Cupid's Pulse Article: What to Do when He is Still Dating OthersCupid's Pulse Article: What to Do when He is Still Dating Others

By April Littleton

You’re in love, but the person you’re dating might not feel the same way. In fact, you just found out he’s still fooling around with other women. A situation like this can be tricky to handle – especially if you haven’t been seeing your man for that long. How do you get the point across that you want a commitment without scaring him off? When do you decide to walk away from the relationship altogether? Cupid has some advice:

1. Do the same: At this point in time, your partner might not be ready to commit to you. He may be focused on other things such as school, a career, etc. Instead of stressing over him not making you a priority, start getting back out on the dating scene. If he’s still seeing other people, you shouldn’t put all of your focus and time solely on him when he’s obviously not doing the same for you. Keep yourself open to new possibilities and new love interests. You never know, someone who’s ready for a serious commitment might be waiting for you just around the corner.

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2. Keep busy: Don’t sit and wait around for your boyfriend to call or text you. Continue on with your daily routine. Your life shouldn’t revolve around another person – especially if that certain individual isn’t seeking an exclusive relationship with you. If your man wants you, he should show it and fight for you. When he realizes you’re no longer waiting around for him  and you’re not going to be a second choice, he’ll either get his act together or you’ll be free to find someone who’s worth your time.

3. Read the signs: A man who wants to be with you will do whatever it takes to do so. Does your guy call and/or text you often when the two of you aren’t together? If not, he’s probably using that time apart to connect with other people. Have you met his family? Do your loved ones like him? The first step to a serious commitment is the approval of both parties family and friends. You don’t want to be with a guy who hasn’t introduced you to the important people in his life. If the two of you are constantly doing things by yourself and you haven’t met anyone else in his life, he isn’t serious about you and you need to rethink the status of the “relationship.”

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4. Talk it out: Your significant other may not be aware that an exclusive relationship is what you’re after. If the two of you have been an item for awhile and he’s still seeing other women on the side, have a talk with him first before you call it quits. Let him know how you’re feeling about the situation. Tell him if he wants to continue being with you, he must stop dating around. A serious commitment might not be on his mind right now and if that’s the case you need to find a way to move on. Don’t keep yourself in a situation you know isn’t going to work out in your favor.

What are some other things you can do when your man is still dating others? Comment below.