By Laura Seaman
In the latest celebrity relationship news, reality TV sensation Andi Dorfman has narrowed it down to two men on The Bachelorette. Chris Soules, a farm boy from Iowa, was eliminated after his date in the Dominican Republic. Soules told Dorfman that he loved her, but according to UsMagazine.com, the reality TV star didn’t feel the same way. “I don’t think it’s fair to make you sit here for days and wait for a rose ceremony,” she said. “I just think I’d rather be honest with you and tell you that I’m trying and trying, but it’s not there…”
How can you manage your relationship and love when your feelings are different from your partner’s?
Cupid’s Advice:
It can be extremely awkward when one person’s feelings don’t quite equal their partner’s. If don’t think you’re quite ready for the level of intensity that your partner is, don’t worry. There are plenty of ways to handle this issue in relationships and love, and they don’t involve running in the opposite direction:
1. Be honest, and tell them to be patient: Don’t just let them continue thinking you’re more into them than you really are. It’s letting them believe in a lie, and it’s no better than just outright lying! The further apart your feelings get, the further apart you will grow as a couple, and if you don’t fix it soon, the distance may become too much.
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2. Ask them to double-check their feelings: Some people might want love so desperately that they trick themselves into feeling it when it’s not really there. Make sure you’re not a recipient of these fake feelings, and ask your significant other to really think about what they’re feeling. This could bring them back to your level and give the relationship a more solid foundation.
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3. Take a step back and start from the beginning. If you’ve just been going along with their strong feelings, maybe you’re taking steps you weren’t really ready for. This might mean moving in together, talking about future plans, or just saying things you don’t mean. Ask them to take a step back and start again a few steps back.
How have you gotten on the same page as your partner in your relationship and love? Let us know in the comments below!
