Cupid's Pulse Article: Ask the Guys’ Guy: Dirty Talk for BeginnersCupid's Pulse Article: Ask the Guys’ Guy: Dirty Talk for Beginners

By Robert Manni

Question from Megan S: I’m not opposed to dirty talk, but I think I am terrible at it. Help!

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Hi Megan:  Thank you for this provocative question. It gets me hot just thinking about it. Just kidding, but that ties into my response. Men and women get turned on by different things and every individual has his or her own set of turn-ons. Although there are generalities (men tend to be more visual and women are usually attracted to confidence and emotional intelligence) love and sex is often a crap shoot when it comes to what gets a particular partner hot.

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I was at a movie and my date swooned over the length of Daniel Day-Lewis’s fingers. Go figure. When it comes to dirty talk, what might feel dirty and sexy to you might be bland or too tame for a guy or another woman. You just never know what is going to light up the scoreboard. But you have to be in the game to win, so take a deep breath and get ready to cut loose.

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Most guys like the direct approach and I would not be concerned about being too graphic. When it comes to dirty talk, the golden rule is to let your freak flag fly, hope for the best reaction, and, while you’re at it, make sure you’re rocking his world like no one else. Attitude goes a long way, so if you want to talk the dirty talk, make sure to walk the walk. You don’t need to confine your sexy talk to the bedroom. Nothing turns a guy on more than when he is out on a date and his partner whispers in his ear what’s in store for him when they get home. He’ll probably immediately shoot up his hand and call out, “Check, please!”.

The bottom line is to be confident and cool about your sexuality and not be concerned about the exact words you say. Get his attention, then relax and make things happen. If he does not respond to your dirty talk, don’t take it personally. You can give it a shot another time. If he does not take the bait again, laugh it off and consider looking for a guy who craves everything about you, especially your sexy talk.

Good luck, and play safe.

Robert Manni

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Cupid's Pulse Article: Ask the Guys’ Guy: Dirty Talk for Beginners

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