Cupid's Pulse Article: Relationship Advice: 5 Questions To Ask Yourself Before Saying “I Do”Cupid's Pulse Article: Relationship Advice: 5 Questions To Ask Yourself Before Saying “I Do”

By Amy Osmond Cook for Divorce Support Center

In light of John Legend and Chrissy Teigen’s exciting pregnancy announcement, I couldn’t help but take a look at when John knew he was ready to propose. In an interview with Oprah, the gushing celebrity couple gave the inside scoop on their relationship and love and John recounted exactly how he knew it was the right time to propose. Check out the relationship advice below for what questions you should ask yourself to see if you’re ready for your man to put a ring on it and start a life of bliss together.

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Dating Expert Shares Relationship Advice On What To Ask Yourself Before Saying “I Do”

1. Do you love him? First and foremost, it’s important to be honest with yourself and your significant other about your feelings in the relationship. Remember that being in love doesn’t mean you think he is perfect or you never fight. It does mean you’re able to talk openly with him, care about his dreams and ambitions in addition to your own, and feel a deep connection with him emotionally, mentally, physically, and intellectually.

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2. Do you see yourself living with him? After the big ‘I do’ comes getting a new roommate! Do you know if you’re compatible with your man’s living habits? While a dirty sock on the floor is nothing to freak out about, it’s important to notice how he treats his space. It’s best to know this before you move in together so you can talk about living preferences and make any necessary compromises. Also remember that moving in together means you’ll be seeing a lot more of each other. Are you ready to see each other everyday when you wake up and every night when you go to sleep, or does it feel too early in the relationship to take that step?

3. Do you want to spend forever with him? He may feel like the love of your life right now, but do you see him in the picture years down the road? As a dating expert, I know that growth and change are inevitable aspects of life. If you see yourself growing and changing with him, then you’re headed in the right direction! It’s important to talk about where you see yourselves in the future and make sure you want the same things.

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4. Do you want to have kids with him? Asking this question is a great way to decide whether or not you have a future together. Do you want this man to raise your sons and daughters? If you envision him by your side as you play with and teach your children, then you’ve got a good thing going.

5. Does it feel like the right time or do you feel pressured? In the interview with Oprah, John Legend said, “She didn’t pressure me, she didn’t say, you know, it’s time to put a ring on it…I felt like ‘it’s time for us to put a ring on it.’” It’s important that the two of you are thinking about marriage because you both want to get married. If one of you feels unhealthy pressure, whether it’s from you, him, or your parents, then you need to think long and hard about whether it’s something you really want.

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Choosing whom you marry is a big decision. It’s important to feel confident about your choice before you say yes. My relationship advice is to ask yourself these questions inspired by John Legend will help you decide whether to say yes to the love of your life or wait until you’re more sure of your feelings.

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