Cupid's Pulse Article: Relationship Expert Talks What’s Wrong With Men In The Dating WorldCupid's Pulse Article: Relationship Expert Talks What’s Wrong With Men In The Dating World

By Jared Sais

As a relationship expert, I’ve heard some of the worst dating stories. I’m sure, like my friends, you too have been on some bad dates. Sometimes the men are only after one thing. Sometimes they just don’t know how to actually have a conversation with you. And sometimes they have no manners and barely plan the date. This article will do two things. First, I will call out the rude, bizarre, and ugly behavior men are showing women on dates. Second, I will share my love advice on how women should handle situations like these.

Relationship Expert Says What To Do On A Bad Date

Let’s look at a couple scenarios and then I’ll give my expert dating advice.

Scenario 1: The girl picks up the guy in front of his apartment. It’s 7 p.m. and the girl hasn’t eaten and is quite hungry. She is excited as she sits in the car anxiously. She took the time to make sure she looked nice. Then the man walks out of his building in workout gear. Long shorts, ragged shirt, and hair a mess. He gets in the car and tells the girl that they’re going to a nice place. Needless to say, she’s a bit dumbfounded by the way he chose to put himself together. He tells her where to go and they wind up at a sports bar. As they get into the bar he sees a group of his friends and orders two beers, one for him and one for her. The night ends two hours later and he decides to stay with his friends, leaving the girl to drive home from the bar.

Now, I’m sure your mouth is on the floor by now, but this situation might also look familiar. And if so, this is what you can do next time:

– Call them out on how they’ve presented themselves.

– Tell them you haven’t had dinner yet.

– Tell them the date is over if they don’t treat you right.

– If they don’t show you respect or have class, they’re not worth your time.

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Scenario 2: The girl took time getting ready and even wore a new outfit. It’s 8 p.m. and she only ate a tiny bit as the guy said they were getting food together. As the girl meets the guy, he decides to change the plans and wants to head to a bar for a drink first. They get a drink each and he only pays for his, leaving her to pay for her own. During the drinks they speak about getting food and more about him. He never asks one question about her and what she likes. They finish their drinks and head back to his car. They start to drive and wind up back at her car. He says he’ll get food on the way home and that he feels tired. So the girl drives home and eats back at her place.

What to do if this happens to you:

– Leave and never call him back, ever.

– Again, call him out on his behavior.

– The man should pay for the first few dates. Call me old school but it’s just classy and shows good manners. Of course, the girl should offer to split but the guy should decline and pay.

– If the plans change, step it up in scale. So if you want to change plans, make it bigger and better, not smaller and worse.

– If you agree to food on the date, then that is a must. Don’t ditch the main event. It’s rude.

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What is wrong with men today? They aren’t dressing to par, they aren’t paying, they only want a physical relationship and love, they show zero class, and worst of all, they’re disrespectful to women. There are good guys out there, ladies, but there may be awkwardness, which will happen to a guy that really likes you. They will pay for the date, open the door and want to get to know you.

As a relationship expert, I see good guys get the boot due to some silly reason, while idiot men who won’t even care about a woman’s day get all the buzz and attention. This leads to a constant cycle of bad dates and sadness. But, this isn’t all the woman’s fault, not in the slightest. Men need to really bring their game up. Be a classy guy, show you care about the way you look, and act with gratitude. Open doors, pay for the meal and look for something real in the woman you’re dating. Not every date needs to be perfect but try and put some thought into it to make it nice. I think the perfect date is at a coffee shop, from 5-8 p.m., where there’s quiet music to take away from any first date awkwardness.

Jared Sais is the co-author of the website The Non-Verbal Game, where you can find free downloadable content. He is a dating expert in non-verbal communication, who specializes in body language, micro-expressions, and lie deception as they relate to relationships and love.