Question from Kelsi W.: I’ve been texting back and forth with a guy I recently met. We’ll be having a good conversation, but occasionally, he won’t respond to something I say. Is it bad to text him again later on about something else, or should I always wait until he texts me back?
Answer from Our Love Experts:
Suzanne Oshima, Matchmaker: In the early stages of dating, it’s a push/pull dynamic, so if you keep trying to pull him towards you, he might start to push you away. If you have a great conversation and he doesn’t respond to something you say, then just leave it be. If you text him again, it may come across as a little desperate, and his response might be to ignore you even further.
Trust me, if a guy likes you and is interested in dating you, he will pursue you and text you. But if you’re doing all the pursuing…then how can you ever really be sure that he’s interested in you?
Robert Manni, Guy’s Guy: Not knowing the context of your texts or how many you’re sending each day, I sense a bit of insecurity here. Unfortunately, texting has replaced real conversation and meaningful dialogue between two potential partners. I’d give the guy a pass if he doesn’t respond to each and every one. He may read them and mentally acknowledge your message before returning to whatever he’s doing. If you feel a need to close the loop on each text, I suggest picking up the phone or meeting him in person.
Don’t take it personally if you find out that not every guy has the time or the desire to text back and forth until closing each thread. That said, you deserve his respect and shouldn’t allow him to blow you off if that’s what he’s doing. But keep in mind that texting is only one part of getting to know someone. A phone call or a glass of wine are great ways to better connect. And wouldn’t you prefer to hear your partner’s voice and see his smiling face rather than read his text message?
Paige Wyatt, Reality Star:Â When it comes to texting, people are often hard to read, especially someone you’ve just met. Try to get a sense of how he feels about you from the texts you do receive. Does he seem enthusiastic and interested in you? Or is it more of a bland, boring conversation?
If he seems really into you, then he’s probably just busy and might to be able to respond. If that’s the case, you should shoot him a sweet and simple text just to say you were thinking of him and ask him to text you when he can. If he isn’t very into the conversation or seems distant, you may want to wait until he texts you again.
Remember that every guy is different when it comes to texting. Some love to talk all day, while others hate it. It’s all a matter of getting to know him and his style of communication.
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