By Emma L. Wells
From day one, The Bachelor season 19 star Chris Soules has said that a relationship and love with him means moving to his (very small) hometown of Arlington, Iowa. After asking potential celebrity love Whitney if she would be able to leave her life in Chicago for him, she gave him exactly the answer he was looking for. According to People.com, she said that, while she loves her job as a nurse, she would have “no hesitation” about moving to Arlington and “having babies” as her career. The Bachelor season 19 frontrunner continued, “I firmly believe that life takes you places, and it’s not where you are; it’s who you’re with.”
The Bachelor season 19 contestant Whitney is willing to move to Iowa for her celebrity love. How do you know if that’s the right decision for your relationship and love?
Cupid’s Advice:
We sometimes fall for people who aren’t perfect for us in a geographic sense. Long-distance dating can’t go on forever, and eventually, you’re left with two choices: break-up or move. Cupid has some dating advice on how to tell what move (no pun intended) is right for you:
1. Consider all the factors: Realty TV star Whitney told her celebrity love that it doesn’t matter where she is because it’s who she’s with that’s important. While there is a lot of truth to her statement, you should examine your specific situation first. Think about what you need in order to be happy; that may include your career, your friends and family, or something as seemingly small as your kickball team or local library. What would you have to give up when you move to be closer to your partner? More importantly, can you live without it?
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2. Look to the future: After you’ve made your mental list of things you can’t live without, ask yourself how that list will change in the next five, ten, or twenty years. Moving might not suit your needs this year, but maybe that’s where you see yourself long-term. In this case, the question changes from “if” to “when.” Tell your significant other that you’re willing to move but need a little more time before you’re ready. If your relationship and love is as important to them as it is to you, then they will understand.
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3. Be on the same page: Make sure you understand why your beau wants you to move; that will ensure that you two have similar expectations. Are their reasons valid? Does it make more sense for you to move to them or vice versa? It’s equally important for them to understand your reasons as well. Having a discussion about how this move will change your relationship is the best place to start.
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