Cupid's Pulse Article: Kendra Wilkinson Says Her Plans for Second Child Keep ChangingCupid's Pulse Article: Kendra Wilkinson Says Her Plans for Second Child Keep Changing

Having a child is an extremely difficult decision to make, and it’s one that Kendra Wilkinson is facing right now. The reality starlet already has one child, Hank IV, with her husband, Hank Baskett, but is unsure about having a second. After having Hank IV, the couple was ready to have another right away, but now Wilkinson is not quite sure. One day her friend visited with her newborn son and Wilkinson told People, “I just got an instant baby phobia. I looked at Hank behind my best friend’s back, and I shook my head, ‘No.’” Baskett, however, still really wants another child.

How do you know when you’re ready to have kids?

Cupid’s Advice:

Kendra Wilkinson and Hank Baskett are having trouble deciding on whether to have a second child. Here are some things to consider when you and your man are thinking of starting a family:

1. You’re doing it for the right reasons: Having a baby should not be about you, but rather the child. If you’re unhappy or lonely and think a child would solve these problems; hold out. The decision to get pregnant should be because you want to offer someone else the opportunity for a great life, not just improve your own.

2. Both you and your man are on the same page: Just because one of you is ready to start a family doesn’t mean the other is ready. Make sure the two of you have talked about the consequences of having a baby and feel equally excited to embark on this journey.

3. You understand it will be a challenge: While starting a family is an extremely exciting experience, it can also be quite stressful. Make sure you and your man are able to dedicate your time to a child and are ready to take on the financial obligation. You both must be ready to go from selfishness to selflessness.

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