Cupid's Pulse Article: Expert Dating Advice: How Can I Find Out More About Him Before I Commit?Cupid's Pulse Article: Expert Dating Advice: How Can I Find Out More About Him Before I Commit?

By Whitney Johnson

On this week’s Single in Stilettos dating advice video, founder and relationship expert Suzanne Oshima talks to relationship author Duana Welch about how you can find out more about someone before you commit. “Ladies, I don’t want you jumping into a relationship with someone until you really know important things about him,” Oshima explains. So listen up to this expert dating advice!

Relationship Author Duana Welch Shares Her Best Dating Advice

1. Leverage your contact with his friends and family: If he’s crazy about you, he’ll want to introduce you to his friends early on. If he keeps you out of his inner circle, he’s sending a message. When you do meet them, “listen to what they say about him,” Welch shares.

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2. Ask him about his ex: Specifically, ask him what she would say is the reason they broke up. In Welch’s experience, men answer this question honestly. “You need to listen to his answer — is that something you can live with?” she says. For example, one man said his ex-wife thought he was a slob — and he really was! “Some women are cool with that, but most aren’t,” Welch adds.

3. Google is your friendAlmost everybody has a media footprint.  “Studies show that the way people present themselves on social media is actually pretty accurate,” the relationship author explains. “You would think people would project the image they want, but most people don’t.”

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4. Look at what they do: Give their actions five times the weight of their words. “Some men are really good at saying what a women wants to hear, so I always say to my clients, ‘Watch their actions,'” Oshima says. Also, remember that honest people don’t proclaim how honest they are. “They make an assumption that they are honest and that the world is honest,” Welch adds.

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