By Laura Seaman
Ciara and Future have split up only three months after their baby, Future Zahir Willburn, was born. Ciara called off the engagement because, as a source told UsMagazine.com, “He cheated on her. Game over.” The two were dating for over a year when Future popped the question on Ciara’s birthday in October, 2013. Their baby was born months later in May. “She’s devastated,” a source says, “Ciara’s focus now is the baby.”
What do you do if you discover your partner is cheating?
Cupid’s Advice:
Cheating is probably one of the worst things that can happen in a relationship. It’s hurtful and disrespectful, leaving one partner to feel blindsided and unwanted. The easiest and usually the smartest way to go about the situation is to end the relationship immediately. After all, if you can’t trust your partner to be faithful, you’re just setting yourself up for a lot of stress and possibly future heartbreak. But before you do that, here are some steps to consider:
1. Talk to your partner about it. Find out the circumstances, how many times it has happened, and why they cheated in the first place. It’s never okay to cheat, but there is a big difference between a partner who drunkenly hooks up with someone one and a partner who has cheated with the same person multiple times behind your back. Knowing all the facts will better prepare you for the next step.
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2. Consider your options. The obvious choice is to end the relationship then and there. However, if ending the relationship would cause you more pain than it’s worth, maybe you should talk about other possibilities. Maybe you should go to counseling, or spend more time with each other to fix your issues. Choose your actions carefully, because a problem this complicated needs a solution that’s been thought through.
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3. Take action. If cheating is an unacceptable, no-exception action for you that leads straight to a break up, do it quickly and don’t draw out the pain. Tell them “it’s over” and explain why. However, if you’re not breaking up with your partner, you still need to make it clear that things need to change and you need to talk about it ASAP. Don’t let this get pushed to the side, because cheating is a big deal and you need to treat it as such.
How have you dealt with a cheating partner? Let us know in the comments!
