By Katie Sotack
The infamous Bachelorette windmill sex scene between Hannah and Peter was one of the most talked about moments this season. But according to UsMagazine.com, Hannah fudged the details. When facing off with Luke Parker, The Bachelorette confessed to having sex with Peter twice at the mill, yet apparently it was four times! Hannah announced this proudly in front of the studio audience, which included Peter’s family. Still, despite (or maybe because of) the scandalous details, Peter’s family could not have looked prouder as the audience gave the pair a standing ovation.
In celebrity news, Hannah Brown didn’t hold any details back while talking to Peter on a recent episode of The Bachelorette. What are some benefits to being open about intimacy?
Cupid’s Advice:
In our Puritan-grown culture, it’s not wildly accepted to talk about intimacy in public. However, American youth culture is shifting to see the perks in being open and honest about intimacy. Here’s how talking about intimacy can benefit yourself and others:
1. Normalization: Talking about intimacy normalizes said acts of intimacy. America’s sensationalized media presents idealistic versions of sex and love, which do not match up with reality. With this idealized standard we rarely see an accurate representation of our own intimacy. The girl and guy are perfect, never having bad sex or weird sex. Not to mention a lack non-heteronormative relationships depicting physical love. Talking about sex and the intimate acts surrounding it can ease the tension our culture feels around sexual ‘imperfections’ which fall short of idealistic standards.
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2. Ease the guilt: There’s a famous Sex In The City episode where Miranda takes a lover who’s so petrified of sex being a sin, that after every time they’ve been physical he must run to shower. Yeah, this was filmed in the ’90s, but times haven’t changed too much. Bachelorette Hannah Brown was thoroughly slut shammed by contestant Luke P. for enjoying sex with men she’d fallen in love with. By speaking out about about her experience at the windmill while in a supportive environment she was championed for something that had once penalized her.
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3. Better sex: As sexologist Lindsey Doe likes to point out sex and sexuality are never one size fits all. But that’s the way our culture likes to think about it, so partner’s have been conditioned to fall short of our unique needs. Being open about your likes, dislikes, and experiences will not only work like a handbook for better sex but help to foster emotional intimacy between you and your partner(s).
Do you feel comfortable talking about intimacy? Share your comments below!
