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By Mara Miller

Parents yell at their children, even if they might not want to openly admit it. Maybe you snapped because you’re mad they haven’t put on their shoes yet. Or, you have had it because they won’t do their homework. Or, maybe you’ve had a bad day yourself, and your teenager just smart-mouthed you one too many times, so you decided to let them have it. We’ll explore why you need to stop yelling at your kids in this parenting advice.

Parenting Advice: Five Reasons to Stop Yelling at Your Kids

You’ll snap, your baby will burst into tears (or if your kids are teens they might snap back)—and then the entire family will be upset. It should go without saying: if you can stop yelling at your children, they will be happier. But if you’re still not convinced, here are a few things to consider that you may not have thought about before:

1. They will learn to yell back: Yelling at your kids will eventually turn into you being yelled at by your children. And they may not just yell at you—they’ll possibly yell at teachers, peers, or a future partner. Remember, you are teaching your kids cultural and social norms and they will mimic your behavior.

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2. It causes anxiety: Yelling can cause anxiety attacks and severely limit your ability to interact socially with other people as an adult. Yelling can also trigger full-blown panic attacks later when your children are older. This can lead to struggling with performance in school. They will also have trouble finding, and keeping, employment when they are older.

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3. It’s emotionally draining: Have you ever gotten just as upset as your children after yelling at them? Yelling at your children can be stressful and damaging to them, but it can be stressful and damaging to you even though your first response might be to raise your voice to your children.

4. They’ll stop listening: Yelling at your children will trigger a fear response deep in the brain that will turn off their listening completely. This can lead to bad grades in school because your kids will automatically tune out their teachers. Adults who have been yelled at often as children will neglect orders at work or their partner.

5. Your children will learn to crave negative attention: Do you want to teach your kids to crave negative attention? Yelling at them frequently can teach them to seek that kind of attention later in a potential partner. It can also negatively affect any other social relationships, like with siblings or friends.

What are some other reasons to stop yelling at your kids? Let us know in the comments below.