Cupid's Pulse Article: Kate Gosselin Accuses Ex-Husband Jon of Computer Theft and Phone HackingCupid's Pulse Article: Kate Gosselin Accuses Ex-Husband Jon of Computer Theft and Phone Hacking

By April Littleton

According to People, Kate Gosselin filed a lawsuit accusing her ex-husband Jon Gosselin of stealing her hard drive and hacking into her computer and phone in order to get information for a tell-all book. The book in question is titled Kate Gosselin: How She Fooled the World. It has since been pulled from Amazon since the information was obtained illegally. The former couple starred in Jon and Kate Plus 8 together before separating in 2009 and eventually divorcing.

How do you remain civil after a divorce for your children?

Cupid’s Advice:

Going through a divorce is difficult, especially when kids are involved. Just because you and your ex are going your separate ways doesn’t mean you won’t be in each other’s lives. You’ll have to find a way to communicate well with one another for the sake of the children. Cupid has some advice:

1. Stay out of each other’s private lives: The worst thing you can do is continue to meddle in your ex-husband/wife’s business. What they choose to do with their free time is no longer a concern of yours. You shouldn’t know who he/she is dating and the same goes for them about you. Don’t ask your children for any information either. They shouldn’t be put in the middle of what’s going on between you and your former spouse.

2. Communicate: Talk to your ex with respect. Don’t talk to him/her about anything personal. Keep the conversation focused on your kids. You’ll need to be able to work out a visiting schedule without arguments or other distractions getting in the way. Of course, you’ll disagree with each other, but listen to what the other has to say. At the end of the day, you’re both just trying to do what’s right for the little ones.

3. Space: Once you’ve worked out everything involving the kids, you’ll want to give each other space. There’s no reason for the two of you to remain in close contact right after the divorce. Both of you are angry, hurt and probably resentful. Take the time to let those negative feelings subside before you decide to talk on a regular basis.

How did you remain civil after a divorce? Share your experience below.