Cupid's Pulse Article: Dating Advice: How to Make A Man Initiate The First Move?Cupid's Pulse Article: Dating Advice: How to Make A Man Initiate The First Move?

By Joshua Pompey

There he is, standing at the other end of the bar. He’s tall. He’s handsome. He’s the first man in a month that has made you remember you actually have an interest in the male dating pool. He’s looked over at you twice since you first arrived. The question is, how are you going to get him to make the first move? As a relationship expert, I have some dating advice. Let’s take a look at a few ways to make this happen with the use of the following dating tips.

Dating Advice: Get Him To Make The First Move

1.  Smile as much as possible. Most men want do want to walk over and say hello. But just about every man alive has had that brutal experience of being instantly dismissed the second he walks over to introduce himself. This is a fear that we all face. So make it clear that you are a friendly face and that he has nothing to worry about. My dating advice is that smiling will go a long way towards making him comfortable.

2.  Go out in groups of three. When you are with just one other person, a respectful man may feel awkward attempting to interrupt the pair, or will feel too much pressure knowing he has to entertain the both of you. On the other hand, more than three people can be very intimidating. Groups of three are a perfect balance. It’s not too intimidating, and when a man hits on you, your other two friends are still there to entertain each other without anybody having to feel left out.

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3.  Hold that gaze. “I think she was looking at me, should I go for it?”  I’ve heard this phrase uttered hundreds of times in my life among male friends. Don’t just look at a guy you are interested in and quickly turn away. He may not be sure, or may think the only reason you looked over is because he looked first. Hold the gaze for a solid second or two, look into his eyes, and smile. Then look away. This will make it clear that you want him to come over.

4.  Wear something that is easy to comment on. It could be a necklace, a sports jersey on football night, or a funny t-shirt. Whatever the case may be, the easier you make it for a man to think of something to say without having to think of a lame pick up line, the more likely he will actually say something.

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5.  Don’t half ass it. Happy hour is one of the best times of the week to meet someone who is successful and interesting. Happy hour running straight from work looking like a hot mess is not. You never know when you will have the opportunity to meet the man of your dreams. It could be at happy hour, a social group, or just walking the streets.  If you want a man to make the first move, always look your best self and your chances will improve dramatically.

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