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By Alex V. of The Urban Dater

Reality.  If reality was an actual person, I’d probably punch it in the neck.  Why?  Sometimes, or most times (depending on how much baby Jesus thinks I suck) reality really is a jerk.  Only sometimes, though.

I’m a dork, I gigantic geek bag!  It’s true.  No, really, it is!  I was a nerd before it was cool, dammit!  However, there’s just no helping a person’s uninformed perception aka ignorance.  You see, being a dork and an odd ball, dating women was often lost on me.  No women wanted to date a geek like me, I thought.

You never heard about Dustin Diamond dating a hot girl, now did you?  If you did, surely you chuckled at such a ridiculous rumor.  However, the coolness of nerds and geeks has sky rocketed over the years, with shows like Beauty and the Geek and the rise to stardom of actors, like my hero, Seth Rogen.

Seeing that, the king of chubs and geeks, Seth Rogan was dating super-hottie Lauren Miller, for, at the time, four years, gave me hope that a geek like me could find a hottie of my own as well; and found one I did!  The nerd wins!

My girlfriend, I tell my friends, is a lot prettier than a dork like me deserves.  I’m sure Seth Rogen felt the same way, too!  Once we get passed the looks and the superficial associations and self-stylings, we’re all looking for love, ultimately.  It’s not just about looks, after all.  Right?

There was something about this person that made me fall for her, many somethings, if you will.

– The person has got to make you laugh.  No question about it.  The women I’ve loved were the ones that made me laugh.  No doubt about it.
– Are they open minded?  Is your would-be partner in crime willing to pony up when you want to go on an adventure?
– Will they help you clean your place after a raging party at 3am?  Just having the support is important.
– Do your friends like your significant other?  This, by far, has been the biggest difference for me.  Most of the women I’ve dated, my friends didn’t get along with.  With my girlfriend, now, all my friends simply adore her.  They would probably dump me, if I dump my girlfriend!
– Do they make you believe you can do anything?  My girl does.  She’s my biggest fan; my biggest cheerleader.  The girl supports all of things I’m working on… That’s huge.  Seth Rogen? You better believe he needs a cheerleader after a box office bomb… I’m just sayin’.

It’s pretty amazing what becomes clear once we set perceptions about beauty and status aside.  No?