Question from Kaylee M: “My boyfriend and I have been together for a while now, and we both know we’re going to end up together for a while. But, he might have to take a job that’s 6 hours from my home, and that might be an issue for me. I’m very close to my family and not sure if this is a move I want to do. What should I do?”
Boyfriends moving away, should you go with him?
Hi Kaylee:
You have a lot of variables to consider before making a decision about this move. It’s great that you have a strong bond with your boyfriend, that he has a great opportunity, and he wants you to join him. Now it’s time to ask yourself questions. What are the opportunities for you if you join him? Do you have a career where you currently live? If so, can you get a transfer to the new locale or easily find a similar job there? Have you visited this location? Did you like it, and could you see yourself living there? Do you know anyone there? How difficult would it be to visit your family if you move? Six hours by car is substantial, but it’s not like moving across the country. You mentioned seeing yourself together with your boyfriend “for a while”. How long is a while? Is it long enough to pick up and move your life, career, and away from your family? Only you know the answers to what’s in your heart and what his intentions are.
I’m not trying to throw water on what could be a great opportunity for both of you. I’m suggesting you consider how all the variables of this move will impact you and your life, friends, and family connections. I’m also wondering what your boyfriend has to say about this opportunity as it relates to you. After all, you will be making a sacrifice since he already has a job set up. Was this opportunity a surprise or something he has been working towards? As you can see, there is a lot for you to consider prior to making a decision. You may discover that it can turn out great for both of you. Or not. Only you can get the answers you need to make a wise decision. After all, your number one priority and consideration is to yourself. Good luck!
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