Cupid's Pulse Article: Dating Advice: Chivalrous Acts For The Modern ManCupid's Pulse Article: Dating Advice: Chivalrous Acts For The Modern Man

By David Wygant

People say that chivalry is dead, but as a relationship expert, I know that’s not true. Chivalry never dies because these days, there are modern twists on how men can be chivalrous in dating. Here are some quick dating tips and dating advice for any man who wants to win a woman over on a date. These things will actually make her decision to go out with you again a no brainer.

Dating Advice On How To Act Chivalrous

1. Pick her up. When you pick her up, walk to her door, knock on the door, and walk back to the car with her. Hold the door open for her, wait for her to get in, and shut the door. Repeat the same thing after dinner, after a movie, after anywhere you go with her. Always open the door for her and always be chivalrous that way. Too often nowadays, people just go and meet one another at a set location. They go in separate cars. Actually picking her up is a little dating advice of mine that makes a big impression.

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2. Don’t look at your cell phone on a date. This is a modern version of being chivalrous. If your cell phone goes off, ignore it. As a matter of fact, put the cell phone on vibrate. Don’t have the ringer buzz, ring, or do anything that will disturb your date night because you want to give all of your attention to her.

3. Guide but don’t be pushy. When you walk into a restaurant, put your hand on the small of her back and allow her to go in first as you slowly guide her with your hand. At the end of the night, especially on your first date, give her a hug and maybe a little kiss on the lips and that’s it. No heavy-duty makeout session, no trying to get in there and have sex.

4. Text her afterwards. If she met you on a date, text her when you get home or tell her to text you when she gets home so you know that she’s home safe and sound. If she didn’t meet you on a date and you actually dropped her off at home, text her when you get home and wish her sweet dreams; tuck her in via text. These are old fashioned and new fashioned tips that will let her see you in a much different light. Simple little things like following up with a phone call or a voicemail message the day after a date. Setting the next date after a first date so she knows you’re interested in her. And, let’s not forget one of the most modern chivalrous acts I can think of: If you met on Tinder or Bumble or Match or any other dating site, put your profile on hiatus after you meet somebody you really connect with. That way she’ll know that she’s met somebody who is serious about dating her and only her.

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Chivalry is not dead. It’s just changed so much in today’s modern world. If you follow these simple tips, these little things, it will get you to the third and the fourth dates. You want her to think of you as a future boyfriend, not as a guy who just came to meet her for the sake of convenience.

David Wygant is an internationally-renowned dating and relationship expert, author of the book Naked, and speaker. Through his boot camps, personal coaching, and his website, his love advice has transformed the relationships and love of hundreds of thousands of people from every corner of the globe. 

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