Question from Adrianne P.: I started dating this guy a few weeks ago, and everything is going great, but there’s one thing that bothers me- he still uses Tinder. I know it’s early in the relationship and I don’t want to seem controlling but I’d still like him to stop. It just doesn’t seem like that’ll help us advance forward in this relationship. Am I being unreasonable?
Dating in the era of social media and cellphones can be difficult. Having many options is something daters expect in case things go wrong. With so many people playing the field it can be hard to find commitment. However do not fret, you can have a successful relationship even if your new partner is still on a dating website. Leave it up to our relationship experts who can offer their best dating advice on using technology the right way. Learn valuable dating tips from Cupid’s very own, matchmaker Suzanne Oshima and relationship expert Robert Manni. Here they’ll answer your questions on whether you should ask your significant other to get off Tinder.
Technology dating advice on whether it’s time to give up dating apps.
Suzanne K. Oshima, Matchmaker: You’ve only been dating him for a few weeks, so you’re still in the early stages of dating where you’re only getting to know each other and determining if you want to take things further with each other. So, it’s a bit premature to ask him to get off of Tinder. However, I do recommend asking him what he’s looking for, as you will then find out if he’s looking to just date around or if he’s looking for a serious relationship. Then based on what he tells you, you can determine if it’s worth it for you to invest your time into seeing how things go with him. And if things continue to progress on the right path, then you can have the conversation about getting off of Tinder at the appropriate time.
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Robert Manni, Guy’s Guy: These days, daters like keeping their options open, and with all of the options available there’s often a disconnect in how two people define a relationship.The only way to find out where things stand is by asking. Cushioning, maintaining side relations and a constant online presence are standard operating procedure. Tinder is generally viewed as a hook-up app, so if your guy is still active there and you want to move your new relationship forward, ask him if he’s open to putting his digital dating presence on hold. If he really digs you, he’ll agree. If he rejects the idea or skirts the subject, at least you’ll have a better idea where he stands. Since you’ve only been dating a few weeks, for now he may want to continue playing the field. That’s not necessarily a deal breaker. Guys often take more time to “get serious.” Regardless, it’s better to find out what his intentions are before investing too much of your heart into the relationship. Good luck.
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