By Marcelina Hardy
So what is it? Â Why do men look at other women when they have the lady of their dreams standing right beside them? Â Donâ€™t worry ladies. Â Itâ€™s much less heart wrenching than you think, but yes, they still need to quit it.
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Creating Perfection When There Is None
No one is perfect, not even Demi Moore. Â Guys have this wish fulfillment that they can create the perfect woman by piecing them together. Â What they do is look at the huge boobs on one girl and then places it on the tight butt of another. Â Then they take the perfect, long, tight legs of another girl and join it with the flat tummy of another. Â In their minds, pieced together, is the perfect woman. Â They daydream about this with all of their pieces put together.
Something is always missing though, and it never seems quite right. Â This is why: Itâ€™s the one thing that makes them love you for who you are, no matter what you look like – your heart and soul.
See, the images they collect of other woman are just that, images. Â Itâ€™s like taking puzzle pieces, putting them together and seeing a complete image, but they canâ€™t do anything with it. Â They canâ€™t have fun with that, and they arenâ€™t in love with that. Â They arenâ€™t attached to the image, and they just donâ€™t have any sense of belonging and care for it.
Sure, itâ€™s exciting for them to see the â€śperfect womanâ€ť because itâ€™s something they created. Â However, the thrill is gone once they create it and realize itâ€™s not real.
Stopping the Wandering Eyes
Does that give men the right to continue to gawk over other women? Â No, itâ€™s disrespectful to you and to other women.Â The next time your man turns his head, donâ€™t make a big production about it. Â Wait until youâ€™re not emotionally charged about it and then calmly say:
I noticed that you looked over at that woman earlier today. Â I just want to let you know that it upsets me. Â It would make me happy if you wouldnâ€™t do that.
Do not say anything more. Â He will most likely feel defensive about it, but also surprised that you arenâ€™t starting trouble over it. Â Watch his behavior change right before your eyes. Â Soon, heâ€™ll be staring at you and no other women will matter.
Are you having a difficult time communicating with your partner? Â Communication is essential in a healthy relationship. If you need help in your relationship, Marcelina Hardy, MSEd can help. Â She is a relationship coach with 10 years of experience helping people improve their relationships and move on from relationship trauma. Visit her website, Relationship Repair for help.Â