By Project Soulmate matchmakers Lori Zaslow and Jennifer Zucher with contributing writers Nicole Hartley and Samantha Cohen
Is there something about your significant other that bothers you a little too much and a little too often? Relationships and love are often born on “the little things.” It’s the little things that attract you to your significant other, but it can also be the little things that really annoy you about that person too. Is her voice too squeaky? Does he talk too loud in public? Does her taste in music really drive you insane? Partnerships are difficult enough without those small annoyances getting in the way. Finding the perfect person can be a difficult task, but once you do find your match, how do you get over those things they do that bother you? Read on for our expert dating advice!
Getting Over Small Annoyances in Your Relationship and Love
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First things first: If something they do bothers you to the extent that you really just can’t get over it, maybe it’s time to face the reality that they may not be your soulmate. However, in most cases, this is the extreme. Sure, hating your girlfriend’s taste in music can be a bother on occasions, but it is something you can get over. On the other hand, if you’re a neat freak and she’s a hopeless slob, that can be a deal breaker.
Let’s face it: Every person has flaws. It is the size and the severity of the flaw that can determine whether or not the relationship and love is worth it for the long haul. As relationship experts, we think we can all admit that, at times, we love to hate things about people. It’s just what we do! However, sometimes those flaws are what make us love someone even more. So what if you hate her taste in music? Maybe you love the way she dances or the way she can never get the lyrics quite right to her favorite song. In order to appreciate these little quirks, you may have to sacrifice putting up with music you might hate.
In any relationship, it’s important to always look for the good things in your significant other and in the partnership itself. If it’s “the little things” that made you fall in love with them, then it’s safe to say that getting over those things that bother you should be just as simple. Hopefully, for every thing that bothers you about them, you have a handful of things that you really love about them. That is what you should focus on when feeling bothered by that annoying thing your soulmate does.
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Always remember that no one is perfect. Love isn’t perfect, and neither is your significant other. It is important to look for the best in everyone, so give your boyfriend or girlfriend a break. If you’re feeling extra nice, consider this love advice: Get up and dance to that awful music with them! Maybe karma will reward you, and they will cherish your peculiarities too.
Relationship experts Lori Zaslow and Jennifer Zucher are BRAVO TV’s Love Brokers and founders of Project Soulmate, a high-end New York-based matchmaking company.
