Cupid's Pulse Article: Can She Ever Forget Her First Love?Cupid's Pulse Article: Can She Ever Forget Her First Love?

By Chandler Jones

You’ve just met the perfect woman: she’s beautiful, sexy, and best of all deeply in love with you!  There’s just one problem: you are not her first love.  Can she love you more than she loved her first flame?  Was he better than you in bed?  Does she think of him while making love with you?

A common belief is that one’s first love is also the most powerful.  In fact, a lot of people say that you never forget your first love.  What does this mean?

I’ve talked with various women about the subject, all of them married to men who are not their first loves.  To my surprise, they all essentially told me the same thing.  They said that the first love is mostly passion and the second love is much deeper.

When a woman is in love for the first time, she thinks he’s the only one for her and that she has no choice in the matter.  Without him, she ‘s lost.  When she loves for the second time, however, she knows that there are a lot of other men available to her, but she’s choosing to be with the one she loves because she feels that he is the best one for her.  The first time, a woman can love a guy simply because he was the first, and for no real reason other than that.  It can be full of fear and insecurity — something that’s fuel for passion, but nothing much more than that. The second time around, it’s because she’s able to see his fine qualities and love him for who he is.  She’s loves with all her heart because she knows her man deserves it.

Celebrities are no exception to this new rule.  Zac Efron and Vanessa Hudgens met on the set of the Disney Channel movie High School Musical and continued to date for almost four years.  Having met as teenagers, they were each other’s first true love.  Now, having split, both are moving on.  Both Efron and Hudgens have been spotted with new potential mates, and although they will most likely never forget each other, it may be time for more than passion.

This is all fairly good news if you’re the second in line, but we haven’t gotten to the biggest questions yet.  Does she think of him when she’s in bed with you?  Does she truly love you?  Consider this.  If she truly loves you, then she enjoys every moment the two of you are together, which includes every touch, every caress and every kiss.

Over time , your first love becomes just another story tucked away in the corner of your mind.  So, if you’re the one she’s chosen, fear not!  Just concentrate on being the love of her life, and forget about her first love, as she’s probably already done.


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