I’d love to sit here and pretend that I was always Mr. Perfect when it came to relationships — I am a relationship expert after all! But I had to learn the relationship advice that I offer. When I look back at my younger days, I had one specific relationship that was not only far from perfect but downright unhealthy. The arguments would come in like clockwork. No matter how many times I would say, “This is the last fight,” a new argument inevitably came around sooner rather than later.
Fast forward to the present with my beautiful wife, and I can happily say that our fights are almost non-existent. We’ll have one small argument every few months — if that. So, what brought the turn-around? Here are a few reasons that my former self was always arguing in a previous relationship as well as some possible signs that you may need to end your own relationship. With this expert dating advice, you too can build a healthy relationship that’s free of arguing.
Relationship Expert Shares Expert Dating Advice About Arguing
On this week’s Single in Stilettos dating advice video, founder and relationship expert Suzanne Oshima talks to relationship strategist and dating coach Cyndi Olin about three ways to break your dating patterns — and every woman has them, so don’t think that you don’t! Listen to their expert dating advice in the video above.
Relationship Experts Discuss How to Break Your Dating Patterns
Question from Jay E.: My girlfriend and I are about to be separated by an ocean and an 8-hour time difference. Technology has made it so much easier to stay connected, but how can we make it feel genuine in a romantic relationship, especially with the large time gap?
Long-distance relationships have been made easier by advancements in technology, but it’s still important for you and your partner to find your groove and feel connected despite the distance. Let our relationship experts help by offering their best dating advice for using technology in the right way! Learn valuable dating tips from matchmaker Suzanne Oshima and relationship author Robert Manni. Here, they answer your question about how technology can make a long-distance relationship work. Check out their dating advice below!
On this week’s Single in Stilettos dating advice video, founder Suzanne Oshima talks to relationship expert Iris Benrubi about dating after heartbreak. First, it’s important to note that it’s okay to put a wall up. “It’s actually a good thing,” Benrubi explains. “It’s a coping strategy.” You’ve just been hurt, so it’s completely understandable that you want to go back into your shell and do some grieving. It can, however, become ineffective if you stay there. Continue reading for three things to know about dating after heartbreak!
Relationship Expert Iris Benrubi Shares Her Best Dating Advice
Arie Luyendyk Jr.’s point of view on negative commentary regarding his experience on The Bachelor holds a life lesson we may all be able to benefit from, especially related to finding The One. With regard to facing a backlash from viewers, the reality TV star tells E! News, “It’s all about the ending, and finding that person for yourself. That’s the important part.” The takeaway, then, is that, even though he had to endure hardship, he knew it was all part of the journey to finding his soulmate. This thought process can offer us an intelligent and healthy way to approach heartbreak.
On this week’s Single in Stilettos dating advice video, founder and relationship expert Suzanne Oshima talks to relationship author Duana Welch about whether or not you should trust your intuition when you feel like something is off with your new partner. The short answer is, “Yes.” Watch the video above to understand why!
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Most relationships start off in a flurry of excitement and anticipation, as they are new to both parties. However, over time it is easy for the magic park to disappear from your love life. Even though you may still love one another, the tribulations of day to day life such as work and family can take their toll. This can result in a relationship that becomes stale and even tedious.
It is important for any loving couple to find ways to inject the magic back into their relationship. There are different ways in which you can do this and this includes looking at advice from experts online about relationships, which can prove really helpful.
What can you do to restore the magic? Check out this expert relationship advice:
The first few weeks of dating can be so exciting: the laughter, the new experiences, and, of course, the physical connection. But how exactly do you know if the chemistry you’re feeling should be attributed to blooming love versus something that is merely an intense physical attraction? If you are attempting to determine whether it’s lust or love, try asking yourself the following questions: …Want to know more? Click here to continue!
On this week’s Single in Stilettos dating advice video, founder and relationship expert Suzanne Oshima talks to relationship author Tinzley Bradford about how to stop settling for men who don’t deserve you. Here, Bradford shares three signs that you’re with the wrong man.
Relationship Author Reveals How to Stop Settling in Dating Advice Video
1. You’re unhappy: “If you’re constantly unhappy with how you’re being treated, you’re settling,” Bradford shares. “Love and a healthy relationship does not create confusion or make you feel unhappy, unstable, or even uncertain.” You should be in a relationship with someone who brings out the best in you and makes you feel good about yourself.
2. Your relationship isn’t reciprocal:Â “It takes two to tango, baby!” Bradford exclaims. If you’re always giving but never getting enough back, you’re settling. You deserve a man who loves you just as much as you love him. “He’s got to be doing his part in your relationship,” the relationship author adds.
3. You feel guilty for being you:Â “If you’re in a relationship with a guy who’s competing against you, belittling your dreams, and not being excited about your success, you don’t need to be with that person” she shares. You should never be with someone who makes you feel guilty for wanting to shine.
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Question from Sonya M.: Facebook is the official/unofficial way of announcing a relationship. Is it too vindictive to unfriend an ex, or is that the right move when you enter a new relationship?
Social media is a fun way to share your relationship with friends and family, but if that relationship ends, the waters can get a little murky. Let our relationship experts help by offering their best dating advice for using social media in the right way! Learn valuable dating tips from matchmaker Suzanne Oshima and relationship author Robert Manni. Here, they answer your question about whether or not you should unfriend your ex after a break-up. Check out their dating advice below!
Dating Advice for Unfriending Your Ex on Facebook
Suzanne K. Oshima, Matchmaker: When it comes to dating after a break-up or divorce, it’s important to know that removing all traces of your ex on social media isn’t about being vindictive — it’s about moving on.
This is the last step at the end of your relationship, so now is the time for some “spring cleaning.” Daily reminders of him won’t allow you to move forward with your love life, so remember the saying “out of sight, out of mind.” This will remove any temptation to cyber snoop or check in on what he’s doing and who he’s dating. All in all, if you continue to stay connected, then you’re holding on — and this can hold you back from moving forward into another relationship.
Robert Manni, Guy’s Guy: Even though people have become too reliant on social media as their main form of communication, announcing a new relationship on Facebook can feel great and be validating. It’s a nice way of putting something out there about yourself that you feel good about for the people you enjoying sharing with.
On the other hand, if you no longer have an offline connection with an ex and do not feel comfortable posting about your new relationship for them to see, it’s perfectly acceptable to unfriend them. However, if you remain on good terms and they’re cool, there is no harm in staying connected with an ex on Facebook.
There are no strict rules or protocol about this. Listen to your inner compass and do what feels best for you. Good luck.
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On this week’s Single in Stilettos dating advice video, founder and relationship expert Suzanne Oshima talks to relationship strategist and coach Cyndi Olin about three ways to get men to pursue you like crazy. Listen to their expert dating advice in the video above!
Relationship Experts Discuss How to Get Men to Pursue You in Dating Advice Video
1. Smile: With this piece of expert dating advice, Olin reminds us of the saying, “Your presence is a present.” Walk out the door, be present in your body, and smile — and you can attract men like crazy. Eye contact and compliments pair well with a smile. “That’s like a ‘come over’ signal,” she explains. “90 percent of the time, a man will approach you and at least start talking to you. It’s all about your energy.”
2. Engage with them:Â “There’s a lot of advice out there, including to let a man lead,” Olin shares. “While I believe that, men are confused when it comes to modern dating.” Men are often very careful as a way to ensure that they’re respecting you. Have a belief deep down in your soul that men are good people, and make an effort to get to know them. Remember: Your vibe attracts your tribe.
3. Let go:Â After you smile and engage with them, let them be the one to pursue you, to call you more. “You’re not pursuing. You’re a friendly receptor of light,” Olin says. “You want him to pursue you, and he’s looking for permission to do that.”
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For many of us, a lost opportunity at love or the end of a long-term relationship can sometimes make us feel like a second chance just isn’t in the cards. And when Valentine’s Day is focused on romantic dinners for two or coupled walks on the beach, it can be a painful reminder of what we lack.
Let’s face it. There’s no substitute for young love, but that doesn’t mean we can’t enjoy being loved again later in life, especially for seniors. “Fortunately, in some ways, there has never been a better time for women over 60 to be in the dating world,” says Margaret Manning. “The rise of divorce among ‘silver splitters’ means there are more single older men — and there might be more great guys out there than you might expect at first glance, especially if you give them a chance.”
In order to feel confident in a long-term relationship, you need to be in the right long-term relationship for you. If you’re not safe and you don’t feel like you’re being heard, then you’re in the wrong partnership. There’s no way in the world you will ever thrive in a relationship where you feel judged and evaluated at all times. For me — and I’ve been in many long-term relationships — the ones that I always felt most confident in were the relationships where I was actually seen for who I am. If a woman is trying to change you, if she’s trying to make you into someone you’re not, you’re never going to feel confident.
Long-Term Relationship Advice from Relationship Expert David Wygant
On this week’s Single in Stilettos dating advice video, founder and relationship expert Suzanne Oshima talks to relationship author Duana Welch about why smart, successful women can fail at love. “I was in grad school getting a doctorate in the social sciences, and I realized that I was pretty good at that, but I really wasn’t good at love,” Welch shares. “I knew there was something that I was doing wrong — because the common denominator in all of my relationships was me.” Here, she shares three reasons why succeeding at love is hard for so many women.
Relationship Author Duana Welch Is Interviewed in Dating Advice Video
1. The things women do to succeed at work don’t work in the world of dating:Â At work, women are told to put themselves forward, pursue what they want, and lead their co-workers, but in a relationship, those qualities are often unrewarded. “Research shows that women who routinely pursue men are seen as low-status and not good wife material,” Welch explains. “I hate that!”
“If I liked a man…I was kind of shoving myself down his throat,” the relationship author adds of her own dating mishaps. “Of course, I didn’t see it that way. There’s never been a perfume called Desperation, and there never will be. But in the world of work, that stuff works.”
2. Some men hold a woman’s success against her:Â There was a study done where researchers put up two identical dating profiles. One emphasized the woman being young and beautiful, while the other focused on her being an educated, high-powered attorney. Unfortunately, it’s no surprise that the first profile got a lot more hits. “One reason is because men respond to youth and beauty, but it’s also because men are intimidated by women who have achieved more than they have,” Welch explains.
3. We have a confirmation bias:Â In other words, we see what we want to see. “You fall in bed and fall in love, and then you find out the dealbreakers,” Welch shares. Instead, spare yourself the pain and take early action to determine your must-haves and dealbreakers. Then, you’ll be able to make a more informed decisions about your emotions.
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On this week’s Single in Stilettos dating advice video, founder Suzanne Oshima talks to relationship expert Iris Benrubi about what may be blocking you from finding love.
Relationship Expert Iris Benrubi Shares Her Best Dating Advice
1. You don’t understand your attachment strategy:Â “It comes from your childhood when you were totally dependent on your parents. You had to decide, Can I depend on them or not?” Benrubi explains. For instance, if you had a parent who was inconsistent, you may have developed an anxious attachment strategy, meaning you’re always gauging how close someone is and tend to chase after men. Or if you had a parent who just disappeared, you most likely developed an avoidant attachment style and tend to keep others at a distance. “You need to recognize what you bring to relationships and what you need to do move away from harmful attachment strategies,” the relationship expert adds.
Benrubi also encourages you to learn how to manage your anxiety — whether it’s with meditation, affirmations, breathing, or yoga. If you can’t do it on your own, reach out to a professional for help.
2. You move inwards after a break-up:Â It’s so tempting to want to keep your heart safe and say, “I don’t need a man.” “Underneath that, the reality is that we need to be connected to another person romantically,” Benrubi says. We’re actually biologically wired to need people in our life, so don’t let the fear of getting hurt again hold you back from a relationship. “Of course, we can all survive on our own, but we really want to be with that right person,” Oshima adds.
3. You don’t know your own worth “In order to get into a relationship with a good man, we need to get really clear on our value,” Benrubi shares. If you’ve been in a partnership with someone who puts you down or had a childhood where you were dismissed or felt invisible, you may try to earn a man’s love. “When you’re in that ‘earn energy,’ he’s up here, and you’re down here. You’re always dog paddling and trying to figure out what you need to do next,” she explains. “It’s exhausting.” If you want a man who respects you, you have to respect yourself first.
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On this week’s Single in Stilettos dating advice video, founder and relationship expert Suzanne Oshima talks to relationship author Wendy Newman to discuss what to do when a man disappears and offer their best expert dating advice. “It’s heartbreaking; it’s horrible because you don’t get closure,” Oshima says. Here, Newman shares why men often disappear and the best ways to handle this devastating dating occurrence.
Relationship Author Wendy Newman Shares Expert Dating Advice
First, there are two main culprits for why he just disappears. Let’s say you have an amazing time together and you can tell he’s just as into you as you are to him. Then, suddenly, he’s gone. “What I’m guessing happened is, he got home and started reconciling all of the conversations that you had,” Newman explains. “He could see that there was a dealbreaker in there that didn’t stop him in the moment because you are so charming and enchanting. But after he came down from the high of the date, he thought, “Oh, shoot.” Men don’t call again because they feel like they don’t owe us anything because there’s no relationship yet. “They think they’re doing us a favor by just disappearing,” the relationship author adds. “They don’t understand how that drives us insane.”
Another reason he may disappear is because, although he thinks you’re wonderful, it’s just not the right time for a serious relationship. He sees that you’re the whole package — a delicious, gourmet meal — but all he has an appetite for right now is ice cream. Newman emphasizes that “timing is a big piece of dating.”
Since you may never know why he really disappeared, Newman suggests making up the most empowering interpretation of the situation, giving yourself the closure you need to move on. In her personal experience, sometimes, this made-up interpretation can turn out to be true! Most importantly, remember that the reason why men disappear usually has nothing to do with you. Keep reminding yourself of your self-worth — maybe, just maybe, you were simply too good for him.
If you still need to alleviate some heartache, draft an e-mail to him and thank him for all of the parts of him and the date that you found enjoyable and memorable. Tell him that you had a great time with him and let him know that you understand there must not have been a connection for him. You don’t have to hit send — just do whatever you need to do to feel better. “Don’t have any expectations — you may get a response, and you may not,” Oshima says. “Either way, you just have to let it go and move on.”
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I’ve been in the game of helping men and women find relationships for a long time — almost a decade to be exact. And while I have learned a lot as a dating expert, if there is one fact I’m certain of, it’s that single men and women should steer clear of traditional matchmakers. Why? Well, I could go on for pages with dating advice about this topic, but here are four reasons why I strongly advise that you avoid going down this path.
Dating Expert Shares Why You Should Avoid Matchmakers
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Question from Rachel S.: My husband is a general manager, so even when he leaves work, he’s still working from his phone. He doesn’t mean to, but lately, he’s been so wrapped in his phone that he ignores me when I talk. He seems genuinely apologetic and interested when I get his attention, but it’s getting it that’s hard. How can I get him to disconnect from his phone at the end of the day?
Technology makes our lives better in so many ways, but it can also be a distraction, especially if you or your partner has trouble unplugging at the end of the work day. Let our relationship experts help by offering their best dating advice for using technology, like your cell phone, in the right way. Learn valuable dating tips from matchmaker Suzanne Oshima and relationship author Robert Manni. Here, they answer your question on how to politely encourage your significant other to disconnect from their phone. Check out their dating advice below!
Dating Advice About Unplugging
Suzanne K. Oshima, Matchmaker: When it comes to technology, its biggest strength is also its biggest weakness: It connects us, but it also disconnects us from the ones that are standing right in front of us. Your husband may not be intentionally trying to hurt or ignore you, but in this age of technology and mobile phones, it’s easy to get lost in multitasking.
My recommendation is to share with him how his constant connection to his phone makes you feel unimportant and disconnected from him. Then, just ask him to put away the phone on date nights so that the two of you can spend quality time together, uninterrupted by a flurry of notifications and messages. It’s the perfect way to reconnect with each other emotionally and romantically after working all day.
Robert Manni, Guy’s Guy: It all comes down to communication. In today’s culture, we are are tethered to work 24/7, and you may not be aware of some job pressures your husband is experiencing but not sharing. Getting him to open up about work may be a good way of broaching the phone issue.
Another angle is stressing the positives — how much you and your family value your time with him and how important it is for your husband to invest as much energy in you as he does in his job and his phone. A healthy balance between work and home life is critical to any marriage.
A third, wild-card approach is planning a night planned by you featuring some good old-fashion seduction. If that doesn’t get him to put his phone down, you may have a bigger issue on your hands. Good luck.
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On this week’s Single in Stilettos dating advice video, founder and relationship expert Suzanne Oshima talks to relationship author Tinzley Bradford about how to fall in love with dating. Here, Bradford shares three pieces of dating advice to help you go into dating with a positive attitude so that you actually enjoy it.
Relationship Author Gives Dating Advice
1. Fall in love with yourself first: “A lot of times, we go into a relationship thinking that we’re ready,” Bradford says. “In order for you to be healthy and find excitement and joy in dating again, you must first find excitement and joy in yourself.” Once you’re in a good place both physically and mentally, a man will be able to instantly see that you’re the total package and gravitate towards your energy. Oshima adds, “Be the best version of yourself.”
2. Give it a shot:Â You can’t fall in love with dating if you don’t try! Every date in your past wasn’t a horror story, right? “Think of the ones that were good,” the relationship author explains. “Pay attention to the signs in the early stages of a relationship.” Don’t let previous romantic failures keep you from truly giving dating a shot. “Do what you need to do to get out there,” Oshima says of this dating advice.
3. You have to trust the process:Â If you have trust issues, dating will be hard. “Trust, trust, trust that starting fresh will make you feel good,” Bradford shares. Remember that all men aren’t dogs — trust that the next one you meet will be worth your time.
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This is going to be the shortest article I’ve ever written because, if you are like most people, you’re going to think that next year will be different because it’s a different year. In reality, it will be exactly the same unless you change the way you do your life. So how do you change your dating tactics for the new year?
Relationship Expert Shares Expert Dating Advice for 2018
On this week’s Single in Stilettos dating advice video, founder and relationship expert Suzanne Oshima talks to relationship strategist and coach Cyndi Olin about three things that men want you to know. “There’s a complete disconnect in what women think men want,” Oshima reveals.
Relationship Experts Discuss What Men Want You to Know in Dating Advice Video
1. Men are actually very sensitive:Â Women often think men aren’t sensitive, but that’s just not the case. “In order to feel connected, they need to feel heard and needed,” Olin shares. “And if they don’t feel those two things from a woman, they’re not going to be fully connected or engaged with her.” As much as you want him to understand you, he wants to feel understood as well. “Be curious about him,” Olin adds.
2. Men want to feel needed:Â Expanding on the first secret about men, they also want to feel respectfully needed. “Allowing him to support you is something that fills him up,” Olin explains. “It’s so important for women to realize that, as strong and independent as we are, we love a man who can take care of things for us, who can handle things for us,” Oshima says.
3. Men want to feel appreciated:Â If he feels appreciated for the things that he does, he’s going to do it ten-fold. “In fact, you won’t feel like, in your relationships, you have to do all of the heavy lifting,” the relationship coach explains. “He’s going to do more and more.” Plus, he’ll continue to build you up and support you if he feels like you’re doing the same for him.
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Hello, holidays! Aside from the huge boon this season is to retailers, there’s no other time of year when online dating sites see their biggest spikes in activity. Romance-seekers start wondering: Who do I bring to my company party? Who should I enroll in my family’s festivities? Who’s my plus-one to my coupled best friends’ snowsport weekend? And who’d be in for the ride if they knew I couldn’t have intercourse?
Make no mistake: There are millions of people who remain silent and grapple with that question, and it’s confidence-shattering enough to cause them to dodge dating altogether. Health problems such as diabetes, heart disease, cancers and related treatments, traumas, congenital abnormalities, and even PTSD can preclude individuals from engaging in sexual intercourse — as would be expected in the course of a romantic relationship.
This makes modern-day dating especially tough. There is one online dating site, RomanceOnly.com, that completely eliminates the need to disclose this dilemma. Afterall, Sex-C (sexually-challenged) men and women are no different from anyone else in their needs for affection, companionship, and attraction-based physical connection. Sex-C individuals are also in the same holiday-ting quandary as the rest of singledom. Rather than sidelining the pursuit of someone special, here is some dating advice to improve the Sex-C adult’s chances of kindling a real connection this season.
Jingle, Jingle: Get Out and Mingle!
A person who sees themselves as different in a shameful way can experience crushed self-confidence, which in turn can cause them to avoid social interactions. But in truth, getting outside of oneself, if even just to smile at a stranger, can really make a difference in restoring self-confidence. Talk to that person in line next to you at the grocery store. Accept invitations to parties — and don’t hesitate to go alone! Join a local Meetup group. You’ll not only meet fascinating people, but by being open to being out there, you’ll increase your chances of meeting someone special.
“Remember it’s a numbers game,” says Laura Brashier, the visionary behind the world’s premier Sex-C dating website. Any measure that helps you to be open and upfront from the beginning about the awful quandary of “when and how do I share my secret” serves as one less stressor in dating. But it all starts with building confidence, and that starts with meeting people and finding a common interest. Shared commonalities are the cornerstone of any fulfilling relationship. “True pleasure can be found in a variety of social connections and relationships.”
Spread Holiday Cheer: Go Volunteer!
When people desire a deeper and more satisfying relationship, character counts. You’re not defined by your inability to have intercourse! The holidays abound with opportunities to work alongside other volunteers looking to help those in need. It’s another wonderful chance to get out and do something good for others that will make you feel even better about yourself. If the person next to you is attractive or interesting, don’t hold back in asking them out! Start with something simple, like a coffee date — you’ll know in 30 minutes if there’s a connection.
Date ideas like hiking, dancing, attending concerts, pairing up to take an art or cooking class, spending a couple hours at a museum together, or trying a restaurant that’s new to both people are all ways to gauge common interests. They’re great avenues by which two people can share interesting and meaningful things together, which are building blocks for a solid relationship — friendships and romantic partnerships alike!
“The benefits of such activities extend beyond the immediate pleasure of being together,” says HealthyWomen.org. “The new interests will stimulate your brain and provide numerous new opportunities for conversation.” Finding things in common makes for a nice beginning.
Once you feel you’ve found that special someone to take beyond the mistletoe, there are plenty of options for physical delights outside of intercourse. When you think about sexiness, the authentic allure of a desired person goes beyond the temporal desire of sex itself and rests on a physically sensual connection. It’s a spark, an undeniable urge to share yourself physically with another. RomanceOnly.com offers articles that cover alternatives to intercourse that can spice up any couple’s physical connection.
According to Michael Castleman, M.A., great sex without intercourse means experimenting, which can feel strange. But he says, “Novelty is key to sexual zing. Doing things differently stimulates the brain to release dopamine, and dopamine heightens erotic intensity. Once you get on board with sex without intercourse, it’s pretty easy. It involves the same leisurely, playful, whole-body touching, caressing, and massage that sex therapists recommend to all lovers.”
So for all you Sex-C people, make your holidays merry and bright by putting yourself out there. You have nothing to lose but being alone! Go to some of your local community events, listen to music, and just put yourself out there. Say yes even if you’re tired! When you do meet someone, and even if that the person doesn’t seem like The One, go and just have fun. Always date safely with exit options. The bottom line is that you deserve the companionship you’re after, and you can’t find it until you connect with others.
Cheers to 2018!
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On this week’s Single in Stilettos dating advice video, founder and relationship expert Suzanne Oshima talks to relationship author Duana Welch about how you can find out more about someone before you commit. “Ladies, I don’t want you jumping into a relationship with someone until you really know important things about him,” Oshima explains. So listen up to this expert dating advice!
Relationship Author Duana Welch Shares Her Best Dating Advice
1. Leverage your contact with his friends and family: If he’s crazy about you, he’ll want to introduce you to his friends early on. If he keeps you out of his inner circle, he’s sending a message. When you do meet them, “listen to what they say about him,” Welch shares.
2. Ask him about his ex:Â Specifically, ask him what she would say is the reason they broke up. In Welch’s experience, men answer this question honestly. “You need to listen to his answer — is that something you can live with?” she says. For example, one man said his ex-wife thought he was a slob — and he really was! “Some women are cool with that, but most aren’t,” Welch adds.
3. Google is your friend:Â Almost everybody has a media footprint. Â “Studies show that the way people present themselves on social media is actually pretty accurate,” the relationship author explains. “You would think people would project the image they want, but most people don’t.”
4. Look at what they do:Â Give their actions five times the weight of their words. “Some men are really good at saying what a women wants to hear, so I always say to my clients, ‘Watch their actions,'” Oshima says. Also, remember that honest people don’t proclaim how honest they are. “They make an assumption that they are honest and that the world is honest,” Welch adds.
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By Lori Zaslow and Jenn Zucher for Project Soulmate // Contributing Writer: Shelby King
In just a few short weeks, we’ll be entering 2018 (ah!). The past year has been one for the history books. From the presidential inauguration to the total eclipse of the sun, this year has been one of fast-paced news cycles and memorable moments. It’s hard to imagine leaving 2017 in the past; however, when it comes to an unsuccessful love life, we can hope for nothing more than that in the coming year. Or maybe you have a good love life, but it’s a new year, and you and your partner want to shake things up. Either way, here at Project Soulmate, we have matchmakers and relationship experts Lori Zaslow and Jenn Zucher to supply you with dating advice on how to start the New Year with a bang.
Follow the dating advice below if you want a successful love life in 2018!
