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Question from Carrie F.: My boyfriend and I have been dating for over a year, and lately, I’ve been worried that he’s talking to an ex behind my back. Is it okay if I look for proof on his phone before I confront him? I don’t want to say anything to him unless I’m 100 percent sure.
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Question from Julia Y.: Because of my job, it’s important that I always keep my phone handy so I can be available in case there’s an emergency. Will a new guy get the wrong impression if I text during a date?
If you’re looking for dating advice on what texting on a date says to your partner, then keep reading to see what our relationship experts had to say!
Question from Carolynn R.: I’ve been texting this guy, and he’s really nice, but he keeps asking me for pictures — not nude pictures, just pictures. It seems a bit weird to me, and I don’t know if this means he’s going to ask for more revealing ones in the future. Am I just being paranoid, or is this as weird as I think it is?
Keep reading to see what dating advice the relationship experts had for Carolynn!
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Question from Mary Kate K.: I have a friend that has been dating this guy for almost 2 years. It seems like every other day she’s uploading a picture of the two of them with some caption like, “the love of my life and I enjoying dinner at our favorite restaurant” or “look at the flowers my boyfriend gave me after a hard day!” I’m happy for her…but I’m also sick to my stomach. How do I nicely tell her to tone it down?
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On this week’s Single in Stilettos relationship advice video, matchmaker Suzanne Oshima and dating expert Robert Manni reveal the five things women need to know about men when they’re dating!
Question from Anna C.: I’ve had a crush on my neighbor for a while, and he finally asked me out on a date! Since we’ve lived near each other for nearly a year, we’re already friends on Facebook. Of course, I’ve looked at his profile in that time, and I feel like I really know him. On our date, is it okay to bring up something I saw on his profile, or should I avoid mentioning anything I’ve learned from social media stalking?
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Question from Carrie K.: When I first meet a nice guy and we become friends on Facebook, I always try to think of a way to show him I might be interested. Is there a way to subtly do so without looking like a stalker or totally desperate?
Question from Catherine A.: My boyfriend’s siblings and parents recently friend-requested me on Facebook. I don’t have anything bad on there, but I’m still worried. Should I accept their friend requests? Would it be worse not to? What if we break up?
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On this week’s dating advice video from Single in Stilettos, matchmaker Suzanne Oshima and relationship author Robert Manni give us five ways to survive a first date. Check out what these relationship experts have to say!
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Question from Mandy G.: I went on a first date with a great guy this weekend, but we didn’t make plans to see each other again. I want to connect with him on Facebook without seeming overeager. How soon can I send him a friend request?
Relationship advice video, matchmaker Suzanne Oshima talks to relationship author Robert Manni about how to improve your chances of finding love.
Relationship Advice Video Gives Tips On Finding Love
We all know that finding someone special isn’t easy. If it were, then everyone would be in love, right? In this relationship advice video, these dating experts agree that, with these four tips, your chances of finding a relationship and love will increase.
1. Put the gadgets away: Your cell phone, computer, or tablet is creating a barrier between you and any man that wants to meet you. By holding your phone or looking at your laptop in a coffee shop, it seems like you’re busy and don’t want to be bothered.
2. Pay attention: It’s important to pay attention and be fully present. Notice the men around you and be open to meeting them organically.
3. Get real: Be realistic and clear about who you are and what you’re looking for. Once you know what you want, don’t focus on a long list of “must haves.” If you do, you’ll be single for a long time!
4. Reach out: If you had a great time, it’s important to acknowledge and follow-up after the first date. Be available and don’t wait too long to schedule the second date. You don’t want him to lose interest.
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Question from Jenny T.: I have a lifestyle blog where I constantly post updates about my friendships, favorite fashion, recipes, and occasionally my love life. I started dating a new guy about two weeks ago. Can I blog about our dates and how I feel about him, or is it too soon to share those details about our relationship?
On this week’s Single in Stilettos show, founder and matchmaker Suzanne Oshima talks to dating expert and relationship author Robert Manni about what women don’t know about men.
Dating Expert Reveals What Women Don’t Know About Men
According to this relationship advice video, there are three things that women don’t know about men. First, men are not that complicated. The dating expert says that they are very simple creatures — what you see is what you get! Second, they don’t pay attention. They’re consumed with their own lives and often forget to focus on the details of their relationship. If you want him to open up, you have to ease him into it; otherwise, you might scare him away. And finally, men aren’t mind readers. If you feel a certain way, you need to tell him because he probably won’t figure it out on his own. Armed with this love advice, you’ll be ready for your next date!
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Question from Elissa B.: I’ve been seeing this guy for a few months now, and anytime we’re not together, he always texts me and never calls. Whether he’s seeing how my day is going or we’re trying to arrange our plans for the weekend, he only texts. What does this behavior say about our relationship and about him?
Question from Kaitlin B.: It sounds silly, but I think a lot about my texts before I send them to a guy I’ve just met. When and how do I play hard to get while texting? What things should I consider before pressing send?
On this week’s Single in Stilettos show, founder Suzanne Oshima and dating coach Robert Manni discuss how to talk about being exclusive with your beau. The author of The Guys’ Guy’s Guide to Love shares five important things to remember when you bring up this subject: make sure it’s a good time to have a serious conversation; do it in person; let him know it means a lot to you; never give him an ultimatum; and remember that it’s about what you both want.
Ultimately, it’s a conversation between the two of you. Although you may be focused on sharing your feelings with your partner, be sure to listen to him in return. Pay attention to how he responds. If he says he’s just not ready, respect his wishes and be patient. However, if he says he doesn’t want to be exclusive with you, it may be time to move on.
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Question from Jane C.: This guy and I have been dating for a few months now, and everything is going great, but I sometimes get bothered by the way he interacts with other girls on social media. It will pop up on my Facebook Newsfeed that he’s liked a bunch of girl’s photos or commented on some girl’s picture. Should I read into this, or am I just being paranoid?
Suzanne K. Oshima, Matchmaker: When you’re dating someone exclusively, it just means that you’re not going to date other people. It doesn’t mean that he can’t be friends with other women or like their photos on Facebook.
However, that being said, his behavior could be inappropriate based on the type of photos he’s liking or commenting on. If the photos are innocent in nature, then I wouldn’t be so worried. But if the photos are sexy or provocative photos of the women and he’s making inappropriate comments, then it’s definitely a red flag that he may have a wandering eye. Not to mention the fact that it’s completely disrespectful to you! If the tables were reversed, I’m sure he wouldn’t appreciate you liking and commenting on photos of other men with their shirts off or flexing their muscles.
It’s not something that I would say you should break up over. However, it is something that you should keep an eye out for.
Paige Wyatt, Reality Star: The way people interact online can give you a good insight to their personality. In your boyfriend’s case, he seems to be flirty and outgoing. He doesn’t think twice when he comments on girls’ pictures or posts on their walls because that’s his personality. He probably doesn’t see anything wrong with it. His online interactions are completely innocent to him because he doesn’t think too deeply into them. Although it may not be a problem to him, it is for you. It’s important to be open and honest with your feelings and opinions, so let him know what you’re thinking. Otherwise, he may never change his behavior.
Robert Manni, Guy’s Guy: It’s called social media for a reason. People connect online and socialize. Unfortunately, a lot of guys raised on social media think the way to score dates is sitting in front of their laptops in their tightey whiteys and hitting on random women. And that could be the case here. Without knowing the parameters of Jane’s relationship, it’s easy to condemn this guy for blatantly flirting while he’s dating Jane.
If they’re in an exclusive relationship, Jane might ask why he’s so friendly with these other women. If he’s evasive or she doesn’t buy his answer, she has some choices. She can put up with it (not recommended), return the favor and also flirt online, or start dating other people — at least until he realizes what’s good for guys can be very good for the ladies.
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On this week’s Single in Stilettos show, founder Suzanne Oshima talks to Robert Manni, author of The Guys’ Guy’s Guide to Love, about how to get a second date. It’s easy to get him to say yes to a first date, but securing another night out with the right guy can be a bit trickier. Here are some tips that Manni recommends following: have confidence; don’t drink too much; dress the part; talk about your dreams; have a conversation and really get to know him; and send a “thank you” text afterwards.
Question from Amelia S.: This guy who my friend has been hanging out with a lot will randomly message me on Facebook whenever I’m online. It’s always harmless stuff like, “What are you up to?” but it still catches me off guard. Should I tell her, and if so, what’s the best way to bring up the subject?
Suzanne K. Oshima, Matchmaker: You know that saying “you’re stuck between a rock and a hard place?” Well, guess what? You’re in a no-win situation! From what you said, it sounds like your friend just likes him and isn’t dating him yet, so “technically,” she can’t get upset that he’s contacting you. Now, I say “technically” because we both know that, if you tell her, she will be upset and hurt.
Now, while you may think that his messages to you are completely harmless, men don’t do things without some sort of intention. Without knowing the entire situation, I’m going to guess that he’s not just looking for a friend and that those harmless messages are going to lead to something more.
So here’s my advice to you: If you truly value your friendship with your friend and have no interest whatsoever in this guy, then I suggest you ignore his “harmless messages”…because it’s just going to lead to a no-win situation for everyone involved.
Paige Wyatt, Reality Star: Absolutely tell your friend that this guy has been messaging you. If it truly is harmless, he won’t be embarrassed or upset if she brings it up. If he does have an ulterior motive, then you warned your friend, and it’s now her move. It’s much better to be honest with your friends about situations like this one. If you didn’t tell her and she found out, she may get upset with you. If it really is nothing, then what’s the harm in letting her know?
Robert Manni, Guy’s Guy: Some say where there’s smoke, there’s fire. In this case, it’s hard not to miss the smoke — but let’s not rush to judgement. When a guy is really interested in a woman, his focus is on her, and he curtails his flirting. Maybe this guy just wants to establish good relationships with his leading lady’s BFFs. Still, I’m not sure if this is the best way to do it. He must know that girlfriends talk. And when friends talk about the curious actions of a guy, his behavior and character go under the microscope. At this point, I’m not sure that’s in his best interests.
As for you, for now, I suggest you either ignore his Facebook messages or keep the exchanges polite. Over time, his true intentions will surface. When they do, you can determine if it’s necessary to let your friend know about his correspondence.
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On this week’s Single in Stilettos show, founder Suzanne Oshima talks to Robert Manni, dating coach and author of The Guy’s Guys Guide to Love, about how to know if the man you’re dating is The One. Here are five signs that he’s not your soul mate: He’s too jealous; he overindulges when it comes to drugs or alcohol; he has different views than you about money; he doesn’t want to be around your family; and he’s abusive in some way.
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Question from Charlie W.: When I first meet someone, I always add them on Facebook, Twitter, and Instagram and do the inevitable cyber-stalking that everyone does but no one wants to admit. Are there signs that show if someone is the relationship type or just looking to have a good time?
On this week’s Single in Stilettos show, founder Suzanne Oshima talks to dating coach and author Robert Manni about how to be successful with online dating. He answers the following questions: What are the three main things men look for in an online dating profile? What should you do if you’re not getting a response? How can a woman contact a man without seeming desperate?
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Question from Alex S.: My boyfriend and I have been dating for almost six months. Every once in a while, I’ll see a text on his phone pop up from his ex. He says they’re just friends, and he’s even introduced me to her before, but my girlfriends tell me that it’s weird and that I should ask to read their messages. What do you think?
