relationship author Robert Manni. Here, they answer your question about whether or not you should unfriend your ex after a break-up. Check out their dating advice below!

Dating Advice for Unfriending Your Ex on Facebook

Suzanne K. Oshima, Matchmaker: When it comes to dating after a break-up or divorce, it’s important to know that removing all traces of your ex on social media isn’t about being vindictive — it’s about moving on.

This is the last step at the end of your relationship, so now is the time for some “spring cleaning.” Daily reminders of him won’t allow you to move forward with your love life, so remember the saying “out of sight, out of mind.” This will remove any temptation to cyber snoop or check in on what he’s doing and who he’s dating. All in all, if you continue to stay connected, then you’re holding on — and this can hold you back from moving forward into another relationship.

Related Link: Dating Advice Q&A: How Can You Tell Red Flags From Online Dating?

Robert Manni, Guy’s Guy: Even though people have become too reliant on social media as their main form of communication, announcing a new relationship on Facebook can feel great and be validating. It’s a nice way of putting something out there about yourself that you feel good about for the people you enjoying sharing with.

On the other hand, if you no longer have an offline connection with an ex and do not feel comfortable posting about your new relationship for them to see, it’s perfectly acceptable to unfriend them. However, if you remain on good terms and they’re cool, there is no harm in staying connected with an ex on Facebook.

There are no strict rules or protocol about this. Listen to your inner compass and do what feels best for you. Good luck.

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Feb 13, 2018 0

Dating Advice Video: How to Get Men to Pursue You Like Crazy

Posted In: Dating Advice Videos, Single in Stilettos Shows Articles, Videos

By Whitney Johnson

On this week’s Single in Stilettos dating advice video, founder and relationship expert Suzanne Oshima talks to relationship strategist and coach Cyndi Olin about three ways to get men to pursue you like crazy. Listen to their expert dating advice in the video above!

Relationship Experts Discuss How to Get Men to Pursue You in Dating Advice Video

1. Smile: With this piece of expert dating advice, Olin reminds us of the saying, “Your presence is a present.” Walk out the door, be present in your body, and smile — and you can attract men like crazy. Eye contact and compliments pair well with a smile. “That’s like a ‘come over’ signal,” she explains. “90 percent of the time, a man will approach you and at least start talking to you. It’s all about your energy.”

Related Link: Dating Advice Video: Beware of These Relationships

2. Engage with them: “There’s a lot of advice out there, including to let a man lead,” Olin shares. “While I believe that, men are confused when it comes to modern dating.” Men are often very careful as a way to ensure that they’re respecting you. Have a belief deep down in your soul that men are good people, and make an effort to get to know them. Remember: Your vibe attracts your tribe.

Related Link: Dating Advice Video: What Men Want You to Know

3. Let go: After you smile and engage with them, let them be the one to pursue you, to call you more. “You’re not pursuing. You’re a friendly receptor of light,” Olin says. “You want him to pursue you, and he’s looking for permission to do that.”

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Feb 5, 2018 0

Relationship Advice: How to Stay Confident in a Long-Term Relationship

Posted In: David Wygant Articles, Relationship Experts
Cupid's Pulse Article: Relationship Advice: How to Stay Confident in a Long-Term Relationship
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By David Wygant

In order to feel confident in a long-term relationship, you need to be in the right long-term relationship for you. If you’re not safe and you don’t feel like you’re being heard, then you’re in the wrong partnership. There’s no way in the world you will ever thrive in a relationship where you feel judged and evaluated at all times. For me — and I’ve been in many long-term relationships — the ones that I always felt most confident in were the relationships where I was actually seen for who I am. If a woman is trying to change you, if she’s trying to make you into someone you’re not, you’re never going to feel confident.

Long-Term Relationship Advice from Relationship Expert David Wygant

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Feb 7, 2018 0

Dating Advice: Survey Results Are In! What Does it Mean to be Single in America?

Posted In: Love, Relationship Advice Articles
Cupid's Pulse Article: Dating Advice: Survey Results Are In! What Does it Mean to be Single in America?
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By Jessica Gomez

What does it mean to be single in 2018? The dating climate has changed. Being single has a whole new meaning. For some, it’s horrible, and for others, an absolute thrill. Whichever side of the spectrum you may fall, you can count on fun surveys to tell you what people are thinking. Norms have changed between men and women due to the internet and technology affecting the way we feel and act when it comes to sex, relationships, and love — and this survey confirms it.

A 2017 study on singles in America, conducted by Research Now and funded by Match, depicts surprising data on the evolution of the dating scene and there’s dating advice in there, too:

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Jan 30, 2018 0

Celebrity Couple News: Lady Gaga & Fiance Christian Carino Share Kiss Backstage at Grammys 2018

Posted In: Celebrity Dating, Celebrity News
Cupid's Pulse Article: Celebrity Couple News: Lady Gaga & Fiance Christian Carino Share Kiss Backstage at Grammys 2018
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By Jessica Gomez

In celebrity news, Lady Gaga and her fiancé Christian Carino were photographed sharing an endearing kiss backstage at the 2018 Grammys on Sunday, according to UsMagazine.com. Gaga was nominated for Best Pop Vocal Album for “Joanne” and Best Pop Solo Performance for “Million Reasons.” The pop star did not win either award, but she did preform a fusion of both nominated songs. And, her future hubby was there to support his lady. Let’s keep our ears open for their celebrity wedding date!

This newly engaged celebrity couple are very much in love. What are some ways to support your partner in his or her professional endeavors?

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Jan 26, 2018 0

Dating Advice Video: Why Smart, Successful Women Can Fail at Love

Posted In: Dating Advice Videos, Single in Stilettos Shows Articles, Videos

By Whitney Johnson

On this week’s Single in Stilettos dating advice video, founder and relationship expert Suzanne Oshima talks to relationship author Duana Welch about why smart, successful women can fail at love. “I was in grad school getting a doctorate in the social sciences, and I realized that I was pretty good at that, but I really wasn’t good at love,” Welch shares. “I knew there was something that I was doing wrong — because the common denominator in all of my relationships was me.” Here, she shares three reasons why succeeding at love is hard for so many women.

Relationship Author Duana Welch Is Interviewed in Dating Advice Video

1. The things women do to succeed at work don’t work in the world of dating: At work, women are told to put themselves forward, pursue what they want, and lead their co-workers, but in a relationship, those qualities are often unrewarded. “Research shows that women who routinely pursue men are seen as low-status and not good wife material,” Welch explains. “I hate that!”

“If I liked a man…I was kind of shoving myself down his throat,” the relationship author adds of her own dating mishaps. “Of course, I didn’t see it that way. There’s never been a perfume called Desperation, and there never will be. But in the world of work, that stuff works.”

Related Link: Expert Dating Advice: How to Move a Stagnant Relationship to Commitment

2. Some men hold a woman’s success against her: There was a study done where researchers put up two identical dating profiles. One emphasized the woman being young and beautiful, while the other focused on her being an educated, high-powered attorney. Unfortunately, it’s no surprise that the first profile got a lot more hits. “One reason is because men respond to youth and beauty, but it’s also because men are intimidated by women who have achieved more than they have,” Welch explains.

Related Link: Expert Dating Advice: Times Women Say ‘Yes’ But Shouldn’t

3. We have a confirmation bias: In other words, we see what we want to see. “You fall in bed and fall in love, and then you find out the dealbreakers,” Welch shares. Instead, spare yourself the pain and take early action to determine your must-haves and dealbreakers. Then, you’ll be able to make a more informed decisions about your emotions.

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Jan 22, 2018 0

Checklist for Dating from Different Decades: Get Love Advice from ‘The Bachelor’ Star Arie Luyendyk, Jr.

Posted In: Megan Weks Articles, Relationship Experts
Cupid's Pulse Article: Checklist for Dating from Different Decades: Get Love Advice from ‘The Bachelor’ Star Arie Luyendyk, Jr.
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By Megan Weks

There is a bit of a buzz going on about the age gap between some of the contestants and the leading man on season 22 of The Bachelor. Is it really a big deal? After all, significant age differences are often common in celebrity relationships. A notable one is Mary-Kate Olsen and French businessman Olivier Sarkozy, who is seventeen years older than the fashion designer. Celebrity couple Hugh Jackman and Deborra-lee Furness also seem to be handling the test of time: She is thirteen years his senior, and they have been married for nearly two decades.

Love Advice from Bachelor Star Arie Luyendyk Jr.
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Jan 15, 2018 0

Dating Advice from a Seasoned Vet: 4 Reasons to Avoid Matchmakers

Posted In: Joshua Pompey Articles, Relationship Experts
Cupid's Pulse Article: Dating Advice from a Seasoned Vet: 4 Reasons to Avoid Matchmakers
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By Joshua Pompey

I’ve been in the game of helping men and women find relationships for a long time — almost a decade to be exact. And while I have learned a lot as a dating expert, if there is one fact I’m certain of, it’s that single men and women should steer clear of traditional matchmakers. Why? Well, I could go on for pages with dating advice about this topic, but here are four reasons why I strongly advise that you avoid going down this path.

Dating Expert Shares Why You Should Avoid Matchmakers

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Jan 8, 2018 0

Dating Advice Q&A: How Do I Get My Husband to Disconnect From His Phone?

Posted In: Relationship Experts, Suzanne Oshima, Paige Wyatt and Robert Manni Articles
Cupid's Pulse Article: Dating Advice Q&A: How Do I Get My Husband to Disconnect From His Phone?
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Question from Rachel S.: My husband is a general manager, so even when he leaves work, he’s still working from his phone. He doesn’t mean to, but lately, he’s been so wrapped in his phone that he ignores me when I talk. He seems genuinely apologetic and interested when I get his attention, but it’s getting it that’s hard. How can I get him to disconnect from his phone at the end of the day?

Technology makes our lives better in so many ways, but it can also be a distraction, especially if you or your partner has trouble unplugging at the end of the work day. Let our relationship experts help by offering their best dating advice for using technology, like your cell phone, in the right way. Learn valuable dating tips from matchmaker Suzanne Oshima and relationship author Robert Manni. Here, they answer your question on how to politely encourage your significant other to disconnect from their phone. Check out their dating advice below!

Dating Advice About Unplugging

Suzanne K. Oshima, Matchmaker: When it comes to technology, its biggest strength is also its biggest weakness: It connects us, but it also disconnects us from the ones that are standing right in front of us. Your husband may not be intentionally trying to hurt or ignore you, but in this age of technology and mobile phones, it’s easy to get lost in multitasking.

My recommendation is to share with him how his constant connection to his phone makes you feel unimportant and disconnected from him. Then, just ask him to put away the phone on date nights so that the two of you can spend quality time together, uninterrupted by a flurry of notifications and messages. It’s the perfect way to reconnect with each other emotionally and romantically after working all day.

Related Link: Dating & Technology Q&A: Is It Weird If He Doesn’t Call Back After a Date?

Robert Manni, Guy’s Guy: It all comes down to communication. In today’s culture, we are are tethered to work 24/7, and you may not be aware of some job pressures your husband is experiencing but not sharing. Getting him to open up about work may be a good way of broaching the phone issue.

Another angle is stressing the positives — how much you and your family value your time with him and how important it is for your husband to invest as much energy in you as he does in his job and his phone. A healthy balance between work and home life is critical to any marriage.

A third, wild-card approach is planning a night planned by you featuring some good old-fashion seduction. If that doesn’t get him to put his phone down, you may have a bigger issue on your hands. Good luck.

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Jan 9, 2018 0

Dating Advice: How to Fall In Love with Dating

Posted In: Dating Advice Videos, Single in Stilettos Shows Articles, Videos

By Whitney Johnson

On this week’s Single in Stilettos dating advice video, founder and relationship expert Suzanne Oshima talks to relationship author Tinzley Bradford about how to fall in love with dating. Here, Bradford shares three pieces of dating advice to help you go into dating with a positive attitude so that you actually enjoy it.

Relationship Author Gives Dating Advice


1. Fall in love with yourself first: “A lot of times, we go into a relationship thinking that we’re ready,” Bradford says. “In order for you to be healthy and find excitement and joy in dating again, you must first find excitement and joy in yourself.” Once you’re in a good place both physically and mentally, a man will be able to instantly see that you’re the total package and gravitate towards your energy. Oshima adds, “Be the best version of yourself.”

Related Link: Dating Advice Video: The Questions You Should Be Asking Him

2. Give it a shot: You can’t fall in love with dating if you don’t try! Every date in your past wasn’t a horror story, right? “Think of the ones that were good,” the relationship author explains. “Pay attention to the signs in the early stages of a relationship.” Don’t let previous romantic failures keep you from truly giving dating a shot. “Do what you need to do to get out there,” Oshima says of this dating advice.

Related Link: Relationship Advice: Signs You’re Settling for the Wrong Man

3. You have to trust the process: If you have trust issues, dating will be hard. “Trust, trust, trust that starting fresh will make you feel good,” Bradford shares. Remember that all men aren’t dogs — trust that the next one you meet will be worth your time.

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Jan 5, 2018 0

Celebrity News: ‘Bachelor’ Arie Luyendyk Jr. Justifies First Impression Rose Pick

Posted In: Celebrity Dating, Celebrity News, Reality TV, The Bachelor
Cupid's Pulse Article: Celebrity News: ‘Bachelor’ Arie Luyendyk Jr. Justifies First Impression Rose Pick
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By Rachel Sparks

This celebrity news is stirring up some fire! Bachelor Arie Luyendyk Jr. chose who to gave his first rose to, and according to EOnline.comhis choice made a lot of people mad. Single mom from Maine Chelsea threw insults around, upsetting the other women and the viewers, but to Arie, she was taking the initiative he wanted to see. Arie is confident that viewers will change their mind about Chelsea; he hasn’t yet!

This celebrity news has us in Arie’s corner. What are some ways to know if someone appreciates you with no ulterior motive?

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Jan 5, 2018 0

Celebrity News: Brad Pitt is Casually Dating as He Adjusts to Single Life as a Dad

Posted In: Celebrity Dating, Celebrity News
Cupid's Pulse Article: Celebrity News: Brad Pitt is Casually Dating as He Adjusts to Single Life as a Dad
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By Rachel Sparks

According to E!Online.comthe celebrity news is that Brad Pitt is slowly dipping his toes into the celebrity dating pool. The 46-year old actor is adapting to being single and seeing his family. Pitt stays busy by meeting with his large group of guy friends, none of them in the business, riding his motorcycle, and having regular dinner and lunch meetings. Though Pitt doesn’t see his six kids as much as he wants, he has been filling his time with family, including going back to his Missouri and Oklahoma roots. As far as dating? This recently divorced celebrity says it’s complicated and not a priority.

This celebrity news shows us celebs aren’t immune to having to adjust. What are some ways to know you’re ready to get back into the dating scene when you have kids?

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Jan 3, 2018 0

Expert Dating Advice: How Can I Change My Dating Tactics for the New Year?

Posted In: David Wygant Articles, Relationship Experts
Cupid's Pulse Article: Expert Dating Advice: How Can I Change My Dating Tactics for the New Year?
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By David Wygant

This is going to be the shortest article I’ve ever written because, if you are like most people, you’re going to think that next year will be different because it’s a different year. In reality, it will be exactly the same unless you change the way you do your life. So how do you change your dating tactics for the new year?

Relationship Expert Shares Expert Dating Advice for 2018

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Dec 19, 2017 0

Dating Advice Video: What Men Want You to Know

Posted In: Dating Advice Videos, Single in Stilettos Shows Articles, Videos

By Whitney Johnson

On this week’s Single in Stilettos dating advice video, founder and relationship expert Suzanne Oshima talks to relationship strategist and coach Cyndi Olin about three things that men want you to know. “There’s a complete disconnect in what women think men want,” Oshima reveals.

Relationship Experts Discuss What Men Want You to Know in Dating Advice Video

1. Men are actually very sensitive: Women often think men aren’t sensitive, but that’s just not the case. “In order to feel connected, they need to feel heard and needed,” Olin shares. “And if they don’t feel those two things from a woman, they’re not going to be fully connected or engaged with her.” As much as you want him to understand you, he wants to feel understood as well. “Be curious about him,” Olin adds.

Related Link: Dating Advice Video: Beware of These Relationships

2. Men want to feel needed: Expanding on the first secret about men, they also want to feel respectfully needed. “Allowing him to support you is something that fills him up,” Olin explains. “It’s so important for women to realize that, as strong and independent as we are, we love a man who can take care of things for us, who can handle things for us,” Oshima says.

Related Link: Relationship Advice: What Attracts a Man

3. Men want to feel appreciated: If he feels appreciated for the things that he does, he’s going to do it ten-fold. “In fact, you won’t feel like, in your relationships, you have to do all of the heavy lifting,” the relationship coach explains. “He’s going to do more and more.” Plus, he’ll continue to build you up and support you if he feels like you’re doing the same for him.

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Dec 11, 2017 0

New Year, New You! Dating Advice to Revamp Your Love Life in 2018

Posted In: Lori Zaslow & Jennifer Zucher Articles, Relationship Experts
Cupid's Pulse Article: New Year, New You! Dating Advice to Revamp Your Love Life in 2018
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By Lori Zaslow and Jenn Zucher for Project Soulmate // Contributing Writer: Shelby King

In just a few short weeks, we’ll be entering 2018 (ah!). The past year has been one for the history books. From the presidential inauguration to the total eclipse of the sun, this year has been one of fast-paced news cycles and memorable moments. It’s hard to imagine leaving 2017 in the past; however, when it comes to an unsuccessful love life, we can hope for nothing more than that in the coming year. Or maybe you have a good love life, but it’s a new year, and you and your partner want to shake things up. Either way, here at Project Soulmate, we have matchmakers and relationship experts Lori Zaslow and Jenn Zucher to supply you with dating advice on how to start the New Year with a bang.

Follow the dating advice below if you want a successful love life in 2018!

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Dec 11, 2017 0

Celebrity Couple The Weeknd & Bella Hadid Are ‘Still Totally in Love’

Posted In: Celebrity Dating, Celebrity News
Cupid's Pulse Article: Celebrity Couple The Weeknd & Bella Hadid Are ‘Still Totally in Love’
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By Rachel Sparks

Is a reunion of this celebrity couple on the horizon? We hope so! A source told UsMagazine.com that celebrity exes The Weeknd and Bella Hadid “have been talking, texting, and FaceTiming each other pretty consistently” since he and Selena Gomez broke up. The source continued to say that The Weeknd and Bella Hadid are still in love with each other.

This recently reunited celebrity couple are finding love once again. What are some benefits to rekindled love?

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Dec 5, 2017 0

Celebrity News: Kate Hudson Reveals She Met Boyfriend Danny Fujikawa While Pregnant with Son Ryder

Posted In: Celebrity Dating, Celebrity News
Cupid's Pulse Article: Celebrity News: Kate Hudson Reveals She Met Boyfriend Danny Fujikawa While Pregnant with Son Ryder
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By Jessica Gomez

Kate Hudson and beau Danny Fujikawa have known each other for 15 years, although they made their red carpet debut as a couple in May, according to UsMagazine.com. Celebrating the couple’s first date anniversary, Hudson revealed via Instagram Sunday that she was pregnant when she met her love. “The first time I met Danny I was 23 and enormously pregnant with Ryder,” wrote Hudson, along with other sweet details on the celebrity couple’s history before making their relationship official.

This celebrity news has us wondering about on and off relationships. What are some factors to consider before continuing with this type of relationship?

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Dec 5, 2017 0

Dating Advice Video: Can I Change a Man?

Posted In: Dating Advice Videos, Single in Stilettos Shows Articles, Videos

By Whitney Johnson

On this week’s Single in Stilettos dating advice video, founder and relationship expert Suzanne Oshima talks to relationship expert Iris Benrubi about whether or not you can change a man. “They all come in to change each other,” she says of her clients. “Women especially think they can change their man.”

Relationship Expert Iris Benrubi Shares Her Best Dating Advice

1. You’re not his mother: You don’t want to be in a relationship where you’re the mommy and he’s the child. You have to accept him for the way he is. “You don’t get to shape him. You don’t have a say in whether he measures up or not,” Benrubi explains.

Related Link: Dating Advice Video: How to Find Love

2. Any change that he makes for you isn’t sustainable: One of the top two mistakes that women make is falling in love with a man’s potential. “If only he would…” If he starts communicating more because you want him to, not because it’s part of who he is, it’s never going to last. “Have you ever tried to get fit or go on a diet for somebody else?” the relationship expert asks. “It doesn’t last that long because the motivation isn’t in there.” If a man wants to change something about himself, great. Otherwise, accept him where he’s at, or move forward if he can’t be what you need.

3. Be clear about what you want: If a guy who dresses nice is important to you, then make that known. If not, let it go. “You have to decide what you’re looking for,” Benrubi says. “Are you looking for the external? Or are you looking for the internal — a guy who loves you and accepts you the way you are?”

Related Link: Expert Dating Advice: 3 Tips to Turn Around Your Dating Life

So if you can’t change a man, can you inspire him to want to change? Start by telling him how you’re feeling — that helps him be receptive to your request. Then, share what you need from him in a way that’s respectful. Finish by explaining what this change would do for you. “A good man ultimately wants to make you happy,” Benrubi shares.

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Nov 28, 2017 0

Dating Advice: Be a Fantastic Date for Anyone!

Posted In: Dating Advice Videos, Single in Stilettos Shows Articles, Videos

By Whitney Johnson

On this week’s Single in Stilettos dating advice video, founder and relationship expert Suzanne Oshima talks to relationship author Wendy Newman to discuss how to be a fantastic date for anyone and offer their best expert dating advice. Newman shares three ways to present your best self on a date — so listen up!

Relationship Author Wendy Newman Shares Expert Dating Advice

1. Act as if you already know him and be energetic: Start the conversation as you would with a best friend and simply ask him how his week has been or how he’s doing. “It shows that you’re interested in him as a whole person instead of the checklist items you have that you want to check off,” Newman explains. “And it has the conversation start so organically that it can go anywhere.” Oftentimes, if you zip your lips and just listen, he’ll open up quickly and let you get to know him right off the bat. Of being energetic, Oshima adds, “Enthusiasm attracts people — it brings them in.”

Related Link: Expert Dating Advice: The Biggest Dating Pitfalls

2. Focus on broad questions: Avoid interview questions: Don’t ask him how many people he manages or how long he’s worked somewhere. Instead, ask questions like, “What do you love about your life?” or “What’s coming up that you’re really looking forward to?” “Ask really broad questions where he can go shallow or he can go deep,” the relationship author says. “And if the answer is ‘nothing’ to all of those questions, that’s really important information for you to have.”

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3. Give him 30 seconds of silence: Be willing to be engaged in the conversation, but after he’s done talking, give him a little bit of time to see if he has anything else to add. “This is completely counterintuitive to women,” the relationship author shares. “Women are squirming in their seats after five seconds, but men’s brains are designed differently than our’s.” If you want him to say more, you have to give him a chance.

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Nov 14, 2017 0

Celebrity News: The Weeknd Hangs Out with Justin Bieber’s Ex Post-Selena Gomez Split

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Cupid's Pulse Article: Celebrity News: The Weeknd Hangs Out with Justin Bieber’s Ex Post-Selena Gomez Split
The Weeknd & Robert Pattinson spotted at party together. Photo: The Weeknd/Twitter

By Rachel Sparks

After only a week without celebrity ex Selena Gomez, The Weeknd has been spotted out on the town with Justin Bieber’s ex Yovanna Ventura. He was seen holding hands with Ventura while hanging out with French Montana, according to EOnline.comThe Weeknd’s partying is the latest celebrity news. He’s been photographed with other celebrities, such as Leonardo DiCaprio, Robert Pattinson, and Emily Ratajkoski as well.

Post-celebrity breakup from Selena Gomez, The Weeknd is definitely getting around. What are some ways to recover from a split quickly? 

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Nov 13, 2017 0

Dating Expert Reveals Why Online Dating Is Better Than Meeting In Real Life

Posted In: Joshua Pompey Articles, Relationship Experts
Cupid's Pulse Article: Dating Expert Reveals Why Online Dating Is Better Than Meeting In Real Life
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By Joshua Pompey

So often online dating is looked upon as a medium that people turn to after running out of options in “real life.” As an online dating expert, I may be a bit on the biased side, but I personally think this is a mindset that officially needs to be put to death. Not only is online dating an incredible opportunity to meet other singles, but dare I say, it’s even better than attempting to meet people out and about. Here are five reasons why:

Online Dating Advice: Why It’s Better Than Real Life Dating

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Oct 30, 2017 0

Dating & Technology Q&A: How Do I Get My Girlfriend to Stop Posting Racy Photos?

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Cupid's Pulse Article: Dating & Technology Q&A: How Do I Get My Girlfriend to Stop Posting Racy Photos?
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Question from David T.: I’ve been with my girlfriend for a long time. We have a great relationship, but she often posts suggestive photos of herself on social media, and it makes me uncomfortable. How can I get her to keep that part of herself between us instead of for all the world to see?

Dating in the era of social media can be difficult. Parts of your relationship that were once private can now easily be shared online. So what do you do if one partner likes sharing racy photos but it makes the other person uncomfortable? Let our relationship experts help by offering their best dating advice for using technology the right way. Learn valuable dating tips from matchmaker Suzanne Oshima and relationship author Robert Manni. Here, they’ll answer your question on how to ask your significant other to keep personal parts of your relationship (like racy photos) private. Check out their dating advice below!

Dating Advice About Social Media & Racy Photos

Suzanne K. Oshima, Matchmaker: I can completely understand why it makes you feel uncomfortable that your girlfriend posts suggestive photos herself on social media, but I’m guessing that this is something she was doing well before you started dating her. While you can’t stop her from posting the racy photos, I recommend just being completely honest with her. Share your feelings with her and let her make her own decision about whether she wants to continue posting the photos. If she doesn’t want to risk losing you, I’ll bet she’ll tone it done a bit, but don’t expect her to completely stop posting those types of photos, especially on Halloween!

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Robert Manni, Guy’s Guy: Millennials have little, if any, filters when it comes to posting to their social media pages. Whether they’re on Instagram showing their fitness routines and progress pictures or booty shaking on Snapchat, it’s all out there for the world to see. And for that reason, and if you and your lady share a clear understanding about your commitment to each other, I do not see this as a major issue. However, if you’re uncomfortable with her sharing too many racy photos, ask her why she does this. Is it driven by self-esteem, competitiveness, or narcissism? Or is she simply comfortable in her own skin and wants to celebrate her good looks while she’s young and beautiful? Tell her how you feel — because if you don’t the world will be watching her while you wait. Good luck.

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