You and yourÂ best friendÂ are usually inseparable: you laugh until youÂ cry, lie side by side on theÂ beachÂ all day and even pluck each otherâs eyebrows. So when she finds Mr. Right, itâs easy to find yourself left in the dust. You no longer hang out, and the only time you see her is when you accidentally bump into her while sheâsÂ hand in handÂ with herÂ boyfriendÂ at the mall. While itâs perfectly normal to have that âcanât get enoughâ feeling when a relationship begins, itâs not okay for a friend to leave you out of their life because youâve been replaced by someone else. Here are some ways you can help them find aÂ balanceÂ between love for you andÂ love for their partner:
1. Let them go through their honeymoon phase:Â When two people meet and theÂ chemistryÂ is tangible, itâs hard to rip them apart, especially in the beginning. EveryÂ coupleÂ goes through what is called a âhoneymoon phase,â where they want to spend every waking moment with each other. As a best friend, know that every phase has an expiration date. As soon as your friend has their firstÂ fightÂ with their partner, theyâre sure to come running back to you. Of course, itâs important to be cautious in welcoming them back. Make sure they know that their sudden absence hasÂ hurt youÂ and that they need to make more time for you for your friendship to continue.
2. Remind her that her world does not revolve around him:Â When a friend begins dating, their mind is in a fog. It can be important to pull them outside of their head and put them in your position. Â Chances are they wouldnât like to be ignored by their best friendÂ the way youâve been. If you put your situation in perspective, theyâll gain a deeper appreciationÂ for you, which is sure to repair your relationship.
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3. Pick a day of the week to have BFF day:Â Since your friendâs beau is occupying most of their time and almost everyÂ thought, you two need to sit down and set out a day for yourselves. As much as your friend loves their partner, itâs likely that theyâre growing tired of hanging out with them all the time. For example, a woman can only spend so much time in the âman caveâ before she realizes she needs hair and nail treatments every now and then. Picking a set day to hang out every week is a way to ensure that you will never lose touch. GoÂ out to eat, gossip or even talk about the ins and outs of your friendâs relationship. Just donât let their significant other interrupt in any way.
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