By David Wygant
What does it mean when a guy waits a while to text you back? What if he gives you a short answer to a long question? How can you tell if he’s bored and only texting you because he wants something to do? These are questions that most women have asked at one time or another.
So here are a couple of pointers to decode man-talk in texting. These answers are a simple guideline to help you understand the way that men think and communicate.
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If a guy waits forever to reply back, he’s playing games. He’s basically a guy who’s pretending to be busy, pretending to have other things to do, and he’s making you wait, thinking that’s a way to increase your attraction to him. He’s the type of guy who thinks that you’re going to want him more if he creates a false sense of busyness.
Texting is pretty simple. Most of the time a quick response — something like, “Hey, I’m busy right now and can’t really talk” — is far greater than making somebody wait all day.
If a guy gives you a response that’s short and sweet but doesn’t really answer your question, he isn’t paying attention to who you are and what you’re about. He’s too caught up in himself.
Or maybe you’re texting him at the wrong time or he just doesn’t like to communicate via texting. That’s not such a bad thing. It’s okay to confront him and find out his preferred communication style. We’ve become lazy as a society: sure, texting is quick and easy, but it’s not the only way to stay in touch.
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But how can you tell if a guy’s interested? Not only should he text you back in a timely manner, but he should also make plans to see you soon. A guy who texts back and forth but never asks you out is someone who just likes the attention. He’s not interested in you as a lover; he’s only interested in you as a text buddy.
So if you text a guy on and off for more than three days and he doesn’t ask you out on a date, then you need to stop the texting madness and realize he’s just not that into you.
Texting is fun, but it doesn’t substitute real conversation. Keep the texts short and simple, and make an effort to learn someone’s texting style. When you do those two things, you won’t be freaking out, showing the text to your girlfriends, trying to interpret it. Just pick up the phone and call him. Otherwise, there’s going to be a big miscommunication. When it comes to texting, never read between the lines.
David Wygant is an internationally-renowned dating and relationship coach, author of the new book Naked and speaker. Through his boot camps, personal coaching and his website (davidwygant.com), his advice has transformed the dating lives and relationships of hundreds of thousands of people from every corner of the globe.
