Cupid's Pulse Article: Ask The Guy’s Guy: If He Isn’t Ready To Date, What Should I Do?Cupid's Pulse Article: Ask The Guy’s Guy: If He Isn’t Ready To Date, What Should I Do?

By Robert Manni

Question from Olivia MacBeth (Binghamton, NY): “What should I do if the guy I really like isn’t ready to date yet? Should I keep waiting or should I move on?”

Keep waiting or move on?

When a guy says he “isn’t ready to date yet” there are usually only two reasons for his hesitancy to go out with with a great woman like you. The first consideration is that he’s coming out of a painful break up and needs time to lick his wounds before jumping back into shark-infested dating waters. If this is the case, I suggest you give him some time. Maybe let him heal for a month or so, but that’s it. You both need to get on with your lives. If he needs a little time, make sure he’s being truthful, then clock his behavior while his heart “heals” and watch how he handles the situation. Every guy gets dumped, but what often separates one man from another is how they handle challenging matters of the heart. Of course you want  to date guy who’s in touch with his feelings, but if he’s still pining for his ex after a certain period of time, that a signal that it’s time for you to move on.
On the other hand, it a guy has not recently come out of a break up but is still hesitant about dating you, that’s another story which does not have happy ending. When a guy is single and available, yet remains non-committal about dating you, that means one of two things. He’s either interested in someone else or he’s just not that into you. If either is the case, take a deep breath, exhale, hold your head high, and move on.
After all, do you really want to wait around for a guy who is not jumping at the chance to date you? I doubt it.
Hope this helps. Good luck.

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