Though the rumors about Jennifer Aniston adopting have finally died down, she’s having a hard time killing the biggest rumor out there. “That I’m unhappy,” the actress tells People. The actress insists, “I’m really happy. Really!” Between the rumors of Jennifer dating, adopting a child and getting a dog, she just can’t catch a break! “I think people honestly just want to see me as a mom and married and barefoot and pregnant in the kitchen,” the actress says. “I just want to say, ‘Everybody, relax! It’s going to happen.’ ” But the star is in no rush. For now, she’s busy promoting her new fragrance and her romantic comedy Just Go with It, which hits theaters today.
If you’re single, February might be the month you dread your family’s seemingly harmless (but nevertheless annoying) questioning of your lifestyle, asking if you have a special someone to spend “that holiday” with. Or, it may be the month you take out your reserved pints of Ben and Jerry’s ice cream and watch sappy movies, wishing you had someone to cuddle with. Either way, the “love” month shouldn’t be for couples only – singles need some love, too! And who better than yourself to give you the love you need? That’s the idea Celeste Friedman hoped to inspire with her book, Single 101: 101 Reasons to Celebrate Being Single, which explains why you should embrace your singleness, instead of looking at it like a a burden. The Grammy-nominated singer/songwriter claims that she has achieved more success flying solo than when she was married or dating. A fun, easy read, along with personal anecdotes anyone can relate to, Single 101 shows you that you can do it alone (and enjoy it – really!) if you want to. In addition, Friedman has created a Single 101 music CD, including original songs that were inspired by her book. She even has a one-woman show that celebrates the single life live on stage.
I had a chance to speak with Friedman via email about her book, as well as her partnership with the American Heart Association’s Go Red for Women campaign, which launches on Valentine’s Day. Take a look at what she had to say:
Ryan Reynolds and Sandra Bullock. Photo: Chris Hatcher / PR Photos
Former Proposal co-stars Ryan Reynolds and Sandra Bullock were seen ringing in the new year at Bess Bistro in Austin, Texas,according to UsMagazine.com. Sources said the two looked “very playful” and were “smiling all the time and sometimes touching.” Reynolds, who filed for divorce from Scarlett Johannson at the end of last year after a two-year marriage, and Bullock, who’s been divorced from Jesse James since last June, may be bonding over their breakups. And although Bullock’s rep says there is nothing going on between Reynolds and Bullock, a friend of Reynolds said that chemistry is obvious between the two.
Can you trust a man to get serious again only a few weeks after leaving his wife?
This weekend at The Times Center in Manhattan, famous legends of film, theater, music and dance will join together to express their shared love for the arts at the 10th Anniversary of Arts & Leisure Weekend. Kicking off the spectacular event tonight will be none other than two-time Academy Award-winning actor-director-producer, Kevin Spacey.
Though currently starring as disgraced former lobbyist Jack Abramoff in Casino Jack, Spacey has a much bigger responsibility serving as creative director of The Old Vic theater in London for the last seven years. So what makes it so easy for Spacey to drop what he’s doing and hop an eight-hour flight to New York? Perhaps it’s because he has no “ball and chain” to hold him back.
That’s right, the 51-year-old film legend’s ring finger bares no band. In fact, it never has! Yet Spacey continues to squeeze out every ounce of creative energy he has in him year after year. Which begs me to question, can being married to the arts act as a healthy alternative to being married to a significant other?
Christie Brinkley. Photo: Charles Norfleet / PR Photos
Even though Christie Brinkley has been divorced for two years, she’s in no hurry to find love again, according to People. Why? According to the model, she’s not as likely to meet people when she has her kids with her, which is a lot of the time. Also, she says, “you never really know if someone is talking to you because you’re a celebrity. It’s not my number one priority.” Brinkley currently has three children, and says that being a mother “takes a lot of work. My works makes me a better mom. It gives me a little door to step out of my parenting and bring the excitement from that day back home.” Her advice to bounce back from a painful divorce? “You’ve got to find a way to keep laughing, even if it’s black humor, and my friends are very good at that,” she says. “Some people think of happiness as a luxury, but it’s a necessity, and you need to make space for it in your life.”
How do you know if someone likes you for the right reasons?
Nicki Minaj is single and ready to date, according to The Hollywood Gossip. Minaj is on the cover of the latest issue of King Magazine and opens up about what she’s looking for in a partner. “Someone who is calm, who is strong enough to not have to win every argument, who allows a woman to be her crazy self and someone with a conscience not to feel less of a man.” We suppose a calm man would be a good balance to the rapper’s wild style.
What are characteristics of a good argument style in a relationship?
2010 is drawing to a close, and the new year will soon be upon us. While this is usually exciting for me, I must admit that I’m not looking forward to watching the clock strike midnight this year. Let me explain. I turn 35 next year. If I’m being honest, I’m scared shitless. Luckily, I still feel and (thanks to great genes), look 25. But no matter how young I look, the fact remains the same: next year I will be 35 and still single. I’ll be single with not even a whiff of any potentials and without ever having experienced a long term relationship. The older I get, the more worried I feel about my singledom.
Just like Jennifer Aniston (and many other single women out there), I’m notoriously unlucky in love. Although Jen has the distinct advantage of having been married to Brad Pitt, whereas I have the advantage of still being in my mid-30’s (Aniston is in her 40’s). Either way, I’m rooting for Jen because I’m sick and tired of the reaction in the media to her lack-of-a-man situation. Everything they say about Aniston are the same things my friends, family and co-workers say about me: “but, she‘s gorgeous,” “but she‘s successful” and “why on earth can’t she keep a man?.” It’s frustrating, it’s tiring and it’s just not fair.
Kristen McGuiness is your average 30-something woman – she has a great career working at a non-profit in Los Angeles and a great boyfriend who might just be The One. But what’s different about McGuiness is how she got to where she is today. As a recovering alcoholic and addict, she knew she had to think outside the box to sort out her priorities. Single, newly sober and exploring a new city, McGuiness decided to try something crazy – but possibly brilliant – to find the new love of her life. A sympathetic boss, a spiritual healer and a handful of blind dates helped her reach her goal of 51 dates in 50 weeks, and which ultimately the unique experience depicted in her book, 51/50: The Magical Adventures of a Single Life. Equal parts hilarious and heart-wrenching, this book takes readers on McGuiness’ personal journey of self-discovery as she imparts valuable wisdom on life, love and the pursuit of happiness. Cupid was lucky enough to talk to McGuiness about what those 51 dates were like, what it’s like to date sober, and how while looking for a man, she ended up finding herself:
Ryan Reynolds and Scarlett Johansson. Photo: Fame Pictures
Another prized Hollywood couple has decided to call it quits. Ryan Reynolds and Scarlett Johansson have officially separated with the intent to divorce, according to People. In a joint statement they say, “After long and careful consideration on both our parts, we’ve decided to end our marriage. We entered our relationship with love, and it’s with love and kindness we leave it. While privacy isn’t expected, it’s certainly appreciated.” Although the pair were just seen out in NYC together last month, a source close to the situation says that it was Johansson who initiated the split. The two wed in 2008 in a private ceremony in Reynold’s hometown of Vancouver.
Leighton Meester. Photo: Bob Charlotte / PR Photos
Leighton Meester has high hopes for true love. According to People, the Gossip Girl star is looking for the kind of relationship that her character on the show, Blair, shares with onscreen love, Chuck Bass (Ed Westwick). “Because the way they love each other is very real, and not for the sake of being dramatic,” says Meester. Though 24 and single, the accomplished actress is far from giving up. “It’s okay if you don’t find him and you’re 24. You can find it someday.”
Called “the mother of all Jewish singles parties” by Time Out New York, The Ball is the nation’s biggest Jewish singles event – and has been for 15 years in a row! In fact, the New York City location alone had 4,000 people attend just last year. Hosted by LetMyPeopleGo.com annually on Dec. 24, this event has been covered by all major news outlets, including The New York Times, New York Magazine and The Washington Post. This year, The Ball will take place in more than 15 cities. Visit www.letmypeoplego.com for details and more videos!
Eva Longoria says that kids aren't in her future. Photo: MOE/FAMEFLYNET PICTURES
Eva Longoria was spotted out and about for the first time since filing for divorce from husband Tony Parker, Us Weekly reports. The starlet was sipping champagne and chatting with friends at Hollywood hot spot Chateau Marmont over the weekend. Dressed in all black, Longoria was smiling and chatting with Jason Biggs and Kate Bosworth. Sources say she looked defeated and that, “She had a grin on her face, but every so often she would stare off into space and looked very sad and somber.”
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Even though Taylor Swift is rumored to be dating Jake Gyllenhaal, she’s still enjoying her independence, reports People. The 20-year-old singer recently appeared on Chelsea Lately to discuss the perks of having her own place. “Living alone you can do so many fantastic things,” Swift told Chelsea Handler. “You can walk around and have conversations with yourself and like, sing your thoughts… I think I’m the only one who does that.”What are benefits to living without a partner?
Christina Milian enjoys being single again. Photo: PRN / PRPhotos.com
Though Christina Milian will be appearing in the holiday movie Christmas Cupid December 12th on ABC Family, she does not plan on being struck by Cupid’s arrow anytime soon. As the singer/actress told People, there is no man in her life now, and she loves being single. Christina Milian recently split from rapper-producer The Dream. The two have an 8-month-old daughter together, and she is her mother’s first priority. She says, “I’m learning about myself all over again. And as far as my daughter, I will never bring anyone into her life that I don’t have a real connection with. I’m going to protect her. I don’t just bring anyone into my life or her life.”What are some of the perks of being single? Continue reading →
Kim Kardashian is embracing her new role in life — the single life, reports People. The reality star says it was difficult to see both her sisters settle down while she chose a more career-oriented path. Kim Kardashian admits, “I have always been the one in a relationship. I like that role, I want that best friend partnership.” Today, Kim feels more comfortable being single and has stopped jumping from relationship to relationship.What can you do to embrace the single life while waiting for Mr. Right? Continue reading →
Christina Aguilera. Photo: Janet Mayer / PR Photos
By Jessica Downey of Chicago Now’s All the Single Ladies
Christina Aguilera recently divorced Jordan Bratman, and she is about to turn 30 in December. I am at the opposite end of things – I just turned 30, and I have never been married (read that as I am totally and completely single).
When I was 20, I thought that I would be married or at least in a really serious relationship by the age of 30. And it’s not that I think 30 is old by any means or that I had some sort of timeline but at that time, 30 just seemed so far away. I mean, 10 years is a pretty long time; plenty of time to meet a guy, fall in love and get married.
Obviously as I went into this year, I figured out that marriage probably wasn’t going to happen. Technically, it didn’t take me that long to figure it out, but I mean, you really never know what can happen. But as my birthday got closer and closer, I kind of liked the idea of having a boyfriend or at least a date by my side on that day.
By Laurie Davis, Founder of eFlirt Expert and eFlirt Expert VIP
We’ve all heard the line “If you’ve got it, flaunt it.” Now, some of the biggest celebrities in the business are proving that your best physical assets mean everything. To many of them, that’s several million. Hollywood’s finest are getting their vital parts insured — the physical attributes that give them star power — and it shouldn’t come as a surprise that these body parts are often the things that we’re most attracted to in the opposite sex. Whether on the silver screen or at the local watering hole, your trademark asset sets you apart for all of the other singles out there. Simply showing off your physical assets can help you snag that cutie sans cheesy pick-up lines. Celebrities have proved that our flirting assets can literally be one in a million. So, just how much are we talking?
Country crooner Taylor Swift may be putting her dating history into hit songs, but don’t think that she dates men just for the musical inspiration. And don’t bother asking her about who her songs are referring to, because she’s not about to tell you. “I will say everything in my music,” she tells People. But despite her emotionally heavy songs, Swift is currently embracing the single life, saying, “Being single is wonderful and I love it. I don’t ever have a morning where I wake up and say, ‘I really need to find a boyfriend today.'”
Kim Kardashian explains falling out with Rob. Photo: ROC/Fame Pictures
Kim Kardashian’s not too happy with sharing the spotlight, but it’s not her sisters she’s worried about – it’s her boyfriends. The reality star is planning on staying single for awhile, and blames the constant camera attention for complicating her love life. Kardashian told US Magazine that being single “is a lot easier” than trying to “figure out who likes me for really me (and) who wants to be on a show.” The star’s ex, Dallas Cowboys’ player Miles Austin, reportedly loved the attention he got from Kardashian’s show. As she prepares to begin shooting Kim and Kourtney Take New York, in which Kim and her sister will open a new boutique in the Big Apple, she looks forward to remaining single. “This was like, for me, the perfect time to come to New York, because I’m single,” she says. “I just felt like I kind of wanted a fresh start.”
Rupert Grint, Emma Watson and Daniel Radcliffe. Photo: Barcroft/Fame Pictures
Even though Daniel Radcliffe probably has the power to “cast a spell” over any woman he chooses, the Harry Potter star has vowed to remain single during his upcoming stint on Broadway. Radcliffe will be returning to the stage in “How to Succeed in Business without Really Trying,” and has told Dazed and Confused magazine that he wants to enjoy being single during the show, particularly because of his tempting cast mates. “I’ve been in relationships from the age of 14, and now I’m single,” said Radcliffe. “I said to a friend the other day, ‘Dude, I’m doing a show with dancers. I’ve got to be single.'” Radcliffe added, “He was like, ‘Don’t sleep with anyone in your own show. That’s a mistake.’ It’s good advice. But I’m not sure I’ll stick to it.”
Is there a point when playing the field goes too far?
A happy marriage may be among life’s greatest pleasures, but there’s a lot to be said for living single. For too long, single men and women have been portrayed as unlovable, irresponsible, selfish, or childish. (The media tend to portray single celebs in their 20s as sexy, but once she — and in this case, it’s usually a she — turns 30, the question, “Is there anyone special in your life?” comes with increasing frequency and feigned concern.)
It’s time to celebrate two unmarried women who make single living desirable, and they’re both well over 30. If you’re not there yet, they’ll give you plenty to aspire to; if you are, they’ll give you reasons to be cheerful.
From reality dating shows to speed dating events to eHarmony commercials, it seems like everyone is in a race to the altar. Today’s society might make it seem like being single is not an option and that it’s just a phase until you find “the one.” Michelle Cove documented people on their journeys to find love in her new film, Seeking Happily Ever After, and inadvertently found gourds of proud singles out there.
In her companion book Seeking Happily Ever After: How to navigate the ups and downs of being single without losing your mind (and finding lasting love along the way), Cove explores why there have been more single women than ever lately, while allowing single women to reclaim their own stories. With wit, humor and sage advice, Cove uses others’ stories to answer questions raised during filming and creates a self-help book expressly for women who are single and loving it.
2010 SingleWomenRule.com Blog Crawl for National Unmarried and Single Americans Week
September 19 — 25, 2010
Crawl over to a new blog by Dr. Bella DePaulo, All Things Single (And More), where Rachel Buddeberg will share her musings.
Bella DePaulo (Ph.D., Harvard) is the author of Singled Out, Single with Attitude, and a blog “All Things Single (and More).” She also writes the “Living Single” blog for Psychology Today. Her op-ed essays have appeared in publications such as The New York Times, the Chronicle of Higher Education, and Forbes.
RachelBuddeberg, a feminist and freethinking humanist in the San Francisco Bay area, muses on her blog about meaning making; redefining community and relationships to build alternative ways of relating, which avoid cultural trances and thus support equality and democracy; and anything else that interests her.
