Expert Relationship Advice: How to Move On After Being Ghosted

By Megan Weks

Ghosted? Congratulations! While it may hurt to be left alone without any explanation, this expert relationship advice will help you see how ghosting can be a positive thing for your dating life.

Reference the expert relationship advice below when you’re feeling the dating blues!

Last night, a client told me how a man she had planned a date with seemingly fell off the face of the earth, except for one thing: the haunting green light on his Match account was lit up. He was online. His photos and approach were so entirely normal that I could not deem this man a scammer, a player, or anything in between. Frankly, it made the situation worse. It’s easier when you can say, “This looks like a fake account” or “You dodged a bullet.”

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My client was trying to move on and was doing great until that same man sent a message saying, “I have not heard back from you in response to my last few messages.” The fishy thing was that my client had been writing to him and had not heard back. She explained that in her next message. Was it a glitch with Match? Could it be some sort of deranged, crossed e-mail lines? She wrote him several times, reassuring him that she had written back. Flatline.

Did this man make the most lame excuse on the planet to dodge the date he had previously seemed so excited to attend? We may never know. As my client told her story, I felt knots in the pit of my stomach. Dating can be extremely discouraging already. This behavior, while unlikely a technical glitch, was completely outside of the realm of integrity that would line up with my client. She is a person who dedicates her life selflessly to others and deserves the utmost quality in her future mate.

When I finished scratching my head, I realized this truth: Some people are completely inept in telling you that they are not interested. One reason may simply be because they don’t care. The other reason is that they actually care but cannot bring themselves to express the words.

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I want you to know that, if you’re doing a good job putting yourself out there, you will come across some low-grade individuals — people who have little or no aptitude for dating whatsoever. It’s going to be par for the course. While your dating life may not be the latest celebrity news, it’s still a tumultuous and painful journey.

What might be less obvious to you is that it’s a sign you’re on the right track. You’re on the right track because you are taking the risks to get out there and to take the good with the bad. If you’re doing that, you’re already winning.

The path toward finding The One can be bumpy. It’s those who are willing to face the bumps and persevere who will find their love. Keep going. Rejection is simply redirection. It’s the universe’s way of sending you one step closer toward your right person. Trust my love advice — it will help you avoid any more unnecessary heartbreak.

You were ghosted? Congratulations. NEXT!

For more information about dating expert Megan Weks, visit her website at www.meganweks.com. For more expert relationship advice articles from Megan, click here.