On this week’s Single in Stilettos show, founder Suzanne Oshima talks to dating expert Robert Manni about five ways that women sabotage themselves with men when it comes to dating. Ladies, the biggest mistakes that you tend to make include: always being “plugged in” and never letting go of your smartphone; not fishing where the fish are; traveling in groups; sticking too closely to your checklist of must-haves in a guy; and breaking up with him too soon. If you want to find true love, stop sabotaging yourself and learn how to avoid these pitfalls!
Jonah Hill makes out with new girlfriend in L.A. park. Photo: Andrew Evans / PR Photos
By Louisa Gonzales
Jonah Hill wasn’t shy about showing some pubic displays of affection with his new girlfriend Brooke Glazer in Los Angles on Mother’s Day, Sunday, May 11, according to UsMagazine.com. The new couple, were spotted getting in some sun with the actor’s, 30, pet dog on the grass at La Cienega Park and even indulged in some “making out” an eyewitness says. Reportedly Glazer, who is a nutritionist, and Hill, who recently split from girlfriend of 8 months Isabelle McNally, made their debut as a couple last month at Comme Ca in West Hollywood where they dined together.
What are some ways to show you care for your partner in public?
Wedding bells were in the air last week for Destiny’s Child singer, Kelly Rowland, according to UsMagazine.com. Rowland and her boyfriend/manager, Tim Witherspoon, wed on May 9 in beautiful Costa Rica. The couple’s guest list rounded out to about 30 people, including Beyonce and her sister Solange, according to UsMagazine.com.
Where are three tropical paradises that make a good wedding venue?
Can this damaged marriage be repaired? Despite the rumors, not much has changed between Paula Patton and ex-husband Robin Thicke. The couple parted ways in February and said in a statement, “We will always love each other and be best friends.” According to UsMagazine.com, the 38-year-old actress told Vanity Fair that the two will always share a “deep love” with one another. In the recent issue, the Baggage Claim star went on to say, “We’ve known each other since we were teenagers. All I can tell you is there’s a deep love there — always was and always will be.” She continued: “He wasn’t my first kiss, but he was my first lots of other things.”
What are some ways to remain friends with your ex after a breakup?
Cupid’s Advice:
Remaining friends with your ex seems virtually impossible, especially when you are dealing with the post-breakup blues and lingering resentment. Cupid has some questions for you to consider:
1. Were you friends before the relationship? If the answer is yes, a breakup can lead to one of two things: you despise each other and completely ruin your friendship OR you go back to being strictly platonic friends. Most couples who were friends before entering a romantic relationship find it less difficult to transition back to that. If you and your ex-partner were pals before lovers, try reverting.
2. Was the split a mutual decision? Being friends after a breakup is most likely to happen if the separation was a mutual agreement. If things ended on not-so-bad terms, you both will be more willing to just be friends instead. However, if you weren’t able to agree on anything in the relationship (which may be a reason why it ended), then you possibly won’t even agree on having a friendship afterwards.
3. Do your loved ones like your ex? If your family and friends absolutely love and adore your ex, you will probably be more persuaded to befriend them. The constant questions on why you are talking or hanging out with your ex will be slim to none because you already have their approval.
How do you remain friends post-breakup? Share your thoughts below.
Couple looking lovingly at each other in bed. Photo: auremar / Bigstock.com
By Shannon Seibert
You heard right: Date while you’re married — your significant other, that is! In this day and age, it’s too easy to fall prey to life’s whirlwind and neglect your marriage. Keep your love alive by capturing your partner’s attention using all of your old tricks with a new flavor. We’ve gathered these five articles from our partners to help you and your man fall even deeper in love with each other:
Jessica Meuse, 23, stood out on this season of American Idol — and not just because of her trademark pink hair. The singer from Slapout, Alabama, personified cool-rocker-chick, and her honest and easygoing attitude made her a favorite to both fans and judges. Many competitors get pigeonholed into a single genre, but she admits to being influenced by every genre of music. Her singing style is a mix of gritty rock with metal and country notes.
The singer said her ultimate goal was to stay true to herself and bare her soul to the audience — especially when she sang her original song “Blue-Eyed Lie” this week. “I lived it; that happened to me, word for word. It’s like taking my diary and reading it on national television.”
In 2011, she self-released an album called “What’s So Hard About Bein’ a Man.” All of the songs were influenced by her own life experiences, and most of them focus on dark and serious subjects. Meuse has said this is because she wants her music to give hope to others in similar situations. “Writing my own songs about heartbreak and tough situations teaches me how to let go and just not worry about things you can’t control anymore.”
The contestant’s vocals were praised each week, but the judges repeatedly criticized her on her lack of stage presence and connection with the audience. Keith Urban even said she didn’t have enough “release.” Fans complained that she was picked on more than the other singers, but she chalks it up to part of the experience. “At times, I felt picked on, but it’s part of the game. I know I have bigger things ahead of me, and I’m going to make them happen,” she shares.
She does wish she could have sang more original material though. “I didn’t let not singing originals frustrate me because I do know a lot of cover songs from singing three to four hour gigs at home, but I really would’ve liked to do originals — at least one a week just because that’s who I am as an artist.”
Meuse also agrees that stage presence was most difficult for her — but she did improve during her time on stage. “I believe that I have shown emotion, and I’m growing as an artist,” she explains. “There’s always stuff to work on, but I think I’ve grown a lot on the show. It’s definitely different from singing in a bar where you’re kind of just in the corner and only the bartender is looking at you.”
It’s no surprise that the scrutiny can be unnerving. “You’re on national television, and everyone is looking at how your eye twitches. So it’s definitely something you have to get used to,” she says. “But I feel like I came into my own, and I figured myself out on the stage, so I’m very proud of that.”
When you’re in an environment like Idol, it’s stressful to say the least. And when you’re also in a relationship, being apart for that long can create a rift. Unfortunately, that’s what happened to Meuse and her boyfriend, Steven Atkins. Although he came to support her during a few of the live shows, ultimately, they went their separate ways. “Being on the show did affect my relationship to the point where it didn’t work anymore, and we’ve actually been apart for about a month now,” she shares. “It’s just not the right time, but he’s a good guy. Sometimes, situations just bring out the worst in people.”
But heartache and stress are nothing new for the talented musician, and she’s determined to achieve all of her goals. “The limits that you have are only the ones you put on yourself. If you really want something, you just have to work for it. After all, I went from singing in a smoky bar with pneumonia to singing on national television.”
This isn’t the last you’ll see of Jess! You can catch her on the American Idol summer tour. Until then, keep up with her on Twitter @JessMeuse.
Charlize Theron dating Sean Penn, looked sweet walking the red carpet hand-in-hand at the Metropolitan Museum of Art’s Costume Institute Gala in New York City on May 5, according to UsMagazine.com. At the star-studded event Theron, 38, dazzled in a strapless Dior Haute Couture white crepe gown with navy and black satin running along the sides. Penn, 53, went for the traditional tux and white shirt look. The lovely couple stayed close together holding hands as they made their way down the carpet into the ball, which is holding a celebration for the opening of the Charles James: Beyond Fashion exhibition this year. The two actors made their first public outing as couple in early January while they vacationed in Hawaii and since then have attended several other events very much together.
How do you show you care about your partner in public?
Cupid’s Advice:
Being in a relationship can be a lot of fun. It’s nice to have someone to rely on or simply just have someone there for you, which is why it is important to be able to show you care. Cupid has some advice on how to show you care about your partner in public way:
1. Hold hands in public: There is nothing wrong with showing some PDA from time to time. Just like Charlize Theron and Sean Penn, holding hands is one of the simplest ways you can show you care, and it isn’t too flashy or over the top. Taking hold of your partner’s hand is just a small gesture to show your lovebird you’re proud of being with him or her.
2. Gush about them to family and friends: Yes, it can be annoying when people talk about their significant others too much, but that doesn’t mean you shouldn’t talk about them at all. Don’t be afraid to rave about your awesome beau from time to time, because it’s a nice way to show both them and the other people in your life how much you care.
3. Perform some displays of affection: There are many different ways for you to show affection toward you sweetheart. It can be as small as opening the door for them in public or as big as dedicating a song to them when you’re at a club or restaurant. Together you can define the types of affection you’re comfortable displaying in public. Just make sure you are both on the same page and are considerate of each other’s feelings.
How would you show you care about your partner in public? Share in the comments below.
Jay-Z staged a mock proposal to Beyonce on the red carpet at the 2014 Costume Institute Gala in New York City on Monday, May 5, according to UsMagazine.com. The rapper came to the “Pretty Hurts” singer’s rescue after the ring she wore on her right hand accidentally fell off her finger. The “Holy Grail” rapper, 44, didn’t just hand the ring back to his bride. Instead, he performed a mock proposal for his wife and the cameras. The power couple, who dazzled at the annual event, are currently getting ready for their joint upcoming summer ‘On the Run’ tour in the U.S. and in Canada.
What are some ways to keep the spark in your relationship?
Cupid’s Advice:
When you first get together with someone, it’s new and exciting. But when you’ve been with the same person for a long time, you can sometimes fall into what feels like a rut. Relationships can constantly change, and being with your partner for a long time doesn’t mean you can’t still experience new and fun things. Cupid has some advice on some ways to keep the spark in your relationship:
1. Recreate your first date: It can be fun to go back to the beginning, experience things all over again, but also see how much things have changed. Memories are important things and some we will cherish and remember forever, but that doesn’t mean we can’t go back and relive them. It could be fun to go “back in time” for a night and recreate the magic all over again.
2. Try something new together: What makes the beginning of relationship so exciting is the fact everything is new. So, trying new things together will keep things fresh and the fires burning. Do something you both have talked about doing or haven’t done yet, try activities like skydiving or try traveling somewhere you’ve never been, it doesn’t matter what you do just make it an adventure and something to remember.
3. Dress up for each other from time to time: Sure, you may already have that special someone in your life, but that doesn’t mean you should stop taking care of yourself or dressing up for them. Don’t just get all dolled up for date nights, try doing it sometime when you’re home and make a boring night turn into a romantic evening in. Having a little fun in your relationship, like dressing up for your beau, can help with keeping the passion alive between the two of you.
What do you think are some good ways to keep the spark in your relationship alive? Share your tips below.
Interview by Lori Bizzoco. Written by Maria Darbenzio.
Lisa Winning and Carrie Henderson McDermott, founders of HeTexted.com, are two women with different relationship statuses, but they both know the difficulties that come along with dating in the age of technology. In their new book, He Texted: The Ultimate Guide to Decoding Guys, they help women through various situations and suggest how to handle guy problems. With how rapidly digital media continues to expand, this guide is a must-have for every girl’s bookshelf.
Kanye West and Kim Kardashian shoot down marriage rumors. Photo: Janet Mayer / PRPhotos.com
By Louisa Gonzales
Kim Kardashian and Kanye West are not married, yet. According to People, the rumors about the recent Vogue cover couple getting hitched in a secret ceremony over the weekend in Los Angles are false. A close family friend of Kardashian, 33, confirms this news, while the rapper’s reps have no comment about the gossip. West, 36, and the Keeping Up With The Kardashians star are set to tie the knot on May 24 in France at opulent Chateau Louis XIV.
What are some advantages of keeping your wedding under wraps?
Cupid’s Advice:
Planning to get married is an exciting time in any couple’s relationship, but it also can be stressful. Marriage is a big decision and commitment, so it can be nice to be able to share news of your engagement to people, however there’s nothing wrong with not saying anything about it until you’re ready. Cupid has some advice on some advantages of keeping your wedding under wraps:
1. It will make it more special: There’s something exciting about having something known just between you and your special someone. Holding onto information until you are ready, is not a bad thing, it can be a good thing in fact because it can help strengthen your relationship. Marriage is between you and your partner, no one else, sure you’re both becoming a part of each other’s families as well, but that doesn’t mean you can’t have things on your own.
2. You can make it your way: There’s a lot of time, energy and effort that goes into wedding planning, but also in other new life changing things like deciding living arrangements. So, it can be nice to get advice from others, such as friends and family sometimes, but not on everything, especially the big decisions. Just think the less people who know, the better chance you have at not getting influenced by other’s and actually making your dream wedding, not anyone else’s.
3. Less pressure: One big up sides of keeping your wedding under wraps is you won’t feel the pressure of others, which will in turn make things less difficult for you. Sometimes wedding planning can get stressful, especially when you’re worrying about other people’s expectations, when really you should just be focusing on yours and your better half. Don’t worry about what other people will think, about the wedding, your partner, your union, whatever, instead remember why you want to get married.
What do you think are some advantages of keeping your wedding under wraps? Share in the comments below.
Angelina Jolie and Brad Pitt. Photo: Starmax / PRPhotos.com
By Louisa Gonzales
Angelina Jolie and fiancé Brad Pitt are expected to come together again on the big screen, according to People.com. It will be the Hollywood couple’s first time acting with each other since their work in the 2005 blockbuster film, Mr. & Mrs. Smith. This new movie will be based on a script written by Jolie, which is all the public knows right now. There is still no word on the genre, release date, or studio, but it may be a relationship drama. Jolie is currently getting ready for the May release of the Disney film Maleficent and also working on post-production for the film Unbroken, which she directed.
With celebrity couples like Jolie and Pitt, work life can often overlap with personal responsibilities. What are some ways to combine your job with your relationship and love?
Celebrity hairstylist Tabatha Coffey is more than just an expert on bouncy curls and shiny locks. Known for her business expertise and tough-love approach while helping restore struggling salons on Bravo’s reality TV show Tabatha Takes Over, it’s no wonder the questions from viewers inspired the star to put her profitable advice on paper. In her new book Own It! Be the Boss of Your Life — Home and in the Workplace, she provides readers with the tools to be successful not only in their professional lives but in their personal lives as well.
Tori Spelling and Dean McDermott were photographed together in Los Angeles enjoying a couples massage. After the recent discovery of McDermott’s affair with Emily Goodhand, the couple has been on the rocks. Recently, Spelling was hospitalized for intense headaches and McDermott was there to support her. The pair have four children together, but the trust-factor is up in the air. “It makes you not trust anything that’s happened in your relationship,” Spelling told UsMagazine.com.
What are some ways to keep your marriage alive?
Cupid’s Advice:
Ideas of marriage have transformed over the last century. In this day and age it’s difficult to uphold the traditionalist views of marriage, which can lead to cheating, scandal and fall-out. To keep the love alive it is a process that both partners have to be invested in to make ends meet.
1. Take a trip without leaving: Maybe it’s just a little “You and Him” time that you need. A stay-cation is a great idea for worker-bees to relax with each other and focus on the love they always had. Throw some beach towels out in the back yard, fill a cooler, and have some fun in the sun with your man.
2. Give up the gadgets: In a modern world of cell-phone and virtual communication, it can be difficult to establish a personal connection. You and your honey try leaving the phones, computers and devices in another room for a night, and just enjoy each other’s company. You’ll be surprised by the levels of conversation you can reach without a phone screen between you!
3. Renew and revise your vows: Ideas of marriage have been constantly evolving, so naturally, the traditional marriage vows should keep up with the change in pace. Go through the vows you and your man took on your special day, and see how you’ve kept up with your promises. If you see the results aren’t what you originally thought, go for some modern revisions. Try “I vow to pick the kids up from practice when I say I will” or “I promise I will listen to you talk about your day.” These may seem small, but in the scheme of a marriage, these vows can make every bit of difference in it being successful.
How do you keep your marriage strong? Tell us in the comments below!
'Real Housewives of Orange County' Stars Shannon Beador, Heather Dubrow, Vicki Gunvalson, Tamra Barney, and Lizzie Rovsek. Photo: Rudy Martinez/Bravo Media
By Brittany Stubbs
Our favorite Bravo ladies are back in the Real Housewives of Orange County. You may have thought you met all the bombshells this season, but joining the reality TV cast on tonight’s episode is the much-anticipated wife, mother, and former pageant star Lizzie Rovsek. As any Housewives fan knows, with new women, we can expect new drama. And Rovsek makes it clear her debut will be no exception to the rule.
We all know that breakups are painful. Whether you’re the one breaking someone’s heart or the one being dumped, the situation is inevitably unpleasant. Instead of vacationing on the island of Splitsville surrounded by an emotion ocean, keep your heartbreak clean and classy. Here are five articles from our partners to help you survive the breakup blues:
1. Don’t be “that girl”: As tough as it may be to face your partner, indirect breakups are never the answer. If you are the one breaking it off, it’s best to be respectable and ladylike. Check out these people who made the mistake of using social media to do their dirty work. (YourTango.com)
2.If he cuts you off, cut him out: There is nothing worse than going on Facebook and seeing your ex with new arm candy after a recent split. To help the moving on process, clean up your social media. Take down your old pictures, unfriend or unfollow him, and stop checking in on him every day. Lucky for you, in this day and age, there’s an app for that. (YourTango.com)
3. Keep yourself busy: Wallowing in unreciprocated emotions isn’t a positive way of moving forward. Try taking on new tasks or a new hobby. For example, yoga is a great way to cleanse a broken heart while getting into better shape. Take a look at this article, which shows that even Ivanka Trump’s young daughter Arabella can do it. (CelebrityBabyScoop.com)
4. Don’t text him: Texting is an easy way to get yourself into trouble. If you ever wonder if you should reach out to him after you say your goodbyes, the answer is always no. Use this texting guide to avoid uncomfortable situations. (GalTime.com)
5. Ex is for example: Use this breakup as a learning opportunity for yourself and figure out what you don’t want in a relationship. Stop dating the wrong guys and find someone who you see in your future. (GalTime.com)
What have you done to survive a tough breakup? Tell us in the comments below!
We all know that breakups are painful. Whether you’re the one breaking someone’s heart or the one being dumped, the situation is inevitably unpleasant. Instead of vacationing on the island of Splitsville surrounded by an emotion ocean, keep your heartbreak clean and classy. Here are five articles from our partners to help you survive the breakup blues:
1. Don’t be “that girl”: As tough as it may be to face your partner, indirect breakups are never the answer. If you are the one breaking it off, it’s best to be respectable and ladylike. Check out these people who made the mistake of using social media to do their dirty work. (YourTango.com)
2.If he cuts you off, cut him out: There is nothing worse than going on Facebook and seeing your ex with new arm candy after a recent split. To help the moving on process, clean up your social media. Take down your old pictures, unfriend or unfollow him, and stop checking in on him every day. Lucky for you, in this day and age, there’s an app for that. (YourTango.com)
3. Keep yourself busy: Wallowing in unreciprocated emotions isn’t a positive way of moving forward. Try taking on new tasks or a new hobby. For example, yoga is a great way to cleanse a broken heart while getting into better shape. Take a look at this article, which shows that even Ivanka Trump’s young daughter Arabella can do it. (CelebrityBabyScoop.com)
4. Don’t text him: Texting is an easy way to get yourself into trouble. If you ever wonder if you should reach out to him after you say your goodbyes, the answer is always no. Use this texting guide to avoid uncomfortable situations. (GalTime.com)
5. Ex is for example: Use this breakup as a learning opportunity for yourself and figure out what you don’t want in a relationship. Stop dating the wrong guys and find someone who you see in your future. (GalTime.com)
What have you done to survive a tough breakup? Tell us in the comments below!
Go on a rock climbing date this weekend! Photo: Dudarev Mikhail / Bigstock.com
By Amanda Boyer
You and your partner are tired of the typical dinner-and-a-movie and need a new date idea. You want to do something that will get your feet moving and your heart rate up. To integrate some exercise into your normal routine, follow this relationship advice and plan a rock climbing date! You can check out an indoor gym if it’s still chilly where you live or head outside if the weather has warmed up enough. …Want to know more? Click here!
On this week’s Single in Stilettos show, founder Suzanne Oshima talks to dating coach Tripp about the five things men wish women knew about them. First, men like when women want to get to know them. Next, they love when women are affectionate. They also communicate on a more logical level — an important thing for women to understand. Men like when you ask them for help. And finally, men like compliments just as much as women.
You and your ex broke things off pretty quickly, and now you’re thinking about giving the romance a second try. Maybe the two of you are still in love, or perhaps you’re finally on your way to being on friendly terms with your former flame. Either way, you might want to ask yourself some questions before you officially decide to rekindle the spark. Cupid has some advice:
Tony Dovolani and NeNe Leakes. Photo: ABC/Adam Taylor
Interview by Whitney Johnson. Written by Maria Darbenzio and Liz Kim.
Tony Dovolani has come a long way from the three-year-old learning to folk dance in Prishtina, Kosova. Early on, Dovolani’s father discovered that his son had a knack for both dance and music. Dovolani eventually became a professional ballroom dancer and has been on ABC’s Dancing With the Stars for a whopping 17 seasons now.
A baby really does change your life, and Tila Tequila can vouch for that. According to UsMagazine.com, the 32-year-old former reality star announced her pregnancy earlier this week on April 18, and expressed the deep emotion she already feels for her baby boy or girl: “It has been quite a painful journey for me, and I never thought I was going to make it out alive. So to be able to do a total 180 and finally be blessed with my first child gets me so emotional that I can barely even handle it,” she says. “The only difference is that now these tears I cry are of joy, and no longer of sadness.” Tila Tequila took a lot of hits over the years, from the 2010 death of fiancée Casey Johnson, a 2012 rehab stay, and many times she described as “hurtful, embarrassing, and sometimes erratic.” She told Us, “My side of the story has never been truly told over the past five years, as I have kept so much bottled inside of me.” The A Shot at Love with Tila Tequila star went on to gush about her little bun in the oven, saying, “I truly feel that my baby has saved my life, and I will do whatever it takes to give my little baby the whole entire world!” she vows. “I know I’m going to cry so much when the baby is finally born later this year.”
What are some ways pregnancy can strengthen your relationship?
Couple on a date. Photo: EastWestImaging / Bigstock.com
By Maria Darbenzio
We all know that trends come and go. This idea holds true for the dating world too. What you’re used to now may not have been the same during the time of your grandparents, and it’ll certainly change again when your grandchildren are dating. Still, some things remain classic. We pulled these five articles from our partners to keep you up-to-date on relationship trends:
1. Open relationships: Although most people believe in monogamy, there seems to be a rise in couples who practice an open relationship. Some even think it’s a way to keep their marriage from ending in divorce. Experts have used the recent split of Gwyneth Paltrow and Chris Martin as an example. Take a look at this article to find out more. (YourTango.com)
2. Dating through the ages: It’s no secret that the rules of dating change as you get older. Looking for love in your teens is radically different than dating in your 30s. Check out this video that explains how age impacts the way people view relationships. (GalTime.com)
3. Baby before marriage: It seems like more and more couples are having children before marriage. Much like Ashton Kutcher and Mila Kunis, the sequence of love seem to have been altered with the current generation. Although plenty of couples continue to marry first, as long as both parents take the responsibility that comes with a child, this alternative approach doesn’t seem as harmful to relationships as some may think. (GalTime.com)
4. Going green: Loving the Earth shouldn’t be designated to just one day, and Raphael Sbarge feels the same way. As becoming Earth conscious gains popularity, so do the combined efforts of partners looking to lessen their ecological footprint. Whether it’s buying cloth diapers for your child, supporting local farmers, or composting for your garden, this is one topic that deserves to stay in fashion. (CelebrityBabyScoop.com)
5. Timeless classics: Not everything needs to change with the time. A simple ‘I love you’ can say more than one would think. Breaking Bad star Aaron Paul knows how to brighten his wife’s life — and how to make us fall more in love with him! Check out how he makes Lauren feel like a queen each day. (YourTango.com)
What are some other trends and/or timeless classics when it comes to relationships? Share in the comments below!
