Relationship Expert Tag Archive: Suzanne Oshima
0 The relationship advice in this week’s Single in Stilettos dating advice video will help you mend that broken heart. Relationship expert and founder of Single in Stilettos Suzanne Oshima interviews relationship author Duana Welch for her top three tips on how you can heal after a break-up.
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0 This week’s relationship advice from Single in Stilettos showcases founder and relationship expert Suzanne Oshima interviewing relationship author Wendy Newman. If you get stuck in the dating cycle, Newman’s tips in this dating advice video will help you work past the dating stage into a successful long-term relationship, teaching you how to maintain a lasting love.
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0 In this week’s dating advice video, Single in Stilettos founder and relationship expert Suzanne Oshima talks to relationship author Tinzley Bradford about how to tell if a man is settling for you. Here, Bradford shares three signs that you’re with the wrong man. Don’t miss their expert relationship advice in the video above!
0 On this week’s Single in Stilettos dating advice video, founder and relationship expert Suzanne Oshima talks to love and dating coach Jaki Sabourin about how to get engaged at any age. Watch the video above for their best relationship advice!
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0 On this week’s Single in Stilettos dating advice video, founder and relationship expert Suzanne Oshima talks to relationship strategist and dating coach Cyndi Olin about three ways to break your dating patterns — and every woman has them, so don’t think that you don’t! Listen to their expert dating advice in the video above.
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Question from Jay E.: My girlfriend and I are about to be separated by an ocean and an 8-hour time difference. Technology has made it so much easier to stay connected, but how can we make it feel genuine in a romantic relationship, especially with the large time gap?
Long-distance relationships have been made easier by advancements in technology, but it’s still important for you and your partner to find your groove and feel connected despite the distance. Let our relationship experts help by offering their best dating advice for using technology in the right way! Learn valuable dating tips from matchmaker Suzanne Oshima and relationship author Robert Manni. Here, they answer your question about how technology can make a long-distance relationship work. Check out their dating advice below!
0 On this week’s Single in Stilettos dating advice video, founder Suzanne Oshima talks to relationship expert Iris Benrubi about dating after heartbreak. First, it’s important to note that it’s okay to put a wall up. “It’s actually a good thing,” Benrubi explains. “It’s a coping strategy.” You’ve just been hurt, so it’s completely understandable that you want to go back into your shell and do some grieving. It can, however, become ineffective if you stay there. Continue reading for three things to know about dating after heartbreak!
0 On this week’s Single in Stilettos dating advice video, founder and relationship expert Suzanne Oshima talks to relationship author Duana Welch about whether or not you should trust your intuition when you feel like something is off with your new partner. The short answer is, “Yes.” Watch the video above to understand why!
0 On this week’s Single in Stilettos dating advice video, founder and relationship expert Suzanne Oshima talks to relationship author Wendy Newman to prove three dating myths wrong and offer their best expert dating advice. “I think a lot of people believe things that just aren’t true,” Oshima shares.
1. Women only date to find a partner, and men just date for fun:Â “The root of this myth comes from the idea that women and men approach dating differently — and I’ve got to tell you, I think men have it right,” Newman explains. Women lead with the end game in mind, while men just want to figure out if they want to spend time with their date. It’s that simple for them! “Men will talk about who they are as an interesting person, usually highlighting something fun — and they wish that we would do the same thing,” the relationship author adds. Before they jump ahead to the future, men just want to know if the two of you will get along — not because they’re not serious but because that’s really the most important thing early on.
Related Link: Expert Dating Advice: Be a Fantastic Date for Anyone!
2. Men are non-committal: “They commit all of the time!” Newman says with a laugh. It does take men longer to commit than women, but there’s a good reason for that: Men are naturally accountable, so they’re not going to say “yes” unless they’re willing to be on the hook for all of it. “Women will commit to a partner, but there are going to be things about him that they want to change,” she explains. Men, however, will sit back and assess the situation first; when they commit, they’re committing to the whole package.
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3. You slept with him at the wrong time and blew it: It’s tempting to think you waited too long and he lost interest or you did it too soon and he thought you were easy, but know that men don’t think like that. “They think sex is a fun thing to do with someone they really like, care about, or love. They don’t think it’s the hinge that makes the relationship happen or not happen,” Newman reveals.
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0 On this week’s Single in Stilettos dating advice video, founder and relationship expert Suzanne Oshima talks to relationship author Tinzley Bradford about how to stop settling for men who don’t deserve you. Here, Bradford shares three signs that you’re with the wrong man.
1. You’re unhappy: “If you’re constantly unhappy with how you’re being treated, you’re settling,” Bradford shares. “Love and a healthy relationship does not create confusion or make you feel unhappy, unstable, or even uncertain.” You should be in a relationship with someone who brings out the best in you and makes you feel good about yourself.
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2. Your relationship isn’t reciprocal:Â “It takes two to tango, baby!” Bradford exclaims. If you’re always giving but never getting enough back, you’re settling. You deserve a man who loves you just as much as you love him. “He’s got to be doing his part in your relationship,” the relationship author adds.
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3. You feel guilty for being you:Â “If you’re in a relationship with a guy who’s competing against you, belittling your dreams, and not being excited about your success, you don’t need to be with that person” she shares. You should never be with someone who makes you feel guilty for wanting to shine.
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Question from Sonya M.: Facebook is the official/unofficial way of announcing a relationship. Is it too vindictive to unfriend an ex, or is that the right move when you enter a new relationship?
Social media is a fun way to share your relationship with friends and family, but if that relationship ends, the waters can get a little murky. Let our relationship experts help by offering their best dating advice for using social media in the right way! Learn valuable dating tips from matchmaker Suzanne Oshima and relationship author Robert Manni. Here, they answer your question about whether or not you should unfriend your ex after a break-up. Check out their dating advice below!
Suzanne K. Oshima, Matchmaker: When it comes to dating after a break-up or divorce, it’s important to know that removing all traces of your ex on social media isn’t about being vindictive — it’s about moving on.
This is the last step at the end of your relationship, so now is the time for some “spring cleaning.” Daily reminders of him won’t allow you to move forward with your love life, so remember the saying “out of sight, out of mind.” This will remove any temptation to cyber snoop or check in on what he’s doing and who he’s dating. All in all, if you continue to stay connected, then you’re holding on — and this can hold you back from moving forward into another relationship.
Related Link: Dating Advice Q&A: How Can You Tell Red Flags From Online Dating?
Robert Manni, Guy’s Guy: Even though people have become too reliant on social media as their main form of communication, announcing a new relationship on Facebook can feel great and be validating. It’s a nice way of putting something out there about yourself that you feel good about for the people you enjoying sharing with.
On the other hand, if you no longer have an offline connection with an ex and do not feel comfortable posting about your new relationship for them to see, it’s perfectly acceptable to unfriend them. However, if you remain on good terms and they’re cool, there is no harm in staying connected with an ex on Facebook.
There are no strict rules or protocol about this. Listen to your inner compass and do what feels best for you. Good luck.
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0 On this week’s Single in Stilettos dating advice video, founder and relationship expert Suzanne Oshima talks to relationship strategist and coach Cyndi Olin about three ways to get men to pursue you like crazy. Listen to their expert dating advice in the video above!
1. Smile: With this piece of expert dating advice, Olin reminds us of the saying, “Your presence is a present.” Walk out the door, be present in your body, and smile — and you can attract men like crazy. Eye contact and compliments pair well with a smile. “That’s like a ‘come over’ signal,” she explains. “90 percent of the time, a man will approach you and at least start talking to you. It’s all about your energy.”
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2. Engage with them:Â “There’s a lot of advice out there, including to let a man lead,” Olin shares. “While I believe that, men are confused when it comes to modern dating.” Men are often very careful as a way to ensure that they’re respecting you. Have a belief deep down in your soul that men are good people, and make an effort to get to know them. Remember: Your vibe attracts your tribe.
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3. Let go:Â After you smile and engage with them, let them be the one to pursue you, to call you more. “You’re not pursuing. You’re a friendly receptor of light,” Olin says. “You want him to pursue you, and he’s looking for permission to do that.”
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0 On this week’s Single in Stilettos dating advice video, founder and relationship expert Suzanne Oshima talks to love and dating coach Jaki Sabourin about two things that make a man fall in love and commit to a relationship. Watch the video above for their best expert relationship advice!
0 On this week’s Single in Stilettos dating advice video, founder and relationship expert Suzanne Oshima talks to relationship author Duana Welch about why smart, successful women can fail at love. “I was in grad school getting a doctorate in the social sciences, and I realized that I was pretty good at that, but I really wasn’t good at love,” Welch shares. “I knew there was something that I was doing wrong — because the common denominator in all of my relationships was me.” Here, she shares three reasons why succeeding at love is hard for so many women.
1. The things women do to succeed at work don’t work in the world of dating:Â At work, women are told to put themselves forward, pursue what they want, and lead their co-workers, but in a relationship, those qualities are often unrewarded. “Research shows that women who routinely pursue men are seen as low-status and not good wife material,” Welch explains. “I hate that!”
“If I liked a man…I was kind of shoving myself down his throat,” the relationship author adds of her own dating mishaps. “Of course, I didn’t see it that way. There’s never been a perfume called Desperation, and there never will be. But in the world of work, that stuff works.”
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2. Some men hold a woman’s success against her:Â There was a study done where researchers put up two identical dating profiles. One emphasized the woman being young and beautiful, while the other focused on her being an educated, high-powered attorney. Unfortunately, it’s no surprise that the first profile got a lot more hits. “One reason is because men respond to youth and beauty, but it’s also because men are intimidated by women who have achieved more than they have,” Welch explains.
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3. We have a confirmation bias:Â In other words, we see what we want to see. “You fall in bed and fall in love, and then you find out the dealbreakers,” Welch shares. Instead, spare yourself the pain and take early action to determine your must-haves and dealbreakers. Then, you’ll be able to make a more informed decisions about your emotions.
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0 On this week’s Single in Stilettos dating advice video, founder Suzanne Oshima talks to relationship expert Iris Benrubi about what may be blocking you from finding love.
1. You don’t understand your attachment strategy:Â “It comes from your childhood when you were totally dependent on your parents. You had to decide, Can I depend on them or not?” Benrubi explains. For instance, if you had a parent who was inconsistent, you may have developed an anxious attachment strategy, meaning you’re always gauging how close someone is and tend to chase after men. Or if you had a parent who just disappeared, you most likely developed an avoidant attachment style and tend to keep others at a distance. “You need to recognize what you bring to relationships and what you need to do move away from harmful attachment strategies,” the relationship expert adds.
Benrubi also encourages you to learn how to manage your anxiety — whether it’s with meditation, affirmations, breathing, or yoga. If you can’t do it on your own, reach out to a professional for help.
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2. You move inwards after a break-up:Â It’s so tempting to want to keep your heart safe and say, “I don’t need a man.” “Underneath that, the reality is that we need to be connected to another person romantically,” Benrubi says. We’re actually biologically wired to need people in our life, so don’t let the fear of getting hurt again hold you back from a relationship. “Of course, we can all survive on our own, but we really want to be with that right person,” Oshima adds.
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3. You don’t know your own worth “In order to get into a relationship with a good man, we need to get really clear on our value,” Benrubi shares. If you’ve been in a partnership with someone who puts you down or had a childhood where you were dismissed or felt invisible, you may try to earn a man’s love. “When you’re in that ‘earn energy,’ he’s up here, and you’re down here. You’re always dog paddling and trying to figure out what you need to do next,” she explains. “It’s exhausting.” If you want a man who respects you, you have to respect yourself first.
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0 On this week’s Single in Stilettos dating advice video, founder and relationship expert Suzanne Oshima talks to relationship author Wendy Newman to discuss what to do when a man disappears and offer their best expert dating advice. “It’s heartbreaking; it’s horrible because you don’t get closure,” Oshima says. Here, Newman shares why men often disappear and the best ways to handle this devastating dating occurrence.
First, there are two main culprits for why he just disappears. Let’s say you have an amazing time together and you can tell he’s just as into you as you are to him. Then, suddenly, he’s gone. “What I’m guessing happened is, he got home and started reconciling all of the conversations that you had,” Newman explains. “He could see that there was a dealbreaker in there that didn’t stop him in the moment because you are so charming and enchanting. But after he came down from the high of the date, he thought, “Oh, shoot.” Men don’t call again because they feel like they don’t owe us anything because there’s no relationship yet. “They think they’re doing us a favor by just disappearing,” the relationship author adds. “They don’t understand how that drives us insane.”
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Another reason he may disappear is because, although he thinks you’re wonderful, it’s just not the right time for a serious relationship. He sees that you’re the whole package — a delicious, gourmet meal — but all he has an appetite for right now is ice cream. Newman emphasizes that “timing is a big piece of dating.”
Since you may never know why he really disappeared, Newman suggests making up the most empowering interpretation of the situation, giving yourself the closure you need to move on. In her personal experience, sometimes, this made-up interpretation can turn out to be true! Most importantly, remember that the reason why men disappear usually has nothing to do with you. Keep reminding yourself of your self-worth — maybe, just maybe, you were simply too good for him.
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If you still need to alleviate some heartache, draft an e-mail to him and thank him for all of the parts of him and the date that you found enjoyable and memorable. Tell him that you had a great time with him and let him know that you understand there must not have been a connection for him. You don’t have to hit send — just do whatever you need to do to feel better. “Don’t have any expectations — you may get a response, and you may not,” Oshima says. “Either way, you just have to let it go and move on.”
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Question from Rachel S.: My husband is a general manager, so even when he leaves work, he’s still working from his phone. He doesn’t mean to, but lately, he’s been so wrapped in his phone that he ignores me when I talk. He seems genuinely apologetic and interested when I get his attention, but it’s getting it that’s hard. How can I get him to disconnect from his phone at the end of the day?
Technology makes our lives better in so many ways, but it can also be a distraction, especially if you or your partner has trouble unplugging at the end of the work day. Let our relationship experts help by offering their best dating advice for using technology, like your cell phone, in the right way. Learn valuable dating tips from matchmaker Suzanne Oshima and relationship author Robert Manni. Here, they answer your question on how to politely encourage your significant other to disconnect from their phone. Check out their dating advice below!
Suzanne K. Oshima, Matchmaker: When it comes to technology, its biggest strength is also its biggest weakness: It connects us, but it also disconnects us from the ones that are standing right in front of us. Your husband may not be intentionally trying to hurt or ignore you, but in this age of technology and mobile phones, it’s easy to get lost in multitasking.
My recommendation is to share with him how his constant connection to his phone makes you feel unimportant and disconnected from him. Then, just ask him to put away the phone on date nights so that the two of you can spend quality time together, uninterrupted by a flurry of notifications and messages. It’s the perfect way to reconnect with each other emotionally and romantically after working all day.
Related Link: Dating & Technology Q&A: Is It Weird If He Doesn’t Call Back After a Date?
Robert Manni, Guy’s Guy: It all comes down to communication. In today’s culture, we are are tethered to work 24/7, and you may not be aware of some job pressures your husband is experiencing but not sharing. Getting him to open up about work may be a good way of broaching the phone issue.
Another angle is stressing the positives — how much you and your family value your time with him and how important it is for your husband to invest as much energy in you as he does in his job and his phone. A healthy balance between work and home life is critical to any marriage.
A third, wild-card approach is planning a night planned by you featuring some good old-fashion seduction. If that doesn’t get him to put his phone down, you may have a bigger issue on your hands. Good luck.
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0 On this week’s Single in Stilettos dating advice video, founder and relationship expert Suzanne Oshima talks to relationship author Tinzley Bradford about how to fall in love with dating. Here, Bradford shares three pieces of dating advice to help you go into dating with a positive attitude so that you actually enjoy it.
1. Fall in love with yourself first: “A lot of times, we go into a relationship thinking that we’re ready,” Bradford says. “In order for you to be healthy and find excitement and joy in dating again, you must first find excitement and joy in yourself.” Once you’re in a good place both physically and mentally, a man will be able to instantly see that you’re the total package and gravitate towards your energy. Oshima adds, “Be the best version of yourself.”
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2. Give it a shot:Â You can’t fall in love with dating if you don’t try! Every date in your past wasn’t a horror story, right? “Think of the ones that were good,” the relationship author explains. “Pay attention to the signs in the early stages of a relationship.” Don’t let previous romantic failures keep you from truly giving dating a shot. “Do what you need to do to get out there,” Oshima says of this dating advice.
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3. You have to trust the process:Â If you have trust issues, dating will be hard. “Trust, trust, trust that starting fresh will make you feel good,” Bradford shares. Remember that all men aren’t dogs — trust that the next one you meet will be worth your time.
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0 On this week’s Single in Stilettos dating advice video, founder and relationship expert Suzanne Oshima talks to love and dating coach Jaki Sabourin about how to emotionally connect with a man and get engaged at any age. Watch the video above for their best relationship advice!
0 On this week’s Single in Stilettos dating advice video, founder and relationship expert Suzanne Oshima talks to relationship strategist and coach Cyndi Olin about three things that men want you to know. “There’s a complete disconnect in what women think men want,” Oshima reveals.
1. Men are actually very sensitive:Â Women often think men aren’t sensitive, but that’s just not the case. “In order to feel connected, they need to feel heard and needed,” Olin shares. “And if they don’t feel those two things from a woman, they’re not going to be fully connected or engaged with her.” As much as you want him to understand you, he wants to feel understood as well. “Be curious about him,” Olin adds.
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2. Men want to feel needed:Â Expanding on the first secret about men, they also want to feel respectfully needed. “Allowing him to support you is something that fills him up,” Olin explains. “It’s so important for women to realize that, as strong and independent as we are, we love a man who can take care of things for us, who can handle things for us,” Oshima says.
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3. Men want to feel appreciated:Â If he feels appreciated for the things that he does, he’s going to do it ten-fold. “In fact, you won’t feel like, in your relationships, you have to do all of the heavy lifting,” the relationship coach explains. “He’s going to do more and more.” Plus, he’ll continue to build you up and support you if he feels like you’re doing the same for him.
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0 On this week’s Single in Stilettos dating advice video, founder and relationship expert Suzanne Oshima talks to relationship author Duana Welch about how you can find out more about someone before you commit. “Ladies, I don’t want you jumping into a relationship with someone until you really know important things about him,” Oshima explains. So listen up to this expert dating advice!
1. Leverage your contact with his friends and family: If he’s crazy about you, he’ll want to introduce you to his friends early on. If he keeps you out of his inner circle, he’s sending a message. When you do meet them, “listen to what they say about him,” Welch shares.
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2. Ask him about his ex:Â Specifically, ask him what she would say is the reason they broke up. In Welch’s experience, men answer this question honestly. “You need to listen to his answer — is that something you can live with?” she says. For example, one man said his ex-wife thought he was a slob — and he really was! “Some women are cool with that, but most aren’t,” Welch adds.
3. Google is your friend:Â Almost everybody has a media footprint. Â “Studies show that the way people present themselves on social media is actually pretty accurate,” the relationship author explains. “You would think people would project the image they want, but most people don’t.”
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4. Look at what they do:Â Give their actions five times the weight of their words. “Some men are really good at saying what a women wants to hear, so I always say to my clients, ‘Watch their actions,'” Oshima says. Also, remember that honest people don’t proclaim how honest they are. “They make an assumption that they are honest and that the world is honest,” Welch adds.
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0 On this week’s Single in Stilettos dating advice video, founder and relationship expert Suzanne Oshima talks to relationship expert Iris Benrubi about whether or not you can change a man. “They all come in to change each other,” she says of her clients. “Women especially think they can change their man.”
1. You’re not his mother: You don’t want to be in a relationship where you’re the mommy and he’s the child. You have to accept him for the way he is. “You don’t get to shape him. You don’t have a say in whether he measures up or not,” Benrubi explains.
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2. Any change that he makes for you isn’t sustainable: One of the top two mistakes that women make is falling in love with a man’s potential. “If only he would…” If he starts communicating more because you want him to, not because it’s part of who he is, it’s never going to last. “Have you ever tried to get fit or go on a diet for somebody else?” the relationship expert asks. “It doesn’t last that long because the motivation isn’t in there.” If a man wants to change something about himself, great. Otherwise, accept him where he’s at, or move forward if he can’t be what you need.
3. Be clear about what you want: If a guy who dresses nice is important to you, then make that known. If not, let it go. “You have to decide what you’re looking for,” Benrubi says. “Are you looking for the external? Or are you looking for the internal — a guy who loves you and accepts you the way you are?”
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So if you can’t change a man, can you inspire him to want to change? Start by telling him how you’re feeling — that helps him be receptive to your request. Then, share what you need from him in a way that’s respectful. Finish by explaining what this change would do for you. “A good man ultimately wants to make you happy,” Benrubi shares.
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0 On this week’s Single in Stilettos dating advice video, founder and relationship expert Suzanne Oshima talks to relationship author Wendy Newman to discuss how to be a fantastic date for anyone and offer their best expert dating advice. Newman shares three ways to present your best self on a date — so listen up!
1. Act as if you already know him and be energetic: Start the conversation as you would with a best friend and simply ask him how his week has been or how he’s doing. “It shows that you’re interested in him as a whole person instead of the checklist items you have that you want to check off,” Newman explains. “And it has the conversation start so organically that it can go anywhere.” Oftentimes, if you zip your lips and just listen, he’ll open up quickly and let you get to know him right off the bat. Of being energetic, Oshima adds, “Enthusiasm attracts people — it brings them in.”
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2. Focus on broad questions: Avoid interview questions: Don’t ask him how many people he manages or how long he’s worked somewhere. Instead, ask questions like, “What do you love about your life?” or “What’s coming up that you’re really looking forward to?” “Ask really broad questions where he can go shallow or he can go deep,” the relationship author says. “And if the answer is ‘nothing’ to all of those questions, that’s really important information for you to have.”
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3. Give him 30 seconds of silence: Be willing to be engaged in the conversation, but after he’s done talking, give him a little bit of time to see if he has anything else to add. “This is completely counterintuitive to women,” the relationship author shares. “Women are squirming in their seats after five seconds, but men’s brains are designed differently than our’s.” If you want him to say more, you have to give him a chance.
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0 On this week’s Single in Stilettos dating advice video, founder and relationship expert Suzanne Oshima talks to relationship author Tinzley Bradford to discuss the questions you should be asking him and offer their best relationship advice. Here, Bradford shares the top three questions that women should ask on early dates to weed out the men who aren’t worth their time.
1. Are you looking for a long-term relationship? “That is a question that you have to ask,” Bradford says. There’s no use in wasting your time with someone who tells you up front that they just want to have some fun or date casually. If you know you’re looking for something long-term, then you should be dating someone who’s looking for the same thing. Unfortunately, a lot of men get scared by this question, so it’s helpful to start with a disclosure statement: “I don’t want to scare you or make you think I’m jumping too far ahead, but I’d love to know if you’re looking for a long-term relationship.”
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2. Why are you interested in me? This question, which you should ask after several dates, will help you figure out if he’s interested in the way you look or if he’s truly interested in who you are. For it to last, it has to be more than just your physical attributes.
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3. Are you single? You have to know! “Don’t wait for him to say, ‘Oh, I thought you knew when you saw the ring,'” the relationship author shares. “If he’s asking you questions that lead you to believe you won’t be exclusive with him, I’d be very skeptical.” Oshima adds, “I think women would actually be surprised at how many men are married or in a relationship already.”
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