Cupid's Pulse Article: Dating Advice On How to Date an IntrovertCupid's Pulse Article: Dating Advice On How to Date an Introvert

By Jared Sais

As a relationship expert, I understand that dating an introvert is a different experience than dating an extrovert. If you need a quick how-to, then follow my dating advice and these three main rules when dating an introvert.

Dating Advice: Dating An Introvert

Rule #1 – Keep it simple. The date should focus on getting to know each other. But simple does not mean boring; in fact introverts have the right idea. They would rather the fun come from the person than the venue. The idea is sound. Introverts want the person to bring at least 80% of the entertainment, the rest should be venue related (at least at first). The idea is this: If you can hit it off at a quiet bar with almost no music or dancing, and you can laugh together, talk non-stop for two hours and make a seemingly boring venue seem like the most fun place in the world then you’re worth their time, commitment and devoted trust. Introverts are not boring, so though they focus on the individual more than the venue it’s your responsibility to spice things up. Come up with a few date ideas like creating games and asking questions. It’s okay to push them a bit out of their comfort zone but ease into that. The goal is to be intimate, fun and to get to know each other.

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Rule #2- Tell the truth and be yourself. Introverts are less forgiving than extroverts when it comes to lying and pretending to like or dislike something. Introverts want to get to know the real you. If you’re an extrovert who likes dancing that’s fine, but don’t lie about it. Introverts hold dear to being yourself and honesty. Again, they want to know the real you. If you fake who you are or lie then chances are you won’t be held in the best light. Be yourself and tell the truth and they will love you. Just because they’re introverts doesn’t mean they want to date an introvert. So if you’re like me and a big extrovert, its okay. They will love you if you’re kind, honest, and trustworthy.

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Rule #3 – Take your time. You don’t need to rush when dating an introvert. Getting to know each other is the best part so no need to rush the relationship and love. Introverts may take longer to warm up to you, but that’s okay. Once again they have it right. Relationships need time to develop and mature, so the more time you invest the better and stronger your relationship will be. Though it takes longer, introverts are as loyal, trusting, and caring as they get. My dating advice is that if you open up to them and take your time in getting to know them they will be by your side forever.

Jared Sais is the co-author of the website The Non-Verbal Game, where you can find free downloadable content. He is a relationship expert in non-verbal communication, who specializes in dating advice about body language, micro-expressions, and lie deception.