Cupid's Pulse Article: Dating: First Impressions – Part ICupid's Pulse Article: Dating: First Impressions – Part I

By Taylor Cast of The Urban Dater

First impressions are incredibly important, and even more so when it comes to dating.  People make a snap decision when they meet someone if that person is going to be a friend or potential date.  Instant decisions are an innate process in us, and most of the time we don’t change our mind.  I have met men who in theory are exactly what I want, but they failed to impress, and I lost the urge to pursue dating them.  Or men who in their dating profiles are good looking, they have great “stats,” and then they misspell something.  For example, the last guy to message me said in his profile that he is “very intelligant.”  Afraid not pal.

When we first meet a person we size them up, make judgments and decide if this person is going to get us naked.  My roommate will not date a man who shows up with dirty shoes.  So if his white sneakers have the slightest tinge of dirt on them, she is done with him.  I eliminate men based on their literary knowledge.  It may be silly, but we all do it.  A guy friend of mine wouldn’t even entertain the idea of dating a brunette, because blondes were his “thing.”  We decide that a person isn’t for us based on that first minute or so.

Now pretend you’re a famous celebrity: a star whom the world knows.  Every detail of your life is published for the masses to consume.  Oh, and you’re single.  No, thank you.  I can’t imagine what it is like to date as a celebrity, where most of the public thinks they “know” you.  To have all of those preconceived notions out there about you and then to meet someone and show them who you really are.  How difficult must it be to be Jennifer Aniston?  Most of the public pities her for the end of her marriage and inability to find a partner.  Can you imagine what it’s like for her to meet someone and go on a first date?

Dating is difficult enough, but to have the obstacle of being incredibly famous must at times feel like an incredible burden.  I’m sure Jennifer Aniston has her own ideas of what she wants in a man, and first impressions must count ten fold to her than any of the rest of us.  That man has to follow in the steps of Brad Pitt.  BRAD PITT.  I don’t know if there could be bigger shoes to fill.

For the second part to this series, visit us on Thursday for The Urban Dater’s male perspective from Alex V.