Cupid's Pulse Article: Dating Advice Q&A: Am I His Catfish?Cupid's Pulse Article: Dating Advice Q&A: Am I His Catfish?

Tammy J.: The guy I’ve been seeing is nice, but I’m not sure if he’s really “into” me. He’s also distant and secretive so that makes me anxious. He hasn’t gone public with our relationship online but he sends pictures of us to his mother. I want to think this is a good thing, but it kind of feels like he’s using me. Could he be catfishing his mom? We haven’t officially called each other boyfriend/girlfriend, but I think that’s what he’s been telling his mom otherwise.

Dating has always been complicated. Add the internet, social media and electronic devices into the mix, and it can get confusing real fast. However, do not fret. Leave it up to our relationship experts who can offer their best dating advice on using technology to navigate your relationships. Technology is here to stay, after all, so take advantage of these amazing tools! Learn valuable dating tips from Cupid’s very own, matchmaker Suzanne Oshima and relationship expert Robert Manni. Here they’ll answer your questions on determining whether someone is using you as their catfish.

Technology Dating Advice That Will Help You Find A Catfish

Suzanne K. Oshima, Matchmaker: It’s time for you to first get clear on what you want and need in a relationship. Once you’re clear, then you need to evaluate whether he’s meeting your needs. If he is, then just share with him that you’re confused as to what you are to him, and just let him clarify things for you. If he’s not what you want or need in a relationship, then it’s time for you to move on to a guy who is into you and is proud to declare you his girlfriend to everyone.

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Robert Manni, Guy’s Guy: Unless you know your guy and his mom well, it’s not easy to have a clear picture of their relationship. So, instead of focusing on something you have no control over, have a chat with him about your relationship. Since you are not sure where this new “relationship” stands, this is a good time to ask him where he sees things going with you. Don’t pressure him, but get to the heart of the matter. If he’s into you, he’ll let you know. If he wavers or his responses are vague, you might want to reconsider where you’re investing your emotions. I doubt you want to be with someone who does not feel the same way about you.

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