Cupid's Pulse Article: Expert Dating Advice On How To Handle Dating A PlayerCupid's Pulse Article: Expert Dating Advice On How To Handle Dating A Player

On this week’s episode of Single in Stilettos, founder and matchmaker Suzanne Oshima talks dating advice with relationship expert Robert Manni. Speaking from a guy’s perspective, Manni provides dating advice on dating a player and how to know if you’re looking into the eyes of one.

Relationship Expert Talks Dating Advice: How To Handle Dating A Player

When women think of a player, oftentimes they think they can change them, but Manni says otherwise. “I certainly think anybody can evolve and I don’t think that it’s the women’s responsibility to change a man,” he says. “I think you can lead the horse to water but he has to drink. So a man has to want to change and he has to want to change for the right reason. If a women is there to support him in his desire to be the best he can be that’s the best case scenario.”

1. Signals of a player. On your first date, does he have something planned? Does he pick up the check…does he pick up anything other than his phone? Did he ask you out in person or over the phone, as in speaking on the phone? If a majority of your answers are no, chances are this guy is at the plate ready to bat.

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2. Get to know him better. As Manni says, “Text only gives you a portion of what that other person is.” As a woman, you have to speak up. Tell him you want to talk over the phone, tell him you want to get to know him better. But don’t demand it, put the idea on the table in a flirty, playful way. “Regardless of the situation when a man and woman first meet each other they have to take the time and prioritize the need to learn about the other person,” Manni says.

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3. Be yourself. When competing against the model types and the classic womanizers, the only way to stand out for men and women alike is to be your authentic self and to be confident in who you are.

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Providing guys with a guide to love in his book, Manni now offers women his best dating tip from the man’s perspective: “The things that every guy seeks in women is somebody who understands him and is supportive of what their ambition, goal, or dream is. And if you can make the man feel that you believe in them they will be putty in your hands.”

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