Dating Advice from a Seasoned Vet: 4 Reasons to Avoid Matchmakers

By Joshua Pompey

I’ve been in the game of helping men and women find relationships for a long time — almost a decade to be exact. And while I have learned a lot as a dating expert, if there is one fact I’m certain of, it’s that single men and women should steer clear of traditional matchmakers. Why? Well, I could go on for pages with dating advice about this topic, but here are four reasons why I strongly advise that you avoid going down this path.

Dating Expert Shares Why You Should Avoid Matchmakers

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1. They give you false promises: Over the years, I have met a lot of men and women who were promised nothing but wonderful, high-quality matches when they initially contacted their matchmakers. Remember that when something sounds too good to be true, it usually is.

It turns out that it’s a game of bait and switch. More often than not, the quality members you are promised when signing up are suddenly unavailable once you have made your first payment.  That’s when the bait and switch occurs, leading many clients to feel extremely disappointed, frustrated, and scammed.

2. Chemistry can’t be determined on paper: Let’s use online dating as an example. If I were to log on right now, at least 50 percent of the profiles I read would seem like great matches for me. If I were to then meet them in person, the odds of having face-to-face chemistry, let alone everlasting love, fall off a cliff.

Even if matchmakers had other members that seem like great matches on paper, the odds of you hitting it off one-on-one are still very slim. The problem is that most memberships only provide you with a handful of dates (or less), making it extremely unlikely that you will be a success story.

3. There’s a lack of real world success stories: You know how we know that Apple products are great? Because millions of people use them and rave about them. You know how we know that Match.com works? Because there are statistics and studies that show a vast amount of members finding love.

Matchmaking on the other hand? Well, how many couples in your life have actually met through a matchmaker? That says a lot about how relevant the industry is in today’s world.

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4. The cost is high: Matchmakers will do anything to get you on the phone or meet with you in person. I actually know some wealthy men and women who’ve told me that matchmaking recruiters flew overseas just to pitch them because they could smell the money potential. Many of them went through with it due to the excessive flattery, only to regret it later on.

Once these recruiters fill your head with hope and incredible promises, the fees are anywhere from 1,000 dollars to as high as 75,000 dollars, depending on who you use. Even worse, I’ve had clients who told me the highest-priced services are no better than some of the lower-priced services.

At the end of the day, you just have to ask yourself: Does throwing mass sums of money towards a relationship equate to a better chance of success? When it comes to love, the answer is usually no.

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