Cupid's Pulse Article: Courtney Robertson Speaks Out About Split with Ben FlajnikCupid's Pulse Article: Courtney Robertson Speaks Out About Split with Ben Flajnik

By Jennifer Ross

The two ‘Bachelor’ Season 16 lovebirds, Ben Flajnik and Courtney Robertson have finally admitted to calling it quits. Courtney removed her engagement ring, and decided to speak out via Twitter. The Bachelor winner had brief and positive words to say regarding their break up, which Flajnik, 28, confirmed on October 5. “Thank you all so much for the kind words and for believing in us,” the model tweeted. Her ex-fiancé also tweeted his thanks as well, saying he is “blessed to have amazing friends/fam.” Even before the official split, the two had admitted to wanting to take a break before getting married. They had concerns that they may have been moving too fast due to public pressure. It appears that their instincts were correct.

How do you know when you’ve done all you can to make a relationship work?

Cupid’s Advice:

As odd as it may seem, it is actually possible to find a partner that checks all the boxes on your list but doesn’t work in your real-life. Here are some common situations:

1. The Spark Dies: The initial infatuation fades and you notice that the love for your partner doesn’t continue to grow. You rationalize your initial feelings. After all, everything looks great on paper.  If the attraction was once there, you convince yourself it was real. You try and try but your attempts at love end up empty. Love cannot be forced when it simply doesn’t exist.

2. Professional Help Fails: You used to get along with your partner. You both supported one another and did whatever it took to make each other happy. Somewhere along the way, the bickering began, the stubbornness kicked in and the fighting took over. You tried to solve it on your own, you even went to counseling, but it didn’t work. You both realized that two people are sometimes better off alone.  It takes a strong couple to let go.

3. Damage is too Great to Repair: Throughout the relationship, you both were completely honest with each other-or so you thought. Then, you find out he has been having an affair, doing drugs, or gambling his money away. None of these need to be dealbreakers in the relationship. Perhaps your partner has a problem and needs help. If your partner keeps repeating the same mistakes, that’s when it’s time to decide if it’s better for you to move on to a happier place.

What steps did you take to make your relationship work? Tell us below.