Cupid's Pulse Article: The Bachelor 17, Episode 9: Sean Lowe Sends AshLee Frazier HomeCupid's Pulse Article: The Bachelor 17, Episode 9: Sean Lowe Sends AshLee Frazier Home

By Jared Sais

On last night’s episode of The Bachelor, Sean Lowe and his final three ladies traveled to Thailand for the highly-anticipated overnight dates. So what did their body language reveal about Sean’s chances for finding true love? Read on to find out!


First, let’s analyze one of Sean’s micro-expressions. When speaking about the potential for Lindsay to be his future wife, Sean raised his eyebrows, meaning he was surprised about this possibility. I’m sure the raised eyebrows were related to Lindsay’s first night in a wedding dress and how Sean thought she was crazy (as did I). But now, to everyone’s surprise, she’s in the top three (two!).

As for body language, when Lindsay was speaking with Sean on the beach, she did two very common non-verbal cues that indicated she was sexually frustrated. She let her voice drop to a whisper and also bit her lip. Both cues mean one thing: that there is a strong attraction between these two and that spending intimate time together is on their minds.

By nodding her head as she said, “I am ready to settle down,” Lindsay affirmed that she was telling the truth.

When Sean asks if “this woman” could be his wife, I am reminded of Bill Clinton when he spoke about Monica Lewinsky. I knew Bill was lying when he used the phrase “that woman” instead of her name. This word choice is so telling because it puts distance between the two people involved. So while Sean may like Lindsay, he likes AshLee and Catherine more.

Also, when answering this question, Sean did a big shoulder shrug as he said “yes,” meaning that he’s unsure of what he just said.

As a side note, did anyone else want that sidecar motorcycle? I would also like to say that I’m in the bug club too. Yep, I’ve eaten a bug.

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When she was talking about Sean, AshLee did a micro-expression of a smile plus a nose wrinkle, which is a sign of flirtation. Now, a wrinkled noise could mean disgust, but when combined with a true smile (as it was in this case), it’s a positive sign.

When they were together and speaking on the couch back in the hotel, Sean showed micro-expressions of sadness. He got emotional when speaking about his future with AshLee, revealing that he really likes her.

Moving on to their body language, AshLee did a head tilt, which is one of the most common non-verbal cues of attraction and flirtation.

Both had gazing eyes, a sign of strong feelings. When your pupils and eyes widen, it’s an indicator that you like what you see. The reason behind this idea is that, when you like something or someone, you let more light come in and allow your pupils to dilate so that you can see more clearly.

As Sean said, “I am falling in love with her,” he was speaking the truth. He nodded and looked straight ahead; there was no sign of deceit.

When Ashlee was crying in her video at the end, you can see Sean’s Adam’s apple jump a few times, which indicates strong emotion. He was sad seeing AshLee sad. Knowing what ultimately happens, I wonder if that was a turn-off for him. Plus, he showed shame when viewing her video – I’m pretty sure had had already decided that he was sending her home.

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When Sean said, “I can see myself marrying you,” he does a full smile, showing that he honestly means what he said.

As for Catherine, she had open hand gestures (palms shown and faced towards Sean). When kissing on the boat, Sean held her around the neck, which indicates extreme attraction and sexual lust. When girls toss their hair or tuck their hair behind their ear, one of the main purposes of doing so is to show their neck, which is a non-verbal cue of vulnerability and attraction. As they kiss, Sean caresses her neck, meaning Sean and Catherine have crazy intense feelings for each other. Remember that sometimes the most meaningful and romantic touches are on the neck.

When Catharine gets the letter about the fantasy suite, she responds by saying “I would love to” and does a double shoulder raise, not a shrug. This non-verbal cue is a sign of flirtation.

When he said that she was smoking hot, he had bedroom eyes: the lowering of his head with eyes that gaze upwards, right into Catherine’s eyes. Sexy, right?

“Can I see myself marrying Catherine? The answer is yes.” See, he used her name, unlike when he said an almost identical sentence about Lindsay.

Also, whether we realize it or not, music plays a big role in how we feel about the girls. A lot of people forget to pay attention to the music, but I guarantee it played a major role in whom you liked and didn’t like.


Honestly, I was leaning towards AshLee as the runner-up with Lindsay going home tonight. This is the second week that Sean’s non-verbal cues towards Lindsay have been strange and off-putting. But there can only be one winner, and my money is on Catherine — so I’m still in the game!

I wonder if Sean picked AshLee to go home tonight because of something that happened in the fantasy suite, something that we didn’t see. I did notice one thing that might indicate a clash of personalities. On their date, AshLee’s wine glass was almost empty, while Sean’s wine glass was almost totally full. This difference could be a sign that Sean might see AshLee as a  “wild girl.”

On a similar note, AshLee may have been a bit too intimidating for Sean. I wonder if she moved too fast. Or did something happen off-camera that put a doubt on their future together? Either way, I can’t wait to tune in next week and see what AshLee says on The Women Tell All special!

Jared Sais is co-author of the website The Non-Verbal Game. He is an expert in non-verbal communication, who specializes in body language, micro-expressions and lie deception as they relate to life and love.