Cupid's Pulse Article: Relationship Advice: How Far Will You Go for a Relationship?Cupid's Pulse Article: Relationship Advice: How Far Will You Go for a Relationship?

Dr. Jane Greer

Singer Ed Sheeran found true love on another continent. When he first started dating girlfriend Cherry Seaborn, she lived in New York and he lived in England. The two, who met in school, made that work for a while before Seaborn moved to England to be closer to Ed. The latest buzz is that Ed plans to propose to her soon, sealing the deal that has seen a lot of miles traveled to build their relationship before finally ending up in the same place. This is not an unusual scenario.

Since celebrities and singers are so busy on set or on tour, they often meet and even strike up a relationship with someone who lives far away.

You certainly don’t have to be a celebrity or songwriter to travel the world to find love. Sometimes, if you’re lucky, work will take you to another place where you might meet someone you feel a connection to, and then you find yourself trying to stay in touch with the hope of building a relationship. Other times you might be forced to become more creative in your pursuit of finding a romantic partner. Whatever the case, while long distance is never easy, it is much more doable these days with all the social media that keeps us connected and has bridged that gap that might literally be between you. With Skype, Instagram, Twitter, Facebook, email, and even a good old-fashioned phone call, people can interact and feel like they are together even when there is a great distance between them. This allows couples to not only feel close, but also to actually get to know each other and begin to date when they aren’t in the same town or, in some cases, the same country.

So if you are contemplating broadening your horizons, what is the best way to go about it, especially if your job is not going to take you someplace new? Consider this relationship advice. This might be particularly timely now that Valentine’s Day is over and spring is right around the corner, both which might spark your desire to step outside your comfort zone to meet that someone. Here’s how to proceed. Use a dating app, which is a great tool in this process. Many people flinch at the thought of doing so, because they have tried it and it didn’t work out, or they had a negative experience, or they feel they should be meeting someone spontaneously instead of in this formalized way. Consequently, they have tried it and won’t use it again, or are reluctant to use it in the first place. However, one bad date doesn’t translate into all dating apps being useless. Proceeding that way would be like having a cut on your wrist and amputating your arm. By excluding them from your options you could wind up missing out on a terrific way to meet a great person who could be your friend or even more.

So instead of generalizing all dating sites, consider them individually. If you are ready to go abroad,,, and are the apps for you because they specialize in international dating both in Europe and Asia. In using these apps you expand your search far and wide, give yourself the chance to experience the culture of another country, and create the opportunity to build travel into your lifestyle as well, all while achieving your main goal of finding love. Best of luck to Ed Sheeran and his girlfriend. They are the perfect example that absence makes the heart grow fonder.

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