Cupid's Pulse Article: Cupid’s Weekly Round-Up: Rushing into MarriageCupid's Pulse Article: Cupid’s Weekly Round-Up: Rushing into Marriage

By Shannon Seibert

When you enter a serious relationship, there are only two ways things can go: You land a ring on your finger, or you eventually breakup. Thoughts of marriage and the big “I dos” become more and more present as your relationship continues, and you begin to wonder where it’s even going. But what happens when you breeze into marriage too quickly? We’ve pulled together these five articles from our partners to show you why you should enjoy your relationship as it is and not scramble to the altar:

1. When the time comes, you want to enjoy the experience: Some couples rush into marriage so quickly that they’re really just focused on reaching the next milestone. When you spend most of your relationship anticipating the next big step, you forget about the great moments in between. For example, if you’re worried about getting pregnant early on in your marriage, you miss out on enjoying the time you have alone together — like Kim Kardashian and Kanye West, who had baby North before they were married. (

2. Sex is for fun: At this point in your life, you’re young, and you’re able to experience things that you won’t be able to once you enter the world of marriage and motherhood. Sex can be more than two people in a bedroom trying not to wake the kids. It can be an adventure, a surprise, a bonding experience. You can establish intimacy that eventually can lead you towards getting engaged and eventually married.  (

3. You don’t have to stress about getting engaged: The pressure of being engaged can come from many different people: your parents, your significant other, and even society can make you feel like you need to bolt to the nearest church. Once you accept that it’s up to you and your partner — and no one else — you’ll be able to calmly approach marriage when the time comes.  (

4. You can appreciate the relationship for what it is: With big decisions, time is your best friend. When taking the future into consideration, think of how he makes you feel now, the way he treats you, how much you’ve grown together. If you feel like the relationship has peaked or that it’s near its end, you should cut ties and walk away without a complete loss.(

5. You have time to prepare financially: Marriage and kids can be more money than glamour. With house payments, car payments, extraneous bills, and family needs, you may feel like you’re barely hanging on. Waiting to tie the knot will give you time to formulate a feasible living budget that will fit the lifestyle you anticipate. (

Why did you wait to get married? Share your thoughts in the comments below!