By Taylor Cast of The Urban Dater
First impressions are incredibly important, and even more so when it comes to dating. People make a snap decision when they meet someone if that person is going to be a friend or potential date. Instant decisions are an innate process in us, and most of the time we don’t change our mind. I have met men who in theory are exactly what I want, but they failed to impress, and I lost the urge to pursue dating them. Or men who in their dating profiles are good looking, they have great “stats,” and then they misspell something. For example, the last guy to message me said in his profile that he is “very intelligant.” Afraid not pal.
When we first meet a person we size them up, make judgments and decide if this person is going to get us naked. My roommate will not date a man who shows up with dirty shoes. So if his white sneakers have the slightest tinge of dirt on them, she is done with him. I eliminate men based on their literary knowledge. It may be silly, but we all do it. A guy friend of mine wouldn’t even entertain the idea of dating a brunette, because blondes were his “thing.” We decide that a person isn’t for us based on that first minute or so.
