By Lori Zaslow and Jennifer Zucher Project Soulmate

We all want to believe in love at first sight and the fairytale ending, but that’s not always the case. Relationships and love can grow and change with time. From your first hello to saying “I do,” here are four stages you will go through to establish if the person you’re dating is your soulmate.

Follow this expert relationship advice to determine if you’re dating The One!

Attraction/Connection/Infatuation: The first stage of any relationship occurs when you initially meet someone that you’re attracted to and it intrigues you. Whether it was one conversation, a date, or an evening together, after spending time with this person, you want to get to know them better and learn more about them.

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Relationship: The second stage occurs when, after dating and learning more about this person, you want to continue to spend time with them and commit by being in an exclusive relationship. This stage should be bliss! You want to spend as much time as possible with each other, and you begin to introduce each other to your friends and even family.

Open Communication: During this stage, you’re able to argue in a healthy way and have open communication during tough times. Reality begins to set in as your relationship faces difficulties. It can make your partnership stronger, and it’s a great time to establish your core values and see if they are in line with your partner’s values.

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Commitment: Here, you decide to take your relationship to the next level and get engaged. In order to get to this stage, you have to open up to one another, trust each other, and be on the same page when it comes to your values and your future together. At this point, you should know that your partner is, in fact, your soulmate!

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