Choosing a mate involves enough numbers to make the process a math equation, but daters of both genders place the most importance on a lot of the wrong ones. From a bird’s eye perspective, it doesn’t make sense to prioritize such an uncontrollable physical characteristic as height, but as superficial as it may seem, biology is at work here. Women tend to go for taller men because of the masculinity and protectiveness it implies, while men seek out more petite girls who make them feel like a strong lumberjack of a guy.
I could tell you all day long that height is irrelevant in the long run and that, by following this primal urge, you’re effectively ruling out a painful number of worthy potential partners who could make you feel just as meek or manly as someone who meets your height requirement would. But since it would be fruitless for me to simply suggest we all fight Mother Nature, here’s a Dating with Dignity guide to how men and women who weren’t blessed with traditionally ideal genes can exude the right qualities.
If you’re the guy who was always chosen last to play basketball in gym class and are a regular at the tailor to have new pants hemmed, you may have low expectations for your love life. If you hone other parts of your appearance and personality, however, you’ll communicate power, presence, and an ability to protect no matter your magnitude:
Confidence: Many men express confidence by overcompensating and acting like a jerk, but simply being comfortable and carrying yourself accordingly will do. Don’t forget that confidence is also associated with ambition and an overall happiness with your looks and personality. If you’re not quite there yet, perhaps you’re better off working on yourself for a while before hitting the dating game hard; it’ll benefit both you and your romantic prospects.
Appearance: Height aside, overall appearance is an undeniable attraction factor — especially when attempting to snag a lady’s initial interest. Take care to dress well but also in a way that suits you, both size- and personality-wise. A well-groomed man with an eye for fashion can make a lack of height unnoticeable. Similarly, maintaining your physical shape can gives a solid sense of that protective quality women seek in men.
Personality: While you may feel as though you have to embrace an abrupt and coarse demeanor to make up for your lack of height, kindness still matters and is especially desirable in a long-term mate. Believe it or not, kindness can still be considered masculine, so long as you express it with that confidence you’ve honed and refrain from becoming a doormat. Simply treat others, especially your lady, with respect, consideration, and compassion and stand up for what you believe in. That’s sexier to us than being able to slam dunk a basketball.
Many men find height in women imposing, no matter how charismatic and warm you may be. The key to attracting a man who may normally shy away from taller gals is to exude femininity and appear approachable, even if that means doing the approaching yourself.
Confidence: Though making the first move may seem like the opposite of appearing less intimidating, it may be your job to break the ice. Use your feminine wiles and approach him in a flirty, natural way to avoid seeming forward or “ballsy.” Once he’s had the chance to talk to you for just a few minutes, he’ll likely see what a warm and welcoming person you are, and all the rest will fall away.
Appearance: You may be inclined to slouch to appear shorter, but improving your posture makes you appear more self-assured. Be sure to smile often and openly. Don’t be afraid to sling a smile at the cute guy in the next aisle at the grocery store or across the bar; it’s the most surefire way to express your effusive personality and make someone feel more comfortable and open to approaching you.
Personality: If you’re into soccer and fly-fishing and have an active career, by all means go for it — but try to balance it out through your relationship’s dynamic. Allow yourself to be vulnerable and maybe even have your new guy take care of some of the fix-it tasks around your apartment early on, even if you’re fully capable of handling them yourself. Making your man feel needed and giving him ample chance to take care of you will make your height difference irrelevant.
Marni Battista, founder of Dating with Dignity, is an expert dating and life coach with a 10-step system to manifesting love for your self and others. You can contact Marni at marni@datingwithdignity.com.
There are two things Hollywood is full of: reality shows and celebrity children. LeAnn Rimes and Eddie Cibrian, who have their own upcoming reality show on VH1, toldUsMagazine.com that they are wanting to bring some children into the mix. “He’s the best Dad already,” said Rimes. “I have a little bit of experience with the kids now so, I feel like I wouldn’t be too crazed. It doesn’t feel like a real first, first!” Cibrian has two children with ex-wife Brandi Glanville, sons Mason and Jake. After Rimes’ comment on kids, Cibrian joked, “Look, maybe we should just get another dog and then see how that goes.” Rimes said, “Other than the reason of us wanting to work together and be home with the kids, why not have fun and poke fun at everything that’s gone on for the last five years.”
How can you tell if your relationship is strong enough to take on children?
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Once a couple has been together for a certain amount of time, many might start thinking about whether their partner is family material, and questions of whether or not they want kids and how many they want can start popping up in conversations. This might be one of the most important conversations you can have in life. After all, it’s not just deciding to have a baby and bask in the newborn happiness. This decision will affect you for the rest of your life, and these kids are going to become adults. If you and your partner are talking about having kids, you’d better be sure you can handle them:
1. Want the kids before you have them: Maybe you’ve never really liked children, or you’ve had a bad experience with them in the past. No matter how it came about, some people just don’t like being around children. This doesn’t mean you won’t want kids eventually, but you have to know what you’re getting yourself into. If one partner wants kids and the other doesn’t, a child would only create a gap in the relationship. Maybe the idea of a child seems nice, but you haven’t been around kids much. Surround yourself with young relatives or babysit for a friend; get experience with children so you can be 100 percent sure you want children:
2. Give them a sense of permanence: A child is a lifelong responsibility, and you should be willing to show it. An apartment that works for you and your partner might not be big enough for a child, or it might have some big safety risks. Make sure you’re ready for a child to be in your life before you even plan on having one. This means buying cribs, creating a nursery, and thinking of good schools in the area. Not only will you be better prepared for a child, but you’re showing your partner that you’re dedicated and not going anywhere.
3. Be ready for a big change in the relationship: A child will completely change the relationship between you and your partner, and you need to be ready for it. If you two have had the same routine for years, try making changes to your schedule and seeing you it affects your mood. Time that you spend with each other might now be spent with the baby, or trying to catch up on sleep. Not only will you be a couple, but you will be parents, completely changing the nature of your relationship. New tasks, schedules, and feelings are going to put your relationship to the test, so make sure you’re ready for it.
How has having children affected your relationship? Let us know in the comments!
There’s nothing wrong with knowing what you want in a future boyfriend or girlfriend; in fact, you shouldn’t settle for just anybody. But, there comes a point when unrealistic standards may actually be what’s keeping you from finding Mr. or Mrs. Right. If you are turning down a potentially great relationship because he has a funny hairstyle or she has “man hands,” a la Jerry Seinfield, then it’s time to reevaluate your priorities and loosen up a little. Below are a few signs that your standards are too high when it comes to dating:
Who knew pregnancy could look so good? Stacy Keibler shows off her bun in the oven on the cover of Fit Pregnancy June/July issue and talks about her love, husband Jared Pobre. According to UsMagazine.com, the 34-year-old actress opened up about how Pobre gave her a new outlook on wanting a family: “”Before we met, both Jared and I had told our parents we didn’t think we’d ever get married or have kids,” said the Supermarket Superstar host.”But when you’re with the right person, everything changes.” “My epiphany happened shortly after Jared and I started dating, and once we both knew, we didn’t hesitate,” the mom-to-be and wife added. “I just knew I was ready and that there’s no one else in the world I would want to do this with.” Keibler also gave a couple of her tricks to maintaining a slender figure and youthful skin, which are prenatal pilates and a natural beauty routine.
How do you know when you’ve found “the one”?
Cupid’s Advice:
When love crosses your path, it is indeed one of the greatest, memorable feelings. You are on cloud nine and there is no coming down. Plus, the stomach butterflies do not seem to be going away anytime soon. And if you have not experienced this yet, you are patiently waiting on the moment. Nevertheless, knowing when you have met that special person that is the reason for your insane feelings always brings up the question “Is he/she the one?” Cupid has some advice to help you figure it all out:
1. You are 100% yourself: Coming across someone who fully accepts your personality, flaws and all, is similar to finding a four leaf clover. Fortunately, when that one does come around, they are hard to pass up – the person who understands your humor, accepts your lifestyle, and so forth. If you are never hesitant to say what is on your mind or do something completely out of the norm and they value it, chances are you are a step closer to recognizing ‘the one.’
2. The fire continuously burns: A connection should always be felt between you and your partner, even if it is years down the line. ‘The one’ will constantly shower you with affection and appreciation.
3. Mutual understanding: A confirmation on if you genuinely have met your match usually comes about in certain situations, such as you and your partner working out a problem instead of arguing and remaining stagnant. The conversations evolve and include “we” and “us” instead of “I” and “me”. If you notice more growth individually and together, then you have probably found “the one”.
What are some ways to know you have found true love? Share your thoughts below.
Go rock climbing for your next date. Photo: TEA / Bigstock.com
By Leslie Chavez
If you’re tired of your go-to movie and dinner date, shake things up this weekend then plan an adventure date that will lead to a spontaneous and exciting day that you’ll both be talking about for weeks to come. Get inventive and think of something that you two have always wanted to do together but have never found the time, money or…courage.
Sharing your engagement on Instagram, sending out rehearsal dinner invites via Facebook, and getting wedding ideas from Pinterest — social media is everywhere these days, and weddings are no exception. Well, for most people anyways. According to the eighth annual “What’s on Brides’ Minds” survey by David’s Bridal, 44 percent of brides think that digital rules are important at weddings, while 14 percent are completely banning cell phones from their special days. That means no photos, tweets, or status updates! It’s rumored that Kim Kardashian and Kanye West have set this rule for their wedding this weekend.
Even if social media isn’t allowed at your ceremony and reception, that doesn’t mean it won’t be part of your wedding at all. Page after page of Pinterest boards are dedicated to wedding décor ideas, and brides are known to bring a friend to judge their dress over Skype if she can’t be there in person. These are both simple ways to use technology to make your wedding exactly how you want it.
Other couples use social media to make their wedding an Internet sensation. There’s the usual practice of putting wedding photos on Facebook, but some people go the extra mile and put videos of their wedding on YouTube or broadcast the entire occasion via video chat. In fact, 36 percent of people surveyed thought that Skype was a good way to open the chapel doors to guests who can’t attend in person.
The survey further shows that many brides have acknowledged the role social media plays and have their own dos and don’ts for their weddings. For example, 62 percent of brides believe that the bridesmaids should not post photos of the bride in her dress before the ceremony, while 58 perfect of brides think that they or their husbands should be the first people to post wedding pictures. A smaller number of brides — only 22 percent — think that they should be the only ones posting wedding photos at all.
Of course, pictures aren’t the only way to let people know about your wedding. 56 percent of brides will update their social media profiles with their new name within a day of the wedding, and 10 percent will even do it while the wedding is still happening!
So whether you plan on letting your wedding become the next YouTube sensation or you’re going to put cell phones on hold like Kimye, it’s clear that social media will probably play some part in your big day. Just don’t forget to #livehappilyeverafter!
What is your opinion on social media etiquette at weddings? Let us know in the comments below!
Angelina Jolie and Brad Pitt. Photo: API/FAMEFLYNET PICTURES
By Sanetra Richards
Another Angelina Jolie and Brad Pitt movie is in the works! However, it is not a Mr. and Mrs. Smith: Part Two . . . yet. Although their first project together was a memorable action film, the next one with the famous couple will be the exact opposite. According to UsMagazine.com, the 38-year-old actress opened up in an interview with Extra on Tuesday, May 20, about the new film. “It’s not a big movie; it’s not an action movie,” the Maleficient star shared. “It’s the kind of movie we love but aren’t often cast in. It’s a very experimental, independent-type film where we get to be actors together and be really raw, open, try things.”
The Oscar winner and mother of six also gushed about her celebrity love: “He’s my family. He’s not just a lover and partner, which is wonderful, but he’s my family now…We have history; we work hard to make it great; and we don’t kind of relax about it and take each other for granted.” Jolie admitted that the Hollywood couple does run into a few trials and tribulations, saying, “Like everybody, we have our challenges, but we’re fighting to make it great.”
When this Hollywood couple films another movie, they’ll be spending a lot more time together. What are some drawbacks to working with your partner?
When CupidsPulse.com asked me to write an article on this topic, I stopped for a minute to reflect upon two emails I received this week, both requesting my help: one from a man who was struggling terribly to let go of his ex-girlfriend and move on, and the other from a lady with the subject “heartbroken.” The end of a relationship can be extremely difficult, and I never underestimate the pain of a breakup. In severe cases, it is truly debilitating, causing mental anguish and physical turmoil, affecting your health, and leading to weight loss and other associated illnesses.
Of course, the degree of distress is dependent on how a relationship ends. For example, if both of you have come to the conclusion that the relationship has “run its course” and each have apathy for the other, then the most likely feeling you’ll have is melancholy. You’ll wish each other well and mean it. In these cases, I recommend doing things that bring you joy to counteract the blues: dance, sing, surround yourself with friends, whatever makes you happy.
There’s also the “chipping away” of a relationship from bickering, lack of sex, lack of respect, etc. If these things have ultimately led to the end of your relationship, then relief is usually the first emotion felt. During this stage, I suggest doing things to rediscover yourself, like taking up a hobby or interest, pampering yourself, or taking some much needed “me” time.
If your relationship ends because of betrayal or immoral or unethical behavior, you will experience deep agony. The ending is usually swift and extremely hard to comprehend. Understanding the process (and yes, it is a process) will make it easier for you. Know that what you are going through is not uncommon and that having the rights tools in your tool belt will assist you as you handle your loss.
Here are some other feelings you may experience during a hurtful split:
Pain can be both emotional and physical. I always tell my clients that “pain indicates change is needed or change is in progress.” Do not push away the pain; instead, feelit. If you deny the feeling, you’re only prolonging the inevitable. People ruminate when they are in emotional distress, which is perfectly fine for a short time. However, if extended, it can cause sickness.
Within weeks, you have to move on from the feel-think, feel-think, feel-think merry-go-round and do something positive to make it better. Remember that the way out of any negative thought is to follow it with a positive action.
Anger is a very frequently expressed emotion. As a certified transactional analysis, I use “child” and “adult” as forms of communication styles. With that in mind, there are four types of anger:
1. Frustration is created from a deep dissatisfaction from unresolved problems or unfulfilled needs.
2. Resentment is a bitter feeling of persistent ill will.
3. Denial is a defense mechanism in which confrontation with reality is avoided by denying the existence of the problem.
The three angers above are all child angers and are not healthy in the aid of moving on and letting go.
4. Indignant is adult anger in its simplest form, and it merely means you are logically angry about the situation. It’s perfectly healthy to display your anger if done with facts and reasoning and not for an extensive amount of time.
Sadness comes after the pain has eased and the anger has subsided. It is, of course, sad to acknowledge that someone you loved deeply betrayed your relationship and that the future plans you had together will not happen. You miss that person and the special moments you shared. It’s okay to mourn; in fact, it’s normal, and it would be highly unusual if you didn’t.
Just make sure that this phase doesn’t continue for an extended period. Remember to keep reminding yourself the reason why your relationship ended.
Acceptance is the last stage. There will be a day when you wake up and realize that it’s over and that you survived. It didn’t kill you, but it did make you stronger. When looking back at the relationship, you understand completely that it wasn’t what you initially thought and that your ex was less than you deserve. It’s the relationships that don’t last forever that teach us the lessons that will.
You now have what I call a “clear head, clear heart” — both of which are necessary to start dating again. So get out there and enjoy the excitement of meeting someone new. You never know what it might lead to!
Melanie Mar is a celebrity relationship specialist, matchmaker and life coach.
On this week’s Single in Stilettos show, dating coach Jonathon Aslay talks to founder Suzanne Oshima about the five best places to meet men. If you’re ready to find a new guy, he recommends that you: think about what you like to do and what you’re passionate about; head to high-end business seminars; go to your church or synagogue; try online dating; or look more closely at other forms of social media, like Facebook or Twitter.
It seems like Zoe Kravitz has a new man in her life. According to People, Zoe Kravitz dating Noah Becker, 20, was spotted in New York City on Thursday afternoon hand-in-hand. The newly formed couple, may in fact be new, but already have history thanks to the Divergent actress’s dad, Lenny Kravitz, who served has best man when Becker’s mom, Barbara Feltus, tied the know with Belgian artist Arne Quinze. Kravitz last relationship was with the former Gossip Girl actor Penn Badgley and the two haven’t been linked together since 2013 at a New York party.
How do you know when you’re ready to move on after a breakup?
Cupid’s Advice:
Everyone moves on from a breakup at their own pace, like Zoe Kravitz, and most of the time it depends on how it ended. Moving on can be hard, especially if the split really devastated you, but it’s something we must all do. Cupid has some advice on how to know when you’re ready to move on after a breakup:
1. You’ve stopped thinking about it: You usually have already moved on once you stopped thinking about the person and breakup. Once you have done this your heart has a better chance of being open to finding new love. Sometimes people start dating and move on without realizing it,
2. You’re ready to let go: Letting go is one of the biggest steps in being ready to move on. It’s good to let go and not let the ghost of relationship past haunt you in your new relationships. Yes, it’s okay to keep some memories or things, but if you want to give your new relationship a chance you have to let your ex go and not hold onto the past, otherwise you’re never truly be able to move on and start dating .
3. You find yourself falling in love again: If someone new is making your heart flutter, is catching your attention and the mere thought of them is making you smile, you’re probably ready to move from your ex. Love is complicated, it can change, evolve, or disappear, but it’s always good to give it a chance and let your heart decide what’s best for you. When you’re ready to move on with someone new, you’ll feel it.
How do you know if you’re ready to move on after a breakup? Share in the comments below.
Despite the scary divorce rates, couples can make love last; they just need to learn how. Dr. Marcia Naomi Berger, a psychotherapist and clinical social worker, has created a way for couples to keep their relationships strong and healthy by encouraging an interruption-free meeting each week. Following an agenda, a marriage meeting includes the kind of appreciation that fosters intimacy and paves the way for collaborative conflict resolution.
In her new book Marriage Meetings for Lasting Love: 30 Minutes a Week to the Relationship You’ve Always Wanted, Berger teaches you how to effectively communicate and connect with your spouse each week with step-by-step guidelines. The communication tips and techniques explained in her book are the same ones that Berger has used to guide hundreds of couples towards deeper, more lasting love. Although the title of the book is Marriage Meetings, don’t let that fool you. This book is not just for married couples but for anyone in a committed relationship, and the skills you use in marriage meetings will transfer to and benefit all relationships in your life.
It would be hard to ignore the latest buzz in celebrity couple news. There has been little else talked about than the separation and impending divorce of Hollywood darling Gwyneth Paltrow and front man rock star Chris Martin. This marriage of 10 years has been closely protected and kept out of the public eye, so news of the breakup has come as a surprise and a blow to their adoring fans.
Mila Kunis and Ashton Kutcher were spotted holding hands as they head to the movies at the Universal City Walk in Los Angles on Saturday, May 17, according to UsMagazine.com. Kutcher, 36, and Kunis, 30, both went casual with the actor in a t-shirt and sneakers, while his pregnant fiancee went with a black top and sandals. The gorgeous duo recently bought a new Beverly Hills mansion, a “perfect” family home, according to a source.
What are some ways to support your partner during pregnancy?
Cupid’s Advice:
Yes, pregnancy brings a lot of new challenges and obstacles for your relationship, but it can also be an exciting new adventure for you and your partner. When your significant other gets pregnant it will bring many lifestyle changes, which is why you’ll need to lend your support. Cupid has some advice on ways to support your partner during pregnancy:
1. Be there: One of the best ways to support your partner during pregnancy is to simply be there for them. It is important for you to make yourself available to your partner when they need you, whether it’s for comport, some one to talk to or whatever else they need. During pregnancy your lover can experience a lot of different emotions, ups and down, and changes that is why they need someone to be at their side.
2. Help around the house: A women’s body goes though many changes during pregnancy and some things they use to be able to do,eat, or drink they won’t be able to do anymore. She is the mother of your child, show your support by helping them out with some of their daily activities, chores around the house or other errands. Not only is it admirable, but your other half will appreciate all the help.
3. Prepare: A number of adjustments and changes will have to be made in the both of your lives for when the baby comes. So, help your sweetheart out by getting things ready for when the baby does arrive, by setting up the babies room, picking up supplies, baby proofing the house, or anything else that will be required. Making all the proper preparations will help you both feel and be ready for the new exciting life to come.
What do you think are some ways to support your partner during pregnancy? Share in the comments below.
After weeks of keeping their relationship under wraps, Cameron Diaz and Benji Madden are finally out in the open. Diaz, 41, and Madden, 35 are considered “new” and “just hanging out” but the Good Charlotte singer is considered the first high-profile relationship for Diaz since her split from Alex Rodriguez in 2011. The pair have Madden’s sister in-law, Nicole Richie to thank for their introduction, according to UsMagazine.com.
How do you keep your new relationship on the down-low?
Cupid’s Advice:
When your relationship is just blossoming, it can be difficult to figure out your own feelings about that person if your relationship is highly publicized. With everyone giving you their input, and pestering you about the latest details of your love life, you may get caught up in the attention and neglect the fact that it may not even be working. By initially keeping your new relationship on the down-low, you’ll be able to discover your feelings for your new beau, and find out whether or not you could really gal for this person:
1. Hold off on updating your social media status: Until you get out of the murky waters of “What direction is this going in?” you don’t need to make your relationship Facebook Official. These days defining your relationship is harder than it looks, so at first your don’t want to jump to conclusions about your relationship status with your man. Just keep cool, calm and collective, and once you both have your feet on the ground you can upload those adorable selfies you have on your camera roll.
2. Do a trial run: Get out of town for the day. Go to a place where there’s no pressure because you won’t run into anyone you know. This way you don’t have to worry about awkward introductions such as wondering whether to refer to your guy as your friend, boyfriend, or anything else. Now the two of you can test the waters of what it’s like to be out in public together, while still getting to know each other on a deeper level.
3. Don’t make it a big deal until it’s a big deal: When your friends and family inquire about your love-life, keep your answer vague. You don’t want to let them in the know until there is actual information to give. It may send the wrong signals to your guy by including loved ones in your dating life. He may think you’re trying to get serious too quick, and you don’t want your family to get confused if things don’t work out.
How have you kept your new relationship a secret? Tell us in the comments below!
Deryck Whibley, former husband of Avril Lavigne, went on a life changing trip to the hospital. According to UsMagazine.com, the Sum 41 frontman, 34, was recently rushed to the hospital after collapsing in his home. The rocker spoke out about experience on his website and reveled the reason behind his trip to the hospital was because of “all the hard boozing” he’d done over the years had finally caught up with him. The musician said he learned from the frightening experience and will stop drinking for good, which is something former wife, pop star Lavigne is “proud” of him for.
What do you do if your partner is abusing a substance?
Cupid’s Advice:
Harmful substances can come in many shapes and forms, but one thing is for sure they all can be dangerous. It can be scary to witness someone you love and care about experiencing a substance abuse problem, especially when you have no idea how to help. Cupid has some advice on what you can do if your partner is abusing a substance:
1. Lend your support: Giving your support to someone in need is one of the best things you can do for them. There are many ways to show your support, you can talk to them, encourage them, help them out, and simply just be there for them. It’s important from your loved one to know you will stick by them even during difficult times.
2. Help them get help: It can be hard to admit to yourself that you need help, which is why sometimes you need it from others. Do some research and see what can help or what has worked for others. You can also look up drug side affects and what can happen if you abuse them, it can help with getting them to understand the dangers and what could happen to them if they don’t receive help.
3. Get them to realize they have a problem: If your partner is having a hard time admitting they have a problem, the best way you can help them is by getting them to realize that they do.They are a number of ways to go about it, you can get help from their family or other people close to them and stage an intervention or you can talk to them on your own, just do what you feel is best for the both of you.
What would you do if your partner is abusing a substance? Share in the comments below.
Drake and Rihanna. Photo: Andrew Evans / PR Photos; Landmark / PR Photos
By Sanetra Richards
AubRih is over, once again. According to UsMagazine.com, after working out their differences a few months ago, Rihanna and Drake decided to give the dating thing another try – only for it to lead to a breakup. “Rihanna and Drake had another fight,” says a source. “He is too in love with her, which has always been the problem. They have been fighting, but that could all change any day now. It is how it always is with them.” The two stars were first spotted as a re-emerging couple in Paris back in February and by March the couple seemed to be hitting it off pretty hard again. However, at Rihanna’s Met Gala after party, her actor turned rapper [ex] boyfriend was not in attendance. A source added that the artists are “currently on yet another break.”
How do you know whether to get back together with an ex?
Cupid’s Advice:
There comes a time when the post-breakup emotions start to roll in and you find yourself contemplating whether or not you and your ex belong together. Cupid has a few things for you to keep in mind while considering:
1. The factors: Think about the reason why you and your ex parted ways. Was it because of infidelity? Was it because you could not agree on anything? Chances are, these problems will not go away if you decide to go another round – they are the reason why you all are not together today. Remember the saying, if you want different results, do something differently.
2. The feelings: A lot of times, people allow their hearts overpower their intelligence. If you know for certain your ex is absolutely terrible for you, do not put in the effort trying to reconcile. Replay the good versus bad instances throughout your relationship. Question whether the good outweighs the bad. This could possibly lead you to the answer on if you and your former lover should work things out.
3. The change: One of the most important conversations to have with your ex before reuniting is how will the relationship change? If you two have not grown enough individually, then you should not want to risk it again. It will be a repeating cycle: same differences, same arguments, and same outcomes. Think about the failed relationship’s faults and create methods to better them for the next time.
What are some things to consider when getting back with an ex? Share your thoughts below.
In actuality, she’s no “pretty little liar.” According to UsMagazine.com, Lucy Hale is dating country singer Joel Crouse and is not afraid to tell all. “They are seeing each other. He is in L.A. right now to visit,” a source reveals. ”It isn’t anything serious just yet.” The 24-year-old actress and her 21-year-old lover were recently spotted courtside at a Lakers game, in which Hale Instagram’d: “First lakers game. Was really great teaching this one the rules of the game. And seeing him looking like a kid in a candy store @joelcrouse.” The two were photographed again on May 8th at LA’s restaurant Crave Café.
The Pretty Little Liars star has also dated actors David Henrie, Chris Zylka, Graham Rogers, and The Cab keyboardist Alex Marshall.
In an interview with NYLON in December 2012, Hale made it know that she has “learned something good and positive” throughout all of her relationships. “I’m a woman, but I’m not fully the person that I think I will be. We’re all just trying to figure it out. Some of us just have to do it publicly.”
What are some ways to take your new relationship slow?
Cupid’s Advice:
You are excited about your new relationship and want to shout it out to the world, on top of Mount Everest. You have all of these plans lined up and cannot wait to execute each one of them. However, you have learned from past relationships that this is not always the best idea. Cupid has a few tips to help you take this one slow:
1. First comes love: Then comes marriage. It is perfectly OK to fantasize about a dream future with your significant other- who knows, it could possibly come true! However, do not be so quick to start making wedding plans. Give yourself (and your partner) time to actually be in the relationship before jumping the broom.
2. Hold off the family & friends: You can never be too sure on how long a relationship will last, but you can be careful on what is done throughout that period. Introducing your partner to your family and friends is not always the best idea. Yes, feel free to tell them about the person who has your interest, but save the meeting until a later date.
3. Actually date: A major part of a new relationship is dating. This is the time used to go on dates and getting to know each other while having fun. Take full advantage of these moments and let the relationship take its course, instead of planning everything out.
How do you take a new relationship slow?Share your suggestions below.
Buddy Valastro isn’t called the Cake Boss for no reason. Born and raised in Hoboken, New Jersey, he is a fourth generation baker. His childhood was spent in his family’s old-fashioned Italian bakery run by his father, Buddy Sr. Father and son dreamed of making Carlo’s Bakery a household name, and five restaurants (in New York City, New Jersey, and Las Vegas) and four TLC realty TV shows later, Valastro is bringing their vision to life. Now, he’s helping to make the cake dreams of one lucky couple come true in Brides Live Wedding, an unprecedented wedding competition by BRIDES. Read on for more of our exclusive celebrity interview with the star!
Relationships alone are difficult. When you add his kids, her kids, his ex, her ex, and both sets of in-laws, most people cannot handle the pressure. Stepfamilies require more effort and understanding because more people are involved, and this often includes young ones who didn’t ask to be put into the situation to begin with.
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By Leslie Chavez
Everyone loves music, right? And listening to your favorite tunes has been known to help you relax, boost your mood, and energize you. Nothing beats seeing a singer you love play live, especially when it’s with your sweetheart. So take advantage of all the great music events that the next few months have to offer!
Even before making it to the top three on American Idol, 21-year-old Alex Preston had a pretty impressive background in music. He can play up to 12 instruments (none of which he took lessons for) and has opened for Of Monsters and Men, Gavin DeGraw, and the Backstreet Boys. Music must be in his blood because he’s also cousins with country music star Jo Dee Messina, who he’s even written songs for.
Week after week, the judges praised him for this artistry, and he managed to avoid being in the bottom up until the end. A common criticism Idol contestants hear is about making each performance seem like an original, but this musician never struggled with that. “When I hear a song, I think of how I would do it, and then I usually take and hour or so and run through the song and run through alternative chords and chordal structures,” he says of his process. “I had the most fun arranging songs and making them my own.”
This week, the singer broke out of his comfort zone, and during his performance of Bastille’s “Pompeii,” he played both the drums and the guitar. “This competition has really taken my out of my shell, and I’ve learned a lot of myself as a performer. I’ve become more confident.”
Although covering popular songs can be a fun challenge, Preston truly enjoys performing his own music and believes allowing more original content will improveAmerican Idol. “Playing original music on the show was definitely an amazing opportunity because it’s in front of millions of people,” he shares. “It’s your own lyrics and composition, and playing your own music on a show like Idol pushes it to the next level because it shows artistry.”
Preston was especially excited to show off his talents when he and his fellow competitors were welcomed back to their hometowns. He went home to Mount Vernon, New Hampshire and gave an “incredible” concert for over 6,000 fans. “I got to show people who I really am outside the show, and that was probably the coolest experience for me.”
Despite all of his achievements, the rising star remains humble. “I was expecting to be eliminated this week because Jena and Caleb are so good and their performances are so big,” he explains. “I knew deep down that it was going to be them in the finale, but I’m proud to have been in the top three.” His strategy during the competition was to take it week by week. “But once I hit top three, I did start thinking about the months ahead, where I want to be, and long term goals outside of the show.”
Beyond improving his musical skills, Idol is also where Preston met his girlfriend Jillian Jensen, who fans might remember from season two of The X Factor. The couple met during Hollywood Week, and while being apart has been difficult, the couple are making it work. “It’s tough because we live on opposite sides of the country, but it works out because we can always talk and Skype. She came to the shows a lot too,” he shares. “It sucks because we can’t see each other as much as we’d like to, but since we’re both musicians, we understand each other’s schedules.”
Being a reality television veteran herself, Jensen was a great source of advice. “She always kept me positive. She was completely honest with me whether it was good or bad and told me what she thought. She helped me through a lot in that aspect and kept me going.”
Preston’s time on the Idol stage may be up, but he knows that this is just the beginning. “I’m already starting to try to figure out a way to plan my record. I have a couple co-writes lined up that I do want to get on the album as well,” he says. “If I could release a single, that would be awesome. I want to release something as soon as I can and kind of take advantage of the wave of publicity that the show has given me.”
Want more of Preston? You can catch him on the American Idol summer tour, but until then, follow him on his Twitter @RealAlexPreston!
Ed Sheeran's new girlfriend is Taylor Swift-approved. Photo: Koi Sojer / PR Photos
By Sanetra Richards
Ed Sheeran’s new girlfriend is Taylor Swift-approved. According to UsMagazine.com, the 24-year-old country turned pop singer has already been introduced to Sheeran’s new love interest. Although he has managed to be very discreet about disclosing too much information on his latest partner, Sheeran did tell Us that she “works for a food company – well not a food company, she works for a chef.” So, how exactly did Swift get to meet Ms. Anonymous? “We went for dinner in London,” said Sheeran. “She likes her.” He added that the secret girlfriend is indeed Greek and can whip up “anything Greek.”
What are some ways to keep your relationship under wraps?
Cupid’s Advice:
Whilst some choose to announce their new relationship right away, others choose to maintain that bit of mystery for a little while. But exactly how do you manage to keep it under wraps until you are ready to spill the beans? Cupid has some advice:
1. Lips are sealed: Before any other step, you and your new partner must agree to keep it a secret (unless you want to tell a limited number of close family and friends). However, if you really want to keep it all undisclosed, telling absolutely no one is the way to go. It is completely understandable because you and new love are fresh and wanting to see how things go before jinxing the relationship.
2. Avoid PDA: Holding hands and kissing is certainly the way to blow your cover. Everyone knows “just friends” are not that affectionate with each other. Save it for the private areas if you want to keep the whole secrecy mission going.
3. Play it cool: Try not to become too wrapped up in your partner, otherwise, people will notice. Your family and friends will begin to tell if you are becoming distant . . . and that is when the questions will begin. Balance your time with each until you are ready to announce the big news.
What are some ways you can keep your relationship under wraps in the beginning stages? Share your thoughts below.
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Question from Shelby F.: Whenever a guy and I breakup, I always wonder if I should completely delete him from my life. A part of me thinks it’s a good idea because then I won’t be tempted to see if he’s tagged in any new photos with new girls, but the other part of me doesn’t want him to think I’m so bitter or immature that I can’t stand him coming up on my newsfeed. What should I do?
